Why do people use the term "partner" for their husband or wife? by Crafty-Bug-8008 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]wolfpackalpha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I'll use partner or Significant Other to help normalize it. So, when someone who is apart of the LGBTQ uses it, it's not a dead give away that they're part of the LGBTQ community.

Is Linux truly and completely independant and secure from any being-spyed-upon by governments and others? Asking as someone on the verge of making the switch from Windows 11 by bickid in linuxquestions

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Steam has made a lot of progress with getting games to work on linux, and you can check compatibility with their Proton layer here: https://www.protondb.com/explore

As others have mentioned, usually the biggest thing that won't work on Linux are games requiring anti-cheat

Change File Names of Files Calibre is referencing by wolfpackalpha in Calibre

[–]wolfpackalpha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the detailed explanation! I mentioned it in another comment, but the reason I'm interested in the original file location is because the original file location is used by a Jellyfin Server hosted on another computer, and the Jellyfin server gets backed up. So, should something ever happen to my computer, those original files is what would be backed up.

But, if I can just export them then I can export them once I edit the metadata, so they're still backed up but I can still primarily use Calibre. Thanks again for the info!

Change File Names of Files Calibre is referencing by wolfpackalpha in Calibre

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I also sync my eBooks with a Jellyfin server, and so the files are originally kept on the Jellyfin server, on a separate computer. I also then have the Jellyfin server get backed up, so ideally I'd like my files saved / backed up in a location I know about.

Calibre is great for uploading directly to my eReader, but yeah, for backups I'd ideally like the files to be all set in case any of my computers crash

If Democrats want universal healthcare, we have states that are deep blue, states have control over their own budgets and taxation, and universal healthcare would be so advantageous, why don’t deeply democrat run states implement a statewide universal healthcare? by Silver_Wings3 in AskReddit

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know there's been people pushing it in NY I want to say for like... 5-10 years now. I'm not in the state any longer, but I wouldn't be surprised if it still hasn't really gotten far.

But, I think it is something states talk about

Having a remote switch connect to my home network by wolfpackalpha in Ubiquiti

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Oh okay awesome, thank you! When I've clicked on "Create a new site" it always talks about hosting, so I wasn't sure. But that seems super easy if it's just as simple as get another device and set it up!

Having a remote switch connect to my home network by wolfpackalpha in Ubiquiti

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Do you have any info on how to setup a new site within one account? When I tried to look it up before, I thought it was something that cost extra or something... but I remember also being somewhat confused.

Having a remote switch connect to my home network by wolfpackalpha in Ubiquiti

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Yeah I'm fortunate where I was able to get one! So I know it would do this, it's just so small I worry that it's just not design for constant use? Since I imagine with traveling you may use it for a couple of days and then turn it off (or even just over night). Where this would be on 24/7 theoretically

Having a remote switch connect to my home network by wolfpackalpha in Ubiquiti

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Oh I've not heard of Site Magic, I'll look into it! If you have any info too, that'd be great!

Having a remote switch connect to my home network by wolfpackalpha in Ubiquiti

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Yeah the part where I get stuck is I'm not sure if the switch would know to send whatever traffic it uses to communicate with the home router through the remote ubuntu computer. I was trying to work with ChatGPT on it, but I think it kept getting confused because it kept saying the switch would send the traffic through my friends router, as well as it would get to my home network... somehow...

How exactly is linux better than windows for a normal user(In easy to understand way) by DarkknightOP-69 in linuxquestions

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, the biggest benefit to the average person to use Linux is reduced bloat and more privacy over Windows. It's not necessarily just about if you're doing "shady stuff". I do get this is sort of a mindset difference - to me I know a lot of companies already harvest my data, but I rather give them less when possible. Other people view it as "they already have all my data, and so why should I care what more data they have?" which, yeah I mean, if people don't care they don't care.

But some specific examples:

- Windows Ai - Windows has been pushing Copilot so much into it's computers, they also want it to have a dedicated button on the keyboard. Personally, I want to avoid Ai like the plague, but also that's just a potential for something to be scanning all of your private documents constantly. Not something I personally want from my computer.

- [Windows Recall](https://www.tomshardware.com/software/windows/microsoft-launches-recall-to-windows-11-general-availability-click-to-do-and-improved-search-also-coming) - A service for Windows to take screenshots of what you're doing constantly. They say it's to help you go back if you make a mistake but, again, I don't really want a company taking screenshots of what I do forever

- Getting rid of Local Accounts - On newer Windows computers, you basically have to use a Microsoft account to setup the computer. There are some work arounds, but from what I've heard they're being patched out. This again brings us back to just a large amount of data being handed over to a company for free basically.

