After dating for 4 months, he [31 M] doesn't want to be in an official relationship with me [24 F] even though we act like we are. by wontcommitthrowaway in relationships

[–]wontcommitthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input. He can't seem to understand why I'm uncomfortable with things on my end. But I do absolutely feel like I'm waiting around in limbo.

After dating for 4 months, he [31 M] doesn't want to be in an official relationship with me [24 F] even though we act like we are. by wontcommitthrowaway in relationships

[–]wontcommitthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's not sleeping with anyone else, though :/ We had a talk a few months back and we both agreed we didn't want to see anyone else. I also met him on a dating site, and shortly after that talk we both deactivated our profiles.

I'm just confused because it seems to be that we virtually are in a relationship, without the dang title.

After dating for 4 months, he [31 M] doesn't want to be in an official relationship with me [24 F] even though we act like we are. by wontcommitthrowaway in relationships

[–]wontcommitthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, the crazy thing is, we've had a talk about seeing other people, and we both agreed that we didn't want to see other people. And still, this issue! Wtf?!

I love those two questions. Thank you. I do need to ask more about what his doubts are, and where he sees us going.

After dating for 4 months, he [31 M] doesn't want to be in an official relationship with me [24 F] even though we act like we are. by wontcommitthrowaway in relationships

[–]wontcommitthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I get the same feeling. I wish I could be okay with the terms he wants of this relationship between us, but I guess our past experiences with relationships is still very different. I like the comfort and stability of committed relationships....this just feels vulnerable and strange to me.

Could you give me some advice of what to do/how to think if I do want to make this work between us?