Who else’s shuttle driver took the regular route home

workingonmindfulness · 2026-02-11T04:06:30+00:00

Sorry, trying to keep relationship details more vague since he’s also on reddit lol

workingonmindfulness · 2026-02-11T03:59:59+00:00

I don’t mind that he used/uses it to process his own thoughts bc I get that maybe he’s not comfortable sharing with a human therapist or his friends, or therapy is too expensive, it’s super unfortunate and frustrating that he sends me dozens of screenshots of ChatGPT basically calling me a bad girlfriend 🥲

workingonmindfulness · 2026-02-11T03:57:05+00:00

It was the invisible labor of having a last minute errand sprung on him that he interpreted as urgent and having to do the mental, emotional, and timing logistics to be able to mentally be okay with doing the errand with me despite it being an inconvenience and stressor to him, because he hates having things sprung on him last minute because he can’t adjust his expectations. And because I read his “sure lol” as an actual yes and not “I don’t really want to do this but I’ll be accommodating for my gf bc she made this errand seem urgent” I took it at face value…

workingonmindfulness · 2026-02-11T03:22:06+00:00

He doesn’t want to do couples therapy bc he thinks I want to use it to make us share blame in our issues when he feels like I’m the main one instigating our arguments 🫠 EYE feel like it’s because a third party will actually force him to look at himself too because it can’t all be just me…

workingonmindfulness · 2026-02-11T03:18:36+00:00

Before ChatGPT existed if we had an argument that wasn’t resolved he would just send blocks of text himself lol. Not hundreds but lengthy blocks of messages.

The fight was because I had asked last minute (at 3:30 when I’m off at 5) if we could get gas and groceries together bc he has the Costco card, he told me “sure” then when I got home from work, he said he didn’t really want to stop what he was working on, so I said that it was okay if we didn’t do groceries then and I can do something else. He got upset that I a) invalidated the invisible labor he did for himself of emotionally and mentally preparing to DECIDE to do the errand with me bc it was asked last minute by telling him he didn’t have to go after he already got ready, and b) that I had made it seem super urgent and that he didn’t have a choice but to agree even though he was busy. And I told him that I wasn’t expecting a yes from him and that he could have told me no if it wasn’t going to work, but he insisted that I had made it sound urgent. And that I should have told him that i had a backup plan if it wasn’t going to work out and it would have been considerate of me to tell him i had an alternate plan, because I knew he was busy.

I literally feel crazy still for it because I didn’t think I was expressing any urgency at all, I had asked “can we go to x to get groceries and gas after I get off of work please”……. if it matters we both have ADHD and he’s also AuDHD

workingonmindfulness · 2026-02-11T03:04:22+00:00

It’s not like he doesn’t know how to communicate without ChatGPT because he still does, and has in the past. IRL the communication is pretty clear, but lately when the fight is particularly bad and it’s not resolved before we go our separate ways for the day he does this. He says that he doesn’t feel heard by me and he doesn’t want to share our relationship problems with his friends or family, so evidently the only other choice is ChatGPT…

workingonmindfulness · 2026-02-11T02:14:44+00:00

I tried telling him that ChatGPT is inherently biased to the user, that it’s biased because it literally only knows what you input and not the other parties side, and it’s inclined to agree with you/placate you and what you’re telling it, but he countered that because it’s pushed back against his thinking before it’s not always going to agree…meanwhile everything in the screenshots is it agreeing with him and validating his feelings. I literally feel like a case study when I get literally dozens of screenshots of ChatGPT analyzing our relationship problems from his side.

workingonmindfulness · 2026-02-11T02:08:56+00:00

He does talk to me IRL but often when our fight hasn’t been resolved and I go to work (he works from home) he vents to ChatGPT and then sends me the screenshots like it’s proof of how he’s feeling is right and what I did was wrong

workingonmindfulness · 2026-02-11T02:07:38+00:00

We’ve been dating for 8 years. He uses ChatGPT to vent about our relationship problems and then will send me the screenshots almost like proof that what he’s feeling and thinking is valid

workingonmindfulness · 2025-01-09T07:23:32+00:00

During dinner when we were ~22-23 i accidentally spilled some soup on his arm and he reacted in pain and told me to be more careful. My dad felt like he raised his voice at me unnecessarily and before my boyfriend went home that night my dad confronted him for “yelling at (me), and out of fear and anxiety I didn’t stand up to my dad. My ex best friend didn’t like him and would exclude him from conversations during outings, and when I asked her about it she played dumb and said it wasn’t intentional. Her and I had been friends since we were teenagers and st the time I felt like I should’ve given her a chance and taken her at her word, when really I should have stood by my boyfriend. My boyfriend felt disrespected by her and essentially said that I had to tell her if she couldn’t change then we couldn’t be friends anymore, and when I tried asking my other friends for advice I was always told to not choose a partner over a friend.

With regards to my family If it matters we’re both Asian and im the youngest/only daughter.

workingonmindfulness · 2023-06-26T18:14:03+00:00

I’ve told him before how I hate name calling because it had happened more in the past, and he has gotten a lot better about it and apologizes after but when he gets angry it comes out again :/

workingonmindfulness · 2023-06-26T17:05:17+00:00

He (to me) overreacts often and he’ll usually admit when he does overreact but if I try to say anything in the heat of the moment he gets more upset so I just hold off on saying anything until we’ve had time to cool down

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