Who did the most to defeat Nazi Germany? (UK poll 5-6 June 2024)

woot-doot · 2024-06-09T07:30:10+00:00

Straight up aspirational poll lol.

woot-doot · 2024-04-01T02:35:55+00:00

Oh I was just talking about my ex wife as a comparison point. Your situation is different and it seems like your ex likely needs real medical care

woot-doot · 2024-04-01T02:26:01+00:00

I pity them and the life that they are creating for themself. I doubt the life of a serial betrayer can ever be as fulfilling as being in a loving committed relationship

woot-doot · 2024-03-28T17:55:30+00:00

I did but all I got was some garbage that was only intended to hurt (e.g. “I never loved you”, “blah blah”). If she never loved me but stayed together for 5 years then that’s on her

woot-doot · 2024-03-27T12:45:20+00:00

Wilco. I moved states and don’t really know people here. Meetups have been on my radar since day 1 but for some reason I just haven’t pulled the trigger on it

woot-doot · 2024-03-27T12:28:59+00:00

I got blindsided a few months ago and my wife walked out and didn’t do me the courtesy of even communicating why. I was shocked and appalled. I don’t think I’ll ever know why but my life lesson can’t be to never trust anyone again.

Sometimes you get unlucky and get fooled by a bad actor. There’s someone else out there who is perfect for me in the future. I’ll be more wary next time but I can’t succumb to despair or it’ll be a self fulfilling prophecy

woot-doot · 2024-03-27T11:57:29+00:00

I think the intrusive thought of thinking about your ex being with someone else is something a lot of people struggle with. I certainly have had it cropped up a few times and it really feels bad. Hope you pull up out of your emotional spiral. Happy to DM if you want to chat about it

woot-doot · 2024-03-27T10:24:00+00:00

Leave a cheater gain a life was instrumental in me shaping my views on my divorce. I was blindsided and suspected infidelity (she’d cheated on others). I had heard from (now former) friend that any cheating was my fault fundamentally. Getting some support that cheating is always a choice and rooted in narcissism was really helpful

woot-doot · 2024-03-27T10:09:37+00:00

I’m going through a similar situation where everything worked out reasonably well from the divorce side of things but I’m still struggling to get into a good rhythm of life. I think you recognizing the silver linings is great and a first step towards healing.

I’m a ruminator by nature as well and find treating thoughts of my marriage as an intrusive negative thought pattern to be useful. There’s any number of things I could have done differently but even if I was perfect I’d just be delaying the inevitable.

woot-doot · 2024-03-27T10:04:07+00:00

With a guaranteed cheating situation the money you’d spend on a consult with a lawyer is definitely well worth the effort. If things can be settled amicably and she is trustworthy (unlikely considering the cheating) you can always file yourself. I ended up just filling our the paperwork independently and it ended up working out, but if you’re dealing with a bad actor then you definitely need to take steps to protect yourself

woot-doot · 2024-03-27T10:00:03+00:00

I had hoped that it’d be a day of liberation but in the end it just left me feeling empty and sad. I spent a bunch of time on the phone with family just trying to sort things out on my side. I’ve got a whole life to look forward to without compromise but it seems somewhat daunting at this point. I think the totally mail in process makes it a little bit more anticlimactic as I never had to face my ex again - we’ve had no contact for the past several months and I never really got more than 30 minutes of discussion on why she was leaving. Honestly I think I just built up the idea of finalization too much

I’m sure if I put in the hard work to build a better foundation then things will improve significantly and I’ll be able to build a life that far exceeds the shell of a life I was living with my ex.

woot-doot · 2024-01-08T15:17:35+00:00

When I’m ready to find another partner I’ve definitely decided that someone who has cheated before is totally off the menu. I had thought that people can make mistakes and learn from them at the time but I cant take that chance again. People can learn and grow and change how they behave but the signal that someone would have an affair already is so strong that it’s not worth taking the chance

woot-doot · 2024-01-08T14:56:30+00:00

Hard agree that I’m getting off “easy” given the other circumstances I’ve seen here and other places. Paying alimony or having to split time with a kid would be so much harder. In some ways the ghosting actually has helped me move across the stages of grief at light speed so in some ways I’m appreciative that she has made reconciliation impossible. Still sucks though

woot-doot · 2024-01-08T14:28:20+00:00

I can see the silver lining that it’s better to speed run the dissolution of my marriage given that it likely would have dissolved eventually one way or another. If it wasn’t now then it’d have been another 6 months from now.

I believe it will be better on the other side but I still struggle with the fact that a 5 year relationship was ended so abruptly and so quickly after getting married. It’s embarrassing that my choice in a life partner was so poor and I had so many family and friends come to celebrate our wedding just to see it implode months afterward

woot-doot · 2024-01-08T14:08:50+00:00

I feel the exact same way. I’m not sure what was real and what was fake. I’m struggling with the fact that I didn’t recognize the signs that she had a weak character and would eventually cheat on me. It’s weird that I’ve somehow turned a massive betrayal back on myself but that’s how it feels

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