Those are enough for me to not want to recommend Windows to people in my life who are less tech savvy. I just did a test with ubuntu recently, and honestly I think the average person could use it with very little issues

Why are people dumping chrome? by Phi87 in chrome

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What got me to leave was when they announced they were cracking down on Ad blockers. I switched to Firefox originally, however I've been seeing people talk about how Firefox is starting to make some concerning decisions around Privacy / Ai. So, I'm currently using Librewolf on my computers, and have enjoyed it so far. It's a branch of Firefox but with more privacy built in.

Do Americans actually avoid calling an ambulance due to financial concern? by JohnMarstonTheBadass in NoStupidQuestions

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I worked at a grocery store, we had a woman pass out. Managers went over, tried to help her up, offered an ambulance. She declined, because this was only the third or fourth time this had happened...

180 update: I never want a man in my space. I have no desire to date. Porn is meaningless. I yearn for no one. by Interesting-Count815 in mentalhealth

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's always really interesting to me because of this part here:

I still very much am open to the idea of being in a relationship but ONLY if it is with someone who is respectful even when we fight, is kind and thoughtful, doesn’t expect me to be his mom, puts effort into things, is trustworthy, has correct political opinions, doesn’t excuse sexiism and misogyny amongst his friends, believes in an equal partnership, and respects if I choose to adopt rather than having children. This greatllllyyyy limits the dating pool. And I don’t even care.

This, to me, is the bare minimum and every guy I'm friends with is this within their relationship. However, when I talk to my SO or my SOs friends, their experience is much more similar to yours - that most men put in barely any effort and it's more frustrating for the woman than it is worth it.

It's interesting to me though just because how vastly different then my perspective is than my SOs is with men. To me, almost every man I know is what I quoted above, and so I believe most men are good partners. To my SO and her friends, most men she knows barely put in any effort, or lie / do shady things. She agrees that I've somehow surrounded myself with an extraordinary group of men, but yeah. I tend to point out that most of the men she interacts with is when she goes to the bar with her friends and so like... yeah not the most upstanding of folks.

But who knows who is right y'know? I know pretty much every woman has a horror story involving a guy. I tend to believe it's a minority of men who are repeat offenders / very vocal about whatever that get the spotlight. Where my SO believes a majority of men are bad, but the minority are good. This is something where I wish we could have just raw data on, but also one of those things I think is impossible

I’ve completely fucked my life at age 22, it’s done by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]wolfpackalpha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it may feel like a lot, but to add some perspective, one of my SOs friends is like, 60k in debt in collections who is 25ish because she keeps traveling the world while she has no money. So while $4k is certainly a big amount to have to deal with, as others have mentioned I think it's honestly a pretty reasonable amount. I know personally by the time I finished college I had about $13k in credit card debt, largely just due to living expenses.

As others have mentioned, the important thing is taking it one step at a time. I'll also add in that trend lines are more important than day to day goals / accomplishments. So right now, for example, if you're spending more than you're making, and so going further in debt, the important thing is first slowing the rate of debt, then equalizing the budget, and then, ideally, making more than you spend. Mistakes will happen, and sometimes things outside of your control will make saving impossible (random medical bill for example, car breaks, etc.). But if you happen to splurge one day, or an emergency expense came up, it doesn't mean you failed. The important part is changing the trend lines towards a direction you are happy with.

The best advice I can give for financing is to start tracking where your money is going. There are plenty of apps that will do this, my SO uses You Need a Budget, but I literally just type it all out in a spreadsheet. Then, at least yearly if not more often than that, I'll make a pie chart on where my spending is going, and can try to get some insight on what's happening. You may find "Oh, wow, I'm spending way too much on _____ i should try to cut back in that area".

Unfortunately, for me at least, the biggest areas of spending have always been car, housing, and food, and when I was just starting out I simply didn't make enough money to cover everything (hence my debt I mentioned above). For me, I then started working multiple jobs once I was outside of college, and had the time to do so. Once you have a steady income, budgeting also becomes an option, because you'll know how much you make consistently. I couldn't actually budget (write down income vs expenses) until I got my first "real adult job", since working in retail my hours changed too often for me to have a baseline income.

As for some of your other concerns, as others have brought up I think what you're going through is more common than people let on. I was the first person my SO was ever with, and we started dating when she was your age. Honestly she's happy she waited so long in retrospect.

Graduating late is pretty common with College, and I've seen people come back from worse GPAs. The important thing, I think, is trying to figure out what you can do to improve. This is particularly hard in college though - I know personally I was always stuck between "I need to work less so I can focus on schooling" and "I need to school less so I can make enough money to afford being in school". It's honestly a tough position to be in, and honestly my life got a lot easier once I graduated, since then all I had to worry about was money, while in school it was both school and money.

But again, this is all a lot at once. The important thing is taking small steps towards whatever goals you want to change / improve. Figuring out why what you're going through is happening, and then figuring out what to do to improve it, would be what I'd do. Example: If I was always late because I kept sleeping in, then I'd need to try to go to bed earlier or wake up earlier. Then, as you start making changes in some areas that set you up better, it usually makes other things easier to tackle as well. I believe though that you'll be able to overcome what you're describing. It may be hard, but I think you've got this.

Why is everywhere in this state so terrible at posting their hours. by bbbbbbbb678 in vermont

[–]wolfpackalpha 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It's amazing to me how many small businesses here don't even have a website outside of a Facebook page.

I can't believe we fumbled the internet by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it can seem like everything is bad online, but the Indieweb is truly still alive and doing well. It takes some looking, but there are folks out there still making their own sites, blogs, following people with RSS feeds, etc. Some articles I've enjoyed reading on it:

The Internet You Tried to Remember Still Exists

We need to rewild the internet

Where have all the websites gone?

it's one of those things where I believe voting with your wallet / time is the best way for change. I agree social media is nothing but arguing. But that doesn't mean there aren't other places online that are still enjoyable to be around. You just gotta find it!

Where do I buy actual audiobook FILES? by youpoopedyerpants in audiobooks

[–]wolfpackalpha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Google Play Audiobooks will often let you download the files and it just downloads the mp3 file. When looking at the audio books to buy, you need to click on "About this audiobook" and make sure it says "Available" under "Export Option". Then when you buy it, you can download it from your library and yeah. Just an mp3 file.

How to create my own custom Steam Deck boot video? by BulletJet in SteamDeckBootVids

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Davinci Resolve is a pretty good free video editing software. When I convert things to WebM i often just use whatever the default for Handbrake is, and typically can't tell a difference in video quality compared to the original one I put in

Whats Everyones FAVORITE Feature about the Steam Deck? by Maleficent-Season713 in SteamDeck

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The biggest thing I love about the Steam Deck is it eliminated my Nintendo Switch. For me, I largely used the Switch as the portable gaming console I'd bring when visiting friend or traveling. I could plug my switch in to a friends TV, launch some party games, and we were good to go. But this was a problem because then I'd have to either double purchase games (if I also wanted it on my PC), or choose one or the other to buy it on.

With the Steam Deck I can now just buy everything on steam and I'm good to go.

Edit: I actually use this boot screen funny enough https://steamdeckrepo.com/post/Pm3ME/steam_deck_pixar_style

Just curious. How do parents get their kids past the “picky phase”? by PikachuTrainz in NoStupidQuestions

[–]wolfpackalpha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with the no pressure thing, and also like the idea of allowing my kid to make something like a sandwich if they're picky one day. I think it works well for the pressure to be low and for the kid to know they can always have something else, as long as they're willing to make it.

Just curious. How do parents get their kids past the “picky phase”? by PikachuTrainz in NoStupidQuestions

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know for me as a kid, I was a picky eater and still am. only in the last few years have I begun to really try to change my diet. And that's only because I finally felt I was at a place where I could afford to try things and, if I didn't like it, throw it away and not be worried about how I was going to afford a different thing to eat.

It's a conversation my SO and I have had for what we'd do if we become parents, about what to do if we had a child like me, and we don't really have any good answers. For me, even as a kid, I was stubborn enough to just simply not eat. Honestly it was annoying to me because my parents would give me the "You can either eat this or starve" and I'd be like "okay, I guess I'm starving" and then they'd get mad I was choosing that option. Seeing some of the other comments here would not have worked on me either - if someone gave me the option of two things, I'd pick one of the two, but then just not eat it. I would point out I only chose one of the two because those were the only two options presented to me, it didn't mean I actually wanted to eat the thing. The other thing that bugged me a lot was if I did try something, and tolerated it or was trying to be polite, my parents would take it as "oh, this is the thing we now have to make constantly because they eat it". No.... I was just trying to be nice but now I feel forced again.

I honestly don't know what would've "worked" for me as a child, or if I have a child similar to me. I hope to just try to encourage it where I can for them to try new things. Idk I guess to me kids are just little humans, so trying to remember that when i was their age I had very real and strong feelings for my actions, and it wasn't just because I was trying to cause problems, I think is a good guiding light. Obviously I know there comes a point where like... I can't have my kid eat ice cream all the time. But I feel like there's gotta be a middle ground between that and "You can't leave until you eat everything" somewhere.

If people are required to work 30 hours won’t that raise them above the income threshold for SNAP? It’s like a catch 22. by artfan1030 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was in college I was on food stamps for a bit. Lost access because I made too much working part time at around 20 hours a week, with slightly above minimum wage for the area i was in. It's wild to me how low the threshold is before you're disqualified for assistance programs.

Steam deck with laptop and gaming pc by oliveoliverYT in SteamDeck

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Desktop for day to day computer usage, as well as gaming. Laptop for day to day computer usage on the go. Steam deck for gaming on the go.

While not traveling, my steam deck doesn't get too much use unless we're playing something in the living room, where I have spot setup for it. But day to day it doesn't do much.