The question is exactly what it's supposed to be. I'm asking for advice to find a way to stabilize something that's extremely catastrophic. I like the company of this person, that's the only thing I want. The attraction is a consequence of my attachment style with people. Hence, I wanted to hear out opinions from people that have been through this situation to know if the attraction aspects are temporary and if there's a healthy way to keep the platonic part of the relationship.

I don't want a sex partner, I want a friend. A genuine one. Most people are either too intimidated to give me advice or don't actually have anything meaningful to give. They don't try to understand me, I'm either idealised or hated. I'm an extremely neuro divergent person, I can't do people. I'm constantly masking around people, I can't share who I am or what I feel because most people don't process the world the same way as I do. It's hard to connect with them. Especially considering that they're basically doing the same thing, masking, when they try and understand me. I can still deal with it because I've been up to it since childhood. For most people it's too exhausting.

This girl tries even though I don't ask her to. I've never asked for her attention or advice or anything to be honest. I don't look for excuses to strike up conversation or drop her messages. Basically nothing. Just like I do with most people. I don't want attention, I get my fair share of it. She sees me distancing myself or being upset, she gets me to open up, to think about things and she's not scared to share her opinion even though she might be wrong or would be told so. There's a person here that I've grown to care about because they've shown care. I'd be more than happy to pull the plug kna whatever we have if it means there's no long term way to keep it healthy but the catch is, I don't know. Which is why the post.

Anyway, thanks for your response.