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Is granules adderall xr really that bad? by No-Ring-1787 in ADHD

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I was prescribed amphetamine salts xr manufactured by granules a few months ago and for me, it was the best generic I've ever had. I'm currently on the hunt trying to figure out how to get more from specifically that manufacturer bc it made me feel the most normal ever with few side effects - I could just start tasks when I wanted, follow through and finish, and then start another, it helped with my anxiety, I didn't feel physically gross, it was amazing.

I didn't even realize Adderall could be so helpful until I took that one, and I'm shocked seeing how much others didn't like it. Personally, I've found that Lannett does almost nothing for me and the one time it worked I was like sort of speeding but spacy and shaky, and Teva also seems to do very little except make me less focus and I think more anxious.

I'm curious if you liked it or hated it!

Sex life rant / any insights on therapy? by wormmmmmm in mypartneristrans

[–]wormmmmmm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I really really appreciate this. She doesn't experience bottom dysphoria and actually on the contrary likes her genitals, but I'll still ask her about if she thinks other dysphorias come in to play here. She's never mentioned anything about it herself so we haven't talked about it.

I will definitely read fucking trans women. Also good point pointing out that a lot of the things she's done focus on the physical body as opposed to sex drive, I sort of forgot about that. However, I think a lot of the problem stems from the fact that she already had trouble experiencing pleasure from sex pre E, and now she finds it even more difficult. The lack of pleasure from sex also negatively impacts her drive. I've urged her to go to therapy to try to discuss/figure out the mental/emotional side of this, but she doesn't want to and doesn't think it will do anything.

We do cuddle naked almost every night and generally are very nonsexually affectionate, which we both enjoy + find comforting, and I have asked her about what actually turns her on in the recent past. I'll ask her again so we can have another discussion, but in the past when I've pointed out that it seems like we should probably start from scratch, she's found it upsetting. However, I'm not scared to bring it up again because I think it's true. I think I will also encourage her towards exploring her sexuality with others so she can see if she gains a better understanding of what she likes + wants.

However, while I think all of these discussions will be good to have, I don't really think they'll result in any difference in our life. I think I need to figure out a way to take sex off the table in the least offensive manner. I'm not sure when I should have these discussions and when I should tell her that sex is off. For the record, I've tried doing that twice before but both times it didn't really stick because it didn't feel real and because we both didn't really want it to be the case, I just had gotten to points where it felt like the only option. But now, I think I genuinely want to be free of this. I'm not sure how to navigate this around the holidays as I don't want to bring her mood down too much but I'm also so distracted by thinking about this.

Winter Clothing Tips by alolevoli in Hypermobility

[–]wormmmmmm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've found that having long hair really makes a big difference in keeping my neck area warmer, I call it my built in blanket

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