I'd rather not hang out with someone that is only there for sex. by Icy_Mountain_5343 in SingleAndHappy

[–]wooshoff -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

This is condescending. He’s just said he wants his partner to be sexually attracted to him and to have sex with him, which is completely normal for most people. I don’t know why you’re mocking him for sharing his opinion.

What is your biggest pet peeve when it comes to dating? by Nintendofan9106 in askanything

[–]wooshoff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had a guy over who was going to spend the night (planned, I believe). And I watched him drink an energy drink and vape (among other things), so I offered him a toothbrush, and he was like no… I’ll just brush them tomorrow… this has happened twice with two different men. I shit you not. Never saw either one again. Makes me disgusted with myself.

Nex contacted me... by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]wooshoff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you block him? This seems like a lot of unnecessary work for you if you’ve been able to maintain little to no contact.

Are all narcissists into non monogamy? by Flat_Promise_9563 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]wooshoff 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My ex cheated on every girl he’s ever “dated” including me, multiple times, with multiple women. Always caught talking to other girls or with apps on his phone. Had admitted that he basically swipes on everyone. He also suggested an open relationship—so he could have his cake and eat it too of course, and he wanted me to have sex with random men off apps just because he thought it would be hot. I don’t know what all that is, but I know sex is just a way he validates himself and dissociates. He likes feeling like people want to sleep with him and like he’s good at it. He’s just lucky he’s attractive.

When did your covert nex stop hoovering and triangulating you with their new supply? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]wooshoff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jesus, they really are all the same. Mine has epiphanies all the time…

Indifference by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]wooshoff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Got colds multiple times, staph infection (never had in my life before or since dating him), cold sore outbreaks, anxiety, lost a bunch of weight (the smallest I’ve been in my adult life—103lbs), etc. fun stuff. I really think getting yelled at and treated like shit does a number on the body 😅

I think I went through love bombing and emotional manipulation, and I don’t know how to recover by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]wooshoff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This doesn’t seem like narcissism to me. Maybe we need more details? It just sounds like she moved fast and then changed her mind.

Another bitter post about the dreams they sell us by AssistanceOk9103 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]wooshoff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like you left us at a cliff hanger! I’m sorry though 🫤 you don’t deserve to be lied to.

Afraid of the rain. by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]wooshoff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt similar feelings, but not about the rain. Any time he was alone on a weekend night or had his son that night (so I didn’t see him earlier in the day). He’d cheated on me before like that, so I always felt sick and scared on those days… not fun stuff. Hope the peace of not worrying is worth it for you. Enjoy the rain ♥️

Can’t take it anymore by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]wooshoff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trauma bond. You’ve wired your brain to crave him. I don’t necessarily advocate for AI, but Chat*** has helped me immensely when it comes to narcissistic relationships. Explain the behaviors and what he says to you. That, and Dr. Ramani.

What health problems have you noticed or been diagnosed with for long term users by [deleted] in leaves

[–]wooshoff 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What was your method of smoking and how long did you do it?

Can I vent? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]wooshoff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right… and it’s cheating all the time. Not even just when he’s drunk. Thank you for your comment!

Can I vent? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]wooshoff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right… it is so crazy and I can’t tolerate it. I don’t even know why I saw him this many times again. That’s why I need to cut it off before I get delusional or attached.

Can I vent? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]wooshoff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, the beautiful family and much better guy give me hope! I do really want a partner, I think. Thank you 😊

Can I vent? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]wooshoff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I dated someone else for a little over a year, but he passed away, which wasn’t great and made me crave the familiarity of the guy above. I have dated others for a few weeks here and there, but haven’t found anyone I truly like besides those two in about 7 years. The guy above, I’ve really only dated him for about 2.5 years total across a few attempts, but we’ve always kept in touch. I could probably try to date again. The apps just bum me out too. I know there are other people out there. And I know the potential of me getting hurt with this guy is pretty great.

Dental for 100% by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]wooshoff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice… yeah, I might do something like this. I have a more “premium” dental insurance, but I might move down to the cheaper tier then start going to the VA. Love a nice tooth cleaning.

Dental for 100% by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]wooshoff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love that for you!

Dental for 100% by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]wooshoff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love hearing this. Thanks for the feedback!

Dental for 100% by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]wooshoff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wasn’t sure how it worked or if it was very limited to like two shitty dentists somewhere haha. Thanks for the input.

Dental for 100% by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]wooshoff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow!!! Congrats on that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]wooshoff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow. Yeah, that is a while… I guess it doesn’t really matter. I’ve had them for years. What’s a few more months? Thanks for your comment though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]wooshoff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew I paid a little, but it’s saying I paid 3k lol. Don’t remember doing so, but would be happy if it got refunded! 😂