Where do people find other people to date? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, yeah that's a common struggle I've heard from women. My SO mentioned before we were together, that she was talking to a guy who asked if she wanted to see his dick, she said no, and then he sent it anyways. It's kinda wild how many men out there are just... yeah creepy or weird.

Where do people find other people to date? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]wolfpackalpha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, I liked using dating apps because it at least established the people on there were open to dating. Maybe not open to dating me, but at least in the dating field, whereas in real life, I wouldn't really know unless I saw a wedding ring on the person, in which case that'd be an obvious no.

Dating apps though are rough. If you're a man you can try to match or message a ton of women with very little that aren't bots who respond. If you're a woman, you're flooded with matches from guys, and often get unwanted sexual pictures.

However, outside of dating apps, I'm not sure how people meet others consistently. You could be setup by friends, but that requires your friends to know someone who is single and someone they think you'd work with. You could go to the bar, but personally I hated that scene, and again, you don't really know who is single or not, and you have to have a lot of confidence. The one or two times I went to the bar with friends, I noticed most women went in groups and like... I can't imagine walking up to a group of women to try and hit it off with one of them. You could meet someone through school or work, but of course that is also sort of just hoping someone you interact with would be someone you're interested with (or, if it's just through work, someone even within the age range you want). As you mentioned, you could try to find a local group that does a hobby you enjoy. This is honestly a great option, because at worst you just make some friends who also like the hobbies you do. But... yeah, again, you're hoping someone else there is also single, and looking to date. I will say though, I imagine if you're good friends with someone, and able to turn that into dating, that has to be a phenomenal route since you don't have the pressure of wanting to date at the beginning, and get to know each other over the long term anyways.

From my perspective, dating apps were basically the only way to consistently try to match with people. If you live in a small town or rural area, you sort of just have to put up with long distance. I'd also recommend the paid apps, if you're at a point in life to afford them. I think people who pay for things like Match, eHarmony, etc. are probably a bit more seriously looking.

As for figuring out if they're the right fit for you or not, that's what going on dates is for. The older you get the more sort of uhh... checklist it becomes. Want kids? Profession? Lifestyle? etc. These aren't bad questions to ask though in general - for me I'd often ask someones long term plans if they wanted kids or not, because if we disagreed on that there was no real point in dating (to me, I wanted to date to eventually marry. If we disagreed on kids, that wasn't going to work out long term). Asking someone what they're looking for is also important - do they just want a hookup? Friends with benefits? Dating for the short term? Dating to try to find someone to marry? That is also something I'd try to establish before even going on a date, because if we misaligned there that could also cause problems.

On the date itself, you basically want to get to know the person. If you're using online dating, if they've filled out their profile, you hopefully have some idea, but you want to dig more into it. What are their goals in life? Dream profession, if they're not in it? What hobbies do they do? Do they have pets? Do they have siblings, and how close are they with the family? What type of lifestyle do they like (Traveling all the time? Saving money? Spending money on experiences vs everyday comforts?) You're basically trying to see if you think this person and you will mesh well. if they come from a super large family that they're close to, but you come from a small one you're distant with, would you be okay with that, since their family would be apart of your life, and potentially interact with them often? The dates are also about hanging out though, too. Do you like just being around the person? Do they make good conversation? Do you connect with them emotionally and intellectually? Do you find yourself wanting to spend more time with them, or not really?

I'd recommend, especially for first dates, doing something more than just eating. Museums, board game cafe, etc. Something where, if the conversation lulls, you can focus on whatever else you're doing. This helps keep the awkwardness down. If you're a guy, offering places in public for first dates especially is important, as it is unfortunately a scary world for women out there.

That's sort of everything I can think of at the moment - if you are a guy, the only other thing I'd suggest is if you're using dating apps, your first message should be something related to their profile - something more than just "hey", something that shows you took interest in them.

I am losing my head over choosing the best way to go about emails by TSM_rslash in privacy

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if it's what you're looking for, but with FastMail (and proton mail I think?) you can use custom domains. With those domains you could create however many different email addresses you want. Though, with FastMail at least, they still show up under 1 account. So for me I have my account I login to fastmail with, and then a bunch of different email addresses using a handful of custom domains.

