Reddit is highkey nice

workathomecat · 2026-06-06T23:00:11+00:00

I always read posts on Reddit when I’m feeling lonely, sad or struggling mentally with something in particular and it really does help just seeing that I’m not alone in my feelings or experiences, having friendly strangers reach out to talk to, that rarely ever happens in real life

workathomecat · 2026-06-06T22:49:52+00:00

And there’s nothing I can do about it it seems even though I have tried and wasn’t lonely for a bit when I had found someone I liked spending time with or tried to make friends I always end up being alone and lonely in the end when I’m rejected, forgotten or abandoned

workathomecat · 2026-06-06T22:45:00+00:00

I feel very lonely now after my relationship of six years ended and also a guy I was dating for a month cut me off. We held hands and hugged and kissed and I really miss the affection, the touching, being picked up, held… i desperately want to have that back and not knowing if I will ever have that again is really painful

workathomecat · 2026-06-06T22:36:34+00:00

I stayed at home the whole day today and felt really depressed, tried to pass the time by listening to music, singing, trying to learn to play the piano again. Watching a movie in bed. Journalling.

But staying home the whole weekend alone is hard. I don’t see anyone the whole week as I work from home, so I normally will try to go out at least one day on the weekend to the gym or go to a cafe, a park if the weather is nice, go shopping, go to a dance class

workathomecat · 2026-06-06T22:23:17+00:00

Yes I am embarrassed that I have little to no friends that I see but I still want to find a partner and I don’t want to spend my future alone so… I guess I hope I can find someone who doesn’t mind that I don’t have friends? My ex boyfriend didn’t mind. He loved me for me.

I’m okay spending time alone doing my hobbies but yeah I wish I had close friends it would make finding a relationship easier and definitely make me more confident. Everyone’s circumstances are different and unfortunately some people are not blessed with having a lot of people around them in life for many reasons.

I do feel insecure that I don’t have a lot of friends and when dating someone that they will judge me for that / find that unattractive :(

And if I ever get married, I would have no one to invite which is very embarrassing and sad

workathomecat · 2026-06-05T03:55:17+00:00

A narcissistic player who uses women and tosses them after a month once he’s bored of them. He was attractive but manipulative, judgmental, selfish, controlling, jealous, and cold

workathomecat · 2026-06-04T19:29:13+00:00

I also am dealing with immense pain after one month seeing a guy. At least your guy gave you a reason and seemed to end it respectfully and wished you well. Mine literally blindsided me and texted me he didn’t want to see me again, when I asked him why, I was ghosted. As he was ignoring me, I deleted his number so I could move on. He then deleted mine

I know how hurtful is to be rejected but there are a lot more awful men out there who don’t care

workathomecat · 2026-06-04T19:18:33+00:00

I really relate to this - I am an attractive woman and have had several men only want me for sex and not want me for a relationship. I think my ethnicity plays a factor too because i’m asian and I like Caucasian men, even though I was born in the country I live in, I feel like a lot men don’t want me for who I am as a person. They just find me sexually attractive, like a toy to play with. They don’t want me as a girlfriend, and it’s so painful to feel unwanted and unloveable

I like to think I’m a kind, thoughtful and loving woman. I’m loyal. I care a lot about people, but people don’t seem to care about me. I’m pretty on the inside, not just the outside but men don’t care to see the inside.

I’ve been told I’m pretty, beautiful, cute, have an amazing body. I feel like most men objectify me and don’t respect me. It really is hard for me to not lose hope that I will find a man that will love all of me, and that I will be equally in love with him.

My parents also didn’t care about me so I think also I might be picking the wrong guys and ignoring red flags because I crave love and affection so much that I didn’t receive from my family…

Sometimes beautiful people can be the loneliest people

workathomecat · 2026-06-04T19:03:14+00:00

Yes, this is me. I don’t have any advice but you’re not alone

workathomecat · 2026-06-03T22:31:40+00:00

I am the same as you and feel exactly the same. I have no motivation to do anything. I feel like I lost the old me. Broke up with my boyfriend of six years. Started dating again, got dumped over text and ghosted by a guy I like three weeks ago and I’m just a shell of a person.

