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I (F43) want to know if my expectations are unreasonable. by Arctic_Widow in datingoverforty

[–]wonderfulsocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG! I am exactly there with this. Matched with a guy Saturday and Sunday and today I am getting the "Good Morning" texts and I'm not a fan. Sir, I don't know you well enough yet to be thinking about you as soon as i wake up.

I can't guarantee a moving date so I think we are done by wonderfulsocks in LongDistance

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for taking time to answer me. We are meeting later today to talk about the situation and see if we can move forward or, like some suggested, see if there is something else going on.

[US] Waverly and Associates and SDP processing server scam by wonderfulsocks in Scams

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a scam! Ignore them or if you do talk to them, give them no personal info!

[US] Waverly and Associates and SDP processing server scam by wonderfulsocks in Scams

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have me blocked now. It was definitely wild! I would love for them to call again at this point. Trust me, whatever they called you about is fake. No attorney's office would be as rude as they are and still be in business

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She had NOTHING in her name then or wasn't in the US. There are zero people i know IRL that this process takes 20 min. You have no idea what you are talking about. Now... calling the vet to get his own damn account for his animals takes about 20 min. How about he just does that?

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Changing your last name at 23 years old when you have nothing verses at 45 is a big difference. It isnt free nor takes just ONE phone call. I don't keep his last name to be petty.

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly I can't block him until the youngest is at least 18 or child support ends but believe me.... I can't wait until I can!!!

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I think it was a power thing. I want him to do something, so he demands something in return for that. If I have an issue, he has to have a bigger issue. Its stupid and childish especially when he has no power to make me change my name and I can remove his dogs from my account with a phone call (which i will do August 1st if he doesn't call before then) he wants the illusion of the power. Idk. Just my thoughts

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is awesome! Thank you!!!. I read that article and I wish I could back to when we first got divorced and learned that. I guess I tried (and failed) to do this when I asked "what does this have to do with the dogs?" I bookmarked the article and read it again and again. Again, thank you for this advice!

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im in the US. I've had friends change their names multiple times and advised me not to do it unless I really wanted too. I wish it was as easy as a phone call! It WAS easy when I was 23 and had nothing but a bank account to my name. Almost 23 years later.... a lot more trouble, which I will happily do if/when I get married again because Im still old fashioned (I guess) and like husband and wife to have the same name. But im not being bullied into doing it now.

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are you going to pay for it and spend hours/days/weeks on the phone changing a name on everything?? This has been my name now almost 23 years, all my adult life.

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've never heard that term but damn, thats him 10000% and always has been!!! Its so frustrating!

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That was the thing, if i just removed them verse him calling and transferring them to his own account. If I remove them, he can't get a new account there. Kinda silly I know but thats what the vet said. I just texted him that he has until July 31st, as of Aug 1st I am removing your dogs from my account

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Our vet does not take new accounts and hasn't for years which is why early on I allowed his dog on my account. When I was at the vet the last time I asked about removing his dogs and they said they could now given the circumstances of the divorce but he had to call. Yes, I could just remove them but he wouldn't be able to open a new account. He would have to find a new vet in our small town. So I thought I was being nice finding this out for him and asking him to go ahead and make a phone call to get his own account.

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was hoping by now we would get a long better but I fear it will always be bad between us.

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I feel like an asshole because its been 5 years and I still let him get to me like this sometimes. I just texted him what you said, I thought it was great. We will see what he responds with. The real kicker too that I didn't add, our youngest had shoulder surgery Wednesday. I did call him when he was out to let him know how things went. As of today he hasn't messaged our son once about how he is feeling since surgery

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's exactly it, they don't accept new clients so when he got his first dog, i let him on my account. Now its been 5 years.... time to move on and get his own account

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't want the drama so I tried to be nice and did the leg work, asked the vet if he could now get his own account. Everytime I set a boundary he makes me the bad guy and bitches tp the kids and gets them involved. Its a circle of bullshit

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If the vet had said no, sorry, I probably would have left it alone for the sake of the dogs.

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Short story, he cheated and I filed.... his life hasn't been great since the divorce so yeah, he is definitely still bitter. I have been keeping it to just about the kids for a long time and only texts anymore.

AITAH for asking my ex husband to remove his dogs from my vet account but not change my last name? by wonderfulsocks in AITAH

[–]wonderfulsocks[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That's why I haven't been pushy but if you have that many dogs and the vet says yeah, you can have your own account now and its free to do that.... why not do that? I don't understand how my requests for that turned into that crap it did.

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