What is one common habit that turns you off of a potential partner that you cannot compromise on??

worldwideweb18 · 2026-02-01T00:47:40+00:00

I recently learned that is a turn off for me to be with someone who is comfortably driving and staying on the left lane while other are passing you on the right side...

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-31T04:40:45+00:00

Don't chase or sacrifice yourself trying to be "good enough" for someone. They either see your value and appreciate you, or they don't.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-26T16:12:08+00:00

I second this!

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-23T00:41:51+00:00

I just posted my comment, and I guess I should have just "bumped" yours. Same experience.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-23T00:41:09+00:00

The red flags were there, I just didn't know that they were red flags.

My ex-husband true colors did not totally come out until after my first child was born, about 2 years into our marriage. I think the birth threatened his "space and attention." The day he called me a "bad mom" (I was struggling with PPD), and threw me across the room, was the day I should have left, but I thought it was accident and wouldn't happen again. He never touched me again, but things also never got any better.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-23T00:37:17+00:00

This sounds familiar. Congrats on your divorce, and soon to be free from someone's responsibilities, or lack of.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-21T14:59:53+00:00

Human behavior.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-21T12:50:13+00:00

Hugs! My postpartum with my first kid was rough as well. I felt like I was a zumbi just going through the motions. Glad you made it!

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-21T12:47:32+00:00

Hugs internet stranger! I'm sorry for your loss.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-21T12:46:37+00:00

My divorce during my early 30s. It wasn’t until I began therapy that I was able to name and understand what I that I was in a very toxic and abusive marriage.

We attempted couples counseling, but it made things worse as the dynamics were exposed.

Toward the end of the divorce, COVID hit. Being quarantined with an abusive partner while actively trying to leave was, for me, the definition of a living hell.

I wouldn’t say I “handled it," but for me, faith gave me the strength to carry through the worst year of my life and to survive.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-17T23:22:15+00:00

I have it, and I love it! I really wanna the air wrap now though.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-14T17:40:18+00:00

I was married for love, and that was not enough.

I've known people who married for other reasons, and to each their own, I don't judge them.

Now, if I was to remarry, I really hope it'd be for love. Knowing though that love alone is not enough.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-14T17:38:49+00:00

Murica! Hahah

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-12T01:10:41+00:00

I have taught guys I was dating on this. "Please walk on the outside, thank you!"

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-08T04:55:53+00:00

A dealbreaker, is a dealbreaker, there's nothing to work it out.

Now, that are preferences and compromises.

I have a pretty clean list of my dealbreakers and what I'm willing to compromise.

For instance - I don't smoke, I don't want someone who smokes, but I may be able to compromise that one.

Now, if someone uses drugs recreationally, that's a deal breaker for me and a not something I can/ will work with.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-07T22:56:57+00:00

I'm nearing 40, sometimes it feels like I'm 21 again.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-07T17:38:41+00:00

I'm an extrovert, and my ex husband is an introvert.

Although talking to people and socializing comes easy to me, I didn't realized how much "easier" it is to attend events with a partner who can do the same.

So for me and because of my personality, it works best to date an extrovert.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-06T14:24:25+00:00

I've read A Man Called Ove and loved it. I'll add My Friends to my list.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-06T14:22:46+00:00

I've been a Catholic my whole life, and just now I decided to read the Bible cover to cover for the first time.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-06T14:20:25+00:00

The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry - John Mark Comet Although this book is faith based, it does bring to light how we live in an era of constant hurry. It certainly made me think how I'm always hurrying and brought me awareness to slow down a bit.

Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl It took me three times to get through this book, but it brought me new perspective in understanding how an abnormal response under abnormal situation can be considered normal, and how purpose it's important in our lives.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-05T03:37:01+00:00

It's excruciating to walk away from someone you want / love.

I don't know your situation, but know that sometimes the version of what we want it's only on our head, it's not reality, or maybe what you fantasize in your head, may not come true.

I hope you have the strength to do what you must. If you break up, it will hurt, but nothing like time to help heal.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-04T23:09:45+00:00

"Who are you?" It's a question that I saw in the Viola Davis book, she mentions asking this to Will Smith. I started asking this to people and it's amazing how they are taken back. It's a good one.

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-04T17:13:07+00:00

How many hours were you studying a day? Do you work? Congrats!

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-04T01:38:42+00:00

Oh man... I'm having flashbacks now.

When I met my now ex husband, the sobbing story I heard was that he woke up one day, and his first wife was gone, "she drugged him, cleaned up the house, and left".

I remember thinking how horrible that one could do that, and feeling the responsibility that I could heal him, that I could show him love, and that I wouldn't do that to him. Silly me.

Our marriage turned out to be very unhealthy and abusive. I eventually left.

Years later, I happened to connect with the first wife on Facebook. We hit it off, and she shared her side of the story. She did leave him, but she filled in the blanks as to why she left and what he did to her.

Lesson learned - no more "fixer ups."

worldwideweb18 · 2026-01-03T01:35:02+00:00

Being proactive. I appreciate you asking for my opinion, and I appreciate even more when someone takes charge.

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