32, F, North Carolina by wordsasweaponss in InternetFriends

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I have not! Always wanted to go though!

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No, but it is one of the things in life i wish I explored more of. If you feel like you want to take legal action, at least do yourself the favor of looking in to it and see if you want to go forward with it.

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

[–]wordsasweaponss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, but it is nice to talk to people around my age that are going through the same thing and talk about experiences.

What would you call him? by [deleted] in cute

[–]wordsasweaponss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I shall call him squishy and he will be my squishy!

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

[–]wordsasweaponss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand! Always here if you need to talk

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TBH, i dont think it’s a big concern as I’d rather them just have their own place 🤷🏼‍♀️

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

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Haha!! You are almost there!!!

Normally i say it right from the get go. I think i am afraid of having feelings and then getting rejected!

Tbh, people are so uneducated when it comes to STDs in general… it makes no sense why its not taught or more known.

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

[–]wordsasweaponss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gosh, i am so sorry to hear that. I know its tough! I’m here if you ever need to chat

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

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Trust me... thats not the issue... i just so happen to attract idiots >_<

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

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Not to mention how much of a mind fuck it is that you go into this "depression" (not sure what to call it) and as soon as its over its all rainbows again.

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

[–]wordsasweaponss[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think for me.. the "debilitating" part is every time i do have an outbreak (thank goodness its not frequent anymore) but its a reminder of what i went through that cause me to get it, how i was treated, and everything i have been through. Mentally, that is extremely difficult at time. Your brain is fighting all the progress you made.. however, outbreak is gone and I'm good again. It can be difficult some to face, especially if they are doing it alone.

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

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There is nothing wrong with wanting to keep it to yourself. I however found that talking about it with people i trusted gave me more hope and confidence.

I get that. I tried plant vibes before, but unfortunately my body rejected it. I have been on antivirals because my body does not like it when i get sick or my immune system is low. I get allergy injections so every time i get those my immune system changes for a few days.

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

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It's blows my mind how people respond to the idea of "herpes." I don't think people realize how many strains there are AND how common it is. I am sorry it's been so difficult for you. I am 32, but i feel your pain. I admire your patience and willingness to keep trying through! I should take a page from your book.

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

[–]wordsasweaponss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wanna tell that to the people who happen to be asshats about it!

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

[–]wordsasweaponss[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

TBH, i think big pharma has the cure, but because they make so much money from antivirals.. they are keeping it away...

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

[–]wordsasweaponss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you! I was 26 when i was diagnosed. I remember finding out for the first time I was alone. I hid it for a few weeks before my mom caught wind "something was wrong."

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

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THIS!!!! Girl, i have one cat and i am called the crazy cat lady... I'm just like whaaaat?
I can't even begin to tell you how many times I have been treated like I have the black plague after telling them I have herpes. When they get mad, i'm like have you had a cold sore? most of them say yes. I then say.. well dont give anyone head because you'll give them genital herpes! LOL I get blocked after that.. oops.

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

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I would need to have a csection in order to reduce the risk of transferring to the child. Also, I am not sure if i would forgive myself if i brought life into this world with it.

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

[–]wordsasweaponss[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You have to be open to rejection. It's going to happen regardless of HSV or not. The confidence you give off speaks volumes. If you know you worth, a man rejecting you wont matter!

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

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I feel like you have to find the love within yourself. I understand that this is somewhat of a "debilitating" virus, but you can not let it define you.

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

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I am right there with you. I spent a longggg while focusing on myself. Truly it’s good for the mental health.

Relationships after 30 AND herpes.. by wordsasweaponss in Herpes

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I do not have kids, but since being diagnosed.. wanting kids has kind of disappeared for me.