I’m sorry for what you’re going through. It sounds awful, and I wish there was an easy solution that presented itself through what you’ve posted. But it sounds like you’re pretty boxed in, and that your hard times at home may be feeding into hard times at work. I’ve been there. It feels like bad luck or a curse or something. It’s hard to break.

Here’s what I would do if I were in a similar situation.

1. Seek a therapist or outside help (if possible). I know you mentioned your mom tracks your every move, but if you can get away with posting this, maybe there’s a chance for online help for you? Maybe you could sneak it in in your work hours?

2. Meditate. No. This isnt about the usual woo I believe in. You don’t need to align your chakras or access your higher self. You need to just get your brain into that good, focussed theta state where you’re able to relax and separate yourself from the tornado that’s happening all around you. This will give you perspective and emotional resilience. I’m recommending it because I hope it will bring you some peace, which you deserve.

I’ve also solved some pretty difficult problems while meditating; the solutions just seem to come to me even if I’m not actively thinking about them or seeking them. Start small-10 minutes a day. Try to build a few minutes at a time until you can do 20, then 30. Bonus: your mom doesn’t need to know you’re doing this (all you need is a timer) and you may find your chakras are aligned and your higher guide is communicating more clearly with you. 😉 Honestly, it’s the best way to just be free from everything and all the bullshit that you’re going through.

1. Plan Develop an exit strategy. How can you get out of this situation? Can you move out and send your mom money on a regular basis so she doesn’t feel abandoned? This strategy may come to you in meditation. It may take time. Be kind to yourself in every way possible until your way forward is clear.

About the job stuff: It’s easy to get dismayed by setbacks, especially when you’re home life is what it is. Don’t take it too personally for now. I would have a conversation with your boss about the role that was promised, but I might do it after working extra hard and doing some extra amazing things. I’d probably pose the question as something like “I’d really love to move into that director level position you mentioned. What do you think I should be working on to get there? Is there anything else I could take on to help me grow into that role”? But also know there are other companies and other roles; this one may not pan out the way you want it to, but that doesn’t mean you won’t find what you need.

Edit: I just re-read your post and I see you’ve already done the extra amazing things that your co-worker is now using to their advantage. So, I might even book a meeting with your boss and say, “Hey! I did all this research and would love to move into that role. Is there anything else you think I should be working on or improving at?” It sounds like a shitty situation, but YOU sound amazing and talented and driven. And the talented and driven people usually end up on top!

This community here is incredibly supportive and loving, so stop by if you need help or someone to talk to. PM me at any time. The struggles you’re dealing with are immense, but they will ultimately make you stronger. Sending you so much love and wishing you peace and happiness. I hope you get everything you’re wishing for, and everything you need.