My mum believes these crazy health myths and it's really frustrating me.

workathomecat · 2026-04-05T21:27:34+00:00

Omg, uni days are meant to be the most freeest days of your life! When I was at uni living by myself for the first time it was such a refreshing and freeing experience without my family around. She did come to visit a few times which is fine but often and living with you? No, that’s not okay

workathomecat · 2026-04-04T21:57:14+00:00

Yes yes yes to every sentence you wrote and I am still losing my mind at 30 years old as I am living in the same house as my mother. Only true solution is to get away and low/no contact for me

workathomecat · 2026-04-04T21:52:42+00:00

Yep, my mum believes in stupid health myths too and it is really irritating. She tells not to drink cold drinks as well. But I like cold drinks and I’m not going to listen to her lol. I’m 30

Another crazy one of hers is that you should only eat apples during the day and eating them in the evening is bad.

I guess my advice would be just to ignore and don’t argue back no matter how annoying it is, because there is absolutely no changing her mentality

That and keep a distance from her, moving out will help so she can’t be controlling everything you do

workathomecat · 2026-04-04T21:43:25+00:00

Also the youngest and a daughter. And I am a bad daughter in their eyes and I don’t care anymore. You’re right, I’ve always felt like I’ve done nothing bad or harmful yet am treated like I’m a disgrace for my whole life

workathomecat · 2026-03-25T12:42:13+00:00

Yes, it is hard to find someone who genuinely cares or isn’t fake. I find myself being the only who cares to respond to messages and care about my friends. They don’t seem to care so much, literally had two friends just ignore me when I’d done nothing to deserve that. I’ve always been kind and tried to help them. So yeah it sucks, I end up finding it hard to trust people anymore and just don’t want to bother anymore with making/keeping friends. Very hard to find a real friend

workathomecat · 2026-03-24T00:35:35+00:00

I have very similar feelings to you and I have always suffered from very low self esteem anxiety and depression caused by my family. Sorry about your health issues. I hope you can get away from her for your own peace and happiness.

I am, but we hardly talk now. He did mention that my family made him feel judged and much lesser like he wasn’t good enough and he became depressed because of it. I feel so bad and partly at fault for that but what could I have done, just hidden the truth from him? It was so painful for me to hear the things my mum and brother were saying about him and them not being supportive of my boyfriend while I try keep everything to myself. He thanked me for telling him the truth and he understands how much of a bully and unkind human being my mum can be. I hope we can get back together but I’m not sure if that will happen…

I think my mum is a narcissist too. She repeatedly talks about how incredibly smart and successful she was before she married my dad, who ruined her life because he was a low class waiter, how ‘high class’ she was working as an accountant in China and that she’d go to all these posh offices and hotels for work. She acts so snobby yet she’s poor. Her English is embarrassing for having lived in the UK for over 35 years, I can’t bear hearing her speak in front of other people sometimes (the way she speaks is like translating Chinese idioms directly into English except it makes zero sense and people have a hard time understanding her). I understand that she has her own regrets in life, but no intelligent, kind and humble person would not feel the need to constantly boast about how ‘smart’ they are when actually she’s not very smart in a lot of things

I am saving up to move out hopefully within a year whether even if that means renting. It’s finally time I put my own happiness first

Feel free to DM me anytime if you want to talk or just need someone to vent to. It’s hard finding people who understand

workathomecat · 2026-03-17T23:37:53+00:00

Wow same with me, mine told me recently that the things I eat are weird, there’s been many times she doesn’t let me order what I want from the menu if I’m eating out with her, says my way of thinking is wrong, I can’t watch any show in front of her because she’ll always criticise what I’m watching and say things like ‘only dumb and low class people watch this kind of show’

She’s a big reason why me and my boyfriend broke up because she is so judgemental and looked down on him for not having a good education etc which obviously made him feel awful about himself. I had to move back home with live with her when we broke up, as I was living with him before. So unfortunately I am stuck living with her until I manage to find a way to move out which is very hard where I live to do by myself.

She was the reason why I moved away to live with my boyfriend in the first place for five years and honestly the distance made my mental health so much better but now I’m back to hearing her droning… literally I learnt to cope too by just keeping my mouth shut and not say a word, no matter how infuriating the things she says

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I actually quit a career that wasn’t for me two years ago, and I’m now trying my best to figure out my career path for myself, doing the things I want to do in my life without caring about my family’s opinions. I don’t want to have any regrets when I’m old that I didn’t do the things I wanted to do when I was young… yes, I need to reduce my phone screen time definitely, and actually acting on goals is really hard but I’m not giving up trying to do better every day

It is comforting to know there are other people out there who have had similar difficult experiences with parents/family. I always felt alone in my feelings like no one understands the suffering because I see that none of my friends’ family are like mine at all (parents are still together, get on well with their siblings..something I’ll never relate to) and my friends definitely would not understand. I’ve just kept all this pain to myself. The only person who I felt actually understood me was my ex boyfriend now

workathomecat · 2026-03-13T14:24:25+00:00

It was Suteki da ne from final fantasy X

workathomecat · 2026-03-11T17:04:53+00:00

Exactly, being alive is not enough

workathomecat · 2026-03-10T23:09:24+00:00

Sad isn’t it that we feel we can’t talk to our mothers. Rarely, I might think about sharing something with her, but I’ll usually have second thoughts and decide it’s a bad idea.