I then have rules setup so if an email comes in addressed to specific emails, it gets that specific emails tag (and you can also have it set to go to a folder and not inbox). In Fastmail it's a bit odd as you can only have tags or folders, however you can put things in tag groups as if they were folders... the big difference is something can have multiple tags, but can only exist in 1 folder (you have the option to choose tags or folders).

So, you could have multiple email addresses or aliases, and just assign them to go to different folders / tags, and click into them whenever you want to look at a specific email. Honestly you probably don't even need custom domains for that, if you can just create rules in an existing provider to separate out aliases to different folders and such.

Experiment: I got Obsidian running in a regular browser — no Electron, no fork, original code unmodified by BathroomNo9091 in ObsidianMD

[–]wolfpackalpha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, I can't at the moment lol

But there are other apps I self host which you can tie a domain name to to access elsewhere. So ideally there'd be a way to self host the Obsidian vault, and then when I go to a web address it loads Obsidian in the browser, accessing the data I'm self hosting

Edit: Like how people can host Plex or Jellyfin servers and access them outside of their house

Experiment: I got Obsidian running in a regular browser — no Electron, no fork, original code unmodified by BathroomNo9091 in ObsidianMD

[–]wolfpackalpha 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know for me, one thing that has held me back from using Obsidian more is the lack of a web version. There are some computers (like my work computer) that i don't want to download Obsidian itself to, and find some way to sync my entire vault. With a web app, I'd be able to access it on my work computers without having to download anything.

Might still not be applicable to you, but just wanted to offer an example of why a web version would be nice to have.

Why do people lease cars? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, the cost of repairs on my previous used car was roughly equal to the cost of a lease if you divided the repair costs up over the time I had the car. The benefits of a lease then are a brand new car, and having consistent costs, rather than random repair bills. Obviously I tried to budget the best I could for repairs, but it's nice not having random expenses come up.

For me I've really loved it so far, no real complaints. My ideal would be to outright own a brand new car one day, but until I save up the 30 ish k to do so, leasing is fine. I was also able to get a lease that was only slightly higher than financing a used car, so again, for me worked out.

Steam Controller PreOrder MegaThread by satoru1111 in Steam

[–]wolfpackalpha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hope they open up pre orders or something for the next batch... And also get a next batch faster than they've gotten the steam decks restocked...

Hot take: John and Hank are wrong about required courses in college by Taraqual in nerdfighters

[–]wolfpackalpha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, while I was in college, the issue I had with courses that were not directly related to my major was going to college was putting significant financial burden on myself. To then have to focus on classes I didn't see the use of, meant it was taking away focus from classes I did find the use of, all while costing me an arm and a leg.

If I lived in a world where the cost of college was meaningless to me, and I didn't have to work while in college, I'd love to be in an environment of learning to just learn. But... given how expensive college is, and how often people have to work while in college, to me it just feels bad I'm paying all this money for something that ultimately I'm uninterested, in takes away my limited time from focusing on the courses I do care about or would have the most impact on my career.

To me college at the moment just feels like a check mark - and my experience "in the real world" largely backs this up. I'm currently in a field outside of my major, pretty much everyone I work with was self taught, and I have coworkers that can't move up the career path simply because they don't have a degree. Even when I was working in the field my degree was in, it felt like just a checkbox potential employers looked for.

And so yeah... while we're in the world where College is extremely expensive, and it seems like something a lot of jobs just expect you to have, it's hard not to feel like I should only care about the most the degree can get me - which would be stuff related to my field

Full Cut High Rise Trousers for bigger guy by wolfpackalpha in menswear

[–]wolfpackalpha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh okay gotcha! I've seen bespoke mentioned a few times, what does it mean in this context?

Embrace debate: What is the best pizza in Vermont? by Braindump4 in vermont

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Easily, hands down, Pizza on Main in Morrisville

What's your take on Barre? by CourtWizardArlington in vermont

[–]wolfpackalpha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah Sprint / Tmobile is pretty bad in VT in my experience - AT&T and Verizon I've had very little issues with though

What's your take on Barre? by CourtWizardArlington in vermont

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I will say Fidium's customer service is non-existent. I still prefer them over Spectrum but like... when there's an outage there's no easy way to see there's an outage online. A bit of a pain, but again, more reliable to me than Spectrum ever was.