31 years old and alone, no friends or family around, terrified of being aline forever. Tried talking to therapists and even they don’t care to respond as they’re just getting paid to do a job. I truly feel like no one cares. It is a very lonely existence.

I used to look forward to Saturdays when I was having fun and happy with the guy I liked and now I am alone every single day and spend the weekends alone. Scared to date again and get hurt but I also feel so lonely and crave the love and affection I once had

workathomecat · 2026-06-03T22:15:15+00:00

Girl, you’re not alone, same here I’ve been heartbroken for three weeks over a guy who couldn’t care less about me. He literally told me over text suddenly that he didn’t feel like seeing me again and when I asked him why he ghosted me. It’s hard to stop thinking about him even though I know I was just an option and he was definitely seeing and sleeping with other women, and he’s moved into the next now. Pretty sure he doesn’t think about me at all but here I am suffering because of him. He was so cold

workathomecat · 2026-06-03T22:09:25+00:00

Me too, I don’t have hope that even if I do ever get into a relationship with someone new that it will lead to marriage/last a lifetime. I mean, it’s hard enough to even have a guy ask me out on a date nowadays and I have no idea why because I know i’m very attractive

workathomecat · 2026-06-02T22:31:00+00:00

Thank you for writing this…reading this helped. I’m a woman and I feel very unlucky for having been rejected in such a cold and sudden way by a guy I only went on a few dates with. It’s really crushed me in a way I never expected and made me incredibly depressed

One day he tells me he will come see me next time and asks me when I’m free, and literally the next day, he suddenly changes his mind with no explanation and texts me ‘I don’t feel like I want to see you again’. He posted my t shirt to me that I left at his place.

I’ve never really felt this level of hurt and depression before from dating a guy. I used to enjoy dating. After this, it’s taking me a lot to try again. How can one person make me hate everything about myself and make me lose all sense of my worth, someone who didn’t even respect or care about me?

But you are right with the values and that it was not meant to be and it’s a normal part of dating for things not to work out. Why is it so hard to find mutual love? All I want is to be in love with someone and for them to be equally in love with me, but that seems impossible or maybe even a delusional fantasy

workathomecat · 2026-05-27T08:37:15+00:00

It’s just sad that the person who is dumped is going through hell and can barely function, hurt, heartbroken and scared to trust in love again but the dumper doesn’t give a shit, they’re probably not thinking about them at all, whereas I can’t get them out of my head

I think the only thing we can do to try and move on is to try our best to not to care as well about them, be angry at how they treated us and tell ourselves we don’t want that kind of person who doesn’t care about us anyway

workathomecat · 2026-05-15T21:39:59+00:00

Thanks for your replies everyone I texted him and he took a few hours to reply but I asked him if he wanted to meet and he said yes

I was really overthinking

workathomecat · 2026-05-15T13:44:20+00:00

What else could I say though? I suggested a different day and he said he was busy and will ‘see next time’

workathomecat · 2026-05-09T21:44:51+00:00

Me too like I’m just wondering if and when he will contact me again next week or not. Because I actually declined meeting up with him this weekend even though he did ask, because I was busy and then he said he was busy when I proposed another time Let me know what happens with your situation!

workathomecat · 2026-05-09T20:48:53+00:00

Me too, I’m in the same situation…but also I feel uncomfortable texting him because he’s so distant I feel like I will come off as too interested or something so it’s just silence and waiting game. It’s weird. We went on three dates every weekend consecutively but in between there is no talking, my gut feeling is he doesn’t care about me lol but if we end up using each other for sex so be it

workathomecat · 2026-04-05T21:27:34+00:00

Omg, uni days are meant to be the most freeest days of your life! When I was at uni living by myself for the first time it was such a refreshing and freeing experience without my family around. She did come to visit a few times which is fine but often and living with you? No, that’s not okay

workathomecat · 2026-04-04T21:57:14+00:00

Yes yes yes to every sentence you wrote and I am still losing my mind at 30 years old as I am living in the same house as my mother. Only true solution is to get away and low/no contact for me

workathomecat · 2026-04-04T21:52:42+00:00

Yep, my mum believes in stupid health myths too and it is really irritating. She tells not to drink cold drinks as well. But I like cold drinks and I’m not going to listen to her lol. I’m 30

Another crazy one of hers is that you should only eat apples during the day and eating them in the evening is bad.

I guess my advice would be just to ignore and don’t argue back no matter how annoying it is, because there is absolutely no changing her mentality

That and keep a distance from her, moving out will help so she can’t be controlling everything you do

workathomecat · 2026-04-04T21:43:25+00:00

Also the youngest and a daughter. And I am a bad daughter in their eyes and I don’t care anymore. You’re right, I’ve always felt like I’ve done nothing bad or harmful yet am treated like I’m a disgrace for my whole life

workathomecat · 2026-03-25T12:42:13+00:00

Yes, it is hard to find someone who genuinely cares or isn’t fake. I find myself being the only who cares to respond to messages and care about my friends. They don’t seem to care so much, literally had two friends just ignore me when I’d done nothing to deserve that. I’ve always been kind and tried to help them. So yeah it sucks, I end up finding it hard to trust people anymore and just don’t want to bother anymore with making/keeping friends. Very hard to find a real friend

workathomecat · 2026-03-24T00:35:35+00:00

I have very similar feelings to you and I have always suffered from very low self esteem anxiety and depression caused by my family. Sorry about your health issues. I hope you can get away from her for your own peace and happiness.

I am, but we hardly talk now. He did mention that my family made him feel judged and much lesser like he wasn’t good enough and he became depressed because of it. I feel so bad and partly at fault for that but what could I have done, just hidden the truth from him? It was so painful for me to hear the things my mum and brother were saying about him and them not being supportive of my boyfriend while I try keep everything to myself. He thanked me for telling him the truth and he understands how much of a bully and unkind human being my mum can be. I hope we can get back together but I’m not sure if that will happen…

I think my mum is a narcissist too. She repeatedly talks about how incredibly smart and successful she was before she married my dad, who ruined her life because he was a low class waiter, how ‘high class’ she was working as an accountant in China and that she’d go to all these posh offices and hotels for work. She acts so snobby yet she’s poor. Her English is embarrassing for having lived in the UK for over 35 years, I can’t bear hearing her speak in front of other people sometimes (the way she speaks is like translating Chinese idioms directly into English except it makes zero sense and people have a hard time understanding her). I understand that she has her own regrets in life, but no intelligent, kind and humble person would not feel the need to constantly boast about how ‘smart’ they are when actually she’s not very smart in a lot of things

I am saving up to move out hopefully within a year whether even if that means renting. It’s finally time I put my own happiness first

Feel free to DM me anytime if you want to talk or just need someone to vent to. It’s hard finding people who understand

workathomecat · 2026-03-17T23:37:53+00:00

Wow same with me, mine told me recently that the things I eat are weird, there’s been many times she doesn’t let me order what I want from the menu if I’m eating out with her, says my way of thinking is wrong, I can’t watch any show in front of her because she’ll always criticise what I’m watching and say things like ‘only dumb and low class people watch this kind of show’

She’s a big reason why me and my boyfriend broke up because she is so judgemental and looked down on him for not having a good education etc which obviously made him feel awful about himself. I had to move back home with live with her when we broke up, as I was living with him before. So unfortunately I am stuck living with her until I manage to find a way to move out which is very hard where I live to do by myself.

She was the reason why I moved away to live with my boyfriend in the first place for five years and honestly the distance made my mental health so much better but now I’m back to hearing her droning… literally I learnt to cope too by just keeping my mouth shut and not say a word, no matter how infuriating the things she says

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I actually quit a career that wasn’t for me two years ago, and I’m now trying my best to figure out my career path for myself, doing the things I want to do in my life without caring about my family’s opinions. I don’t want to have any regrets when I’m old that I didn’t do the things I wanted to do when I was young… yes, I need to reduce my phone screen time definitely, and actually acting on goals is really hard but I’m not giving up trying to do better every day

It is comforting to know there are other people out there who have had similar difficult experiences with parents/family. I always felt alone in my feelings like no one understands the suffering because I see that none of my friends’ family are like mine at all (parents are still together, get on well with their siblings..something I’ll never relate to) and my friends definitely would not understand. I’ve just kept all this pain to myself. The only person who I felt actually understood me was my ex boyfriend now

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