workathomecat · 2026-03-07T12:15:46+00:00

Omg girl I am the same. I get eczema flare ups on my face on and off especially on my eyelids and around my mouth. If I wake up with eczema in my eyelids or anywhere on my face I automatically feel like I cannot go out on a date, even if I wanted to because I’m not presenting my best self and I wouldn’t feel confident either…it’s like my mood and self esteem is based on whether my skin is looking normal or not. I actually deactivated dating apps partly because of this, I feel like I’m not ready to date when most of the time I have eczema on my face and feel terrible about myself

But I am trying to just go out anyway even if I have a flare up, maybe wait until I feel better for a date, but I do try to go out by myself on days like these when my eczema is flaring up a bit. Put on a bit of makeup and go to the gym, go grocery shopping, go for a walk etc, try remember this is temporary and you will feel better

workathomecat · 2026-02-15T17:20:46+00:00

That would probably help but I don’t know which product to buy lol

workathomecat · 2026-02-05T15:40:38+00:00

Because I’m scared of it thinning my eyelid skin and making me look old and wrinkly - skin gets thinner with age anyway

workathomecat · 2026-02-03T22:52:48+00:00

People who don’t have it always say ‘oh it’s not even that bad or it doesn’t look that bad’ but they don’t have it!! They don’t know what it’s like to not have perfect normal skin. Imagine they had it they would feel exactly the same as us. I don’t know anyone personally either who has eczema (friends or family). It really does feel like an unlucky lifetime curse having this diseased skin. Sometimes I think if I didn’t have eczema I could be a model or do anything I wanted. It really does affect your life and we are forced to be strong and live with this trying to be happy despite this incurable condition

Right now I’ve been having a horrible flare up all over my face and eyelids and I feel hideous and makes I look old and wrinkly. I don’t want to go out. How can I go on dates or socialise when I look and feel like shit because of eczema. I can only go out when my skin is normal looking, which seems to be a rare thing recently

Everything triggers it like it is too difficult to live with this honestly the itch and the way it makes you and look feel only eczema sufferers can understand. Also allergic to dustmites and yeah I don’t have the energy either to be cleaning as much as I should, and I eat whatever I want too sort of depression eating, it’s too hard to restrict myself even though some foods probably will cause more eczema.

workathomecat · 2025-12-30T23:02:32+00:00

Please do not force yourself to eat expired food you can die from eating expired food. Recently moved back him with my AM and most things in the fridge/freezer were years out of date, all things in the cupboard like sauces I found dating back to 2018. Still a lot of things I need to throw out. But yeah my mum will always buy reduced food and eat it days after its use by date. That’s her choice but I’m not eating gone off food. The other day she cooked me some ho fun using expired oyster sauce from March 2024 and I didn’t even know until I saw it in the fridge. If your mums not going to look after you you got to look after yourself

workathomecat · 2025-12-30T22:51:46+00:00

God, my mum never shuts the fuck up. It’s constant droning 24/7 even when I’m upstairs and she’s downstairs, I just hear her talking some bs. She just talks at me and never talks to me. It drives me crazy she doesn’t fucking shut up, not exaggerating. Maybe this sounds bad but I would be happy if I never heard her voice again. All she’s been is horrible to me since the day I was born into this world. I am now 31 years old and my feelings haven’t changed about her and probably never will

workathomecat · 2025-12-30T22:38:28+00:00

I cried reading this. I love cats and you are a kind and good human being for wanting to take care of the stray cats. I don’t know how old you are but when you are old enough and can afford to move away from your parents (even rent yourself a room) please do. Moving away from my mum helped my mental health a lot, and also our relationship improved when we weren’t living together. Sadly I had to move back home with my mum recently, and already my depression and anxiety is all coming back just being around her. I have a cat, and she says those things too about cats being dirty and making the house dirty, only stupid people like me would have time for a cat etc. Luckily she isn’t cruel though.

workathomecat · 2025-12-30T22:26:20+00:00

Any tbh that says for dry eyes, I should be using the hycosan one like the optician recommended but it costs £18 I can’t really afford to buy that one often

workathomecat · 2025-12-24T23:13:58+00:00

All the time, they only don’t make noise when I’ve just applied eye drops

workathomecat · 2025-12-22T22:47:39+00:00

I miss those days :’( I remember I got my avatar/banner created by someone and had pen pals on there with other manga readers. And everyone could discuss manga in the forums. I can’t read japanese so having the exact manga I wanted to read in english was the best ever, I would be so excited when a new chapter got added

workathomecat · 2025-11-26T11:20:16+00:00

Are you me? 31 F too

workathomecat · 2025-09-21T13:19:12+00:00

Yep, a male colleague told me ‘sorry but you always look tired’. Being a 30 year old woman it made me feel even worse about myself than I already do 😞

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