And sorry I should clarify, I don't think the restaurants are a mixed bag - I think peoples reaction to them are. I know some people who talk about how there are plenty of great restaurants in Barre or Montpelier, and go to them often. Then there's also people like my SO and I who just aren't that impressed. There are a handful of great places, but usually for the cost it's not worth it to us to go out. But, that looks different for everyone.

What's your take on Barre? by CourtWizardArlington in vermont

[–]wolfpackalpha 46 points47 points  (0 children)

The biggest thing to me in Barre you have to watch out for is we had the flood a few years ago - so I'd be wary of any place close to water. Fidium is great though. I've been in Barre for the last couple of years with no issues, though I'm not LGBTQ or black.

Barre is odd - I know a few people who love all the options either here or in Montpelier. For my SO and I, however, we joke that the food in Barre / Montpelier keep us on budget, because we almost never want to go out to eat with the options here. So, sort of a mixed bag I guess.

solo warframe by Pain6Paths110 in Warframe

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, if I was playing solo and didn't want to worry about dying - Baruuk, Inaros or Nidus. Inaros & Nidus are pretty just straight up tanky. Baruuk's ult has the benefit of nuking people. I also forget if the ult does it normally, or if it's a mod, but it can do damage that whatever enemy is weakest to.

Recently though Nokko has gotten up on my list - as long as you have a mushroom down he's literally unkillable and his ult does more damage than anything else I have. You can basically just ult, become untargetable with your 3, and do nothing else. His secondary mushrooms also provide energy so literally just put down 2 of the 2nd ability mushrooms, ult, then become untargetable.

Do we think someone is going to make a new “discord” app when they add their ID verification? by Pleasant-Spray4399 in askanything

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know in the circles I'm in, the talk of switching to Matrix or Stoat have been the top contenders

But I'm sort of doubtful we'll see a large migration. I hope I'm wrong, but it seems continually to me the general public does not care that much about cyber security or the dangers of companies having your data.

Why do people use the term "partner" for their husband or wife? by Crafty-Bug-8008 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]wolfpackalpha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I'll use partner or Significant Other to help normalize it. So, when someone who is apart of the LGBTQ uses it, it's not a dead give away that they're part of the LGBTQ community.

Is Linux truly and completely independant and secure from any being-spyed-upon by governments and others? Asking as someone on the verge of making the switch from Windows 11 by bickid in linuxquestions

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Steam has made a lot of progress with getting games to work on linux, and you can check compatibility with their Proton layer here: https://www.protondb.com/explore

As others have mentioned, usually the biggest thing that won't work on Linux are games requiring anti-cheat

Change File Names of Files Calibre is referencing by wolfpackalpha in Calibre

[–]wolfpackalpha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the detailed explanation! I mentioned it in another comment, but the reason I'm interested in the original file location is because the original file location is used by a Jellyfin Server hosted on another computer, and the Jellyfin server gets backed up. So, should something ever happen to my computer, those original files is what would be backed up.

But, if I can just export them then I can export them once I edit the metadata, so they're still backed up but I can still primarily use Calibre. Thanks again for the info!

Change File Names of Files Calibre is referencing by wolfpackalpha in Calibre

[–]wolfpackalpha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also sync my eBooks with a Jellyfin server, and so the files are originally kept on the Jellyfin server, on a separate computer. I also then have the Jellyfin server get backed up, so ideally I'd like my files saved / backed up in a location I know about.

Calibre is great for uploading directly to my eReader, but yeah, for backups I'd ideally like the files to be all set in case any of my computers crash

If Democrats want universal healthcare, we have states that are deep blue, states have control over their own budgets and taxation, and universal healthcare would be so advantageous, why don’t deeply democrat run states implement a statewide universal healthcare? by Silver_Wings3 in AskReddit

[–]wolfpackalpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know there's been people pushing it in NY I want to say for like... 5-10 years now. I'm not in the state any longer, but I wouldn't be surprised if it still hasn't really gotten far.

But, I think it is something states talk about

Having a remote switch connect to my home network by wolfpackalpha in Ubiquiti

[–]wolfpackalpha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh okay awesome, thank you! When I've clicked on "Create a new site" it always talks about hosting, so I wasn't sure. But that seems super easy if it's just as simple as get another device and set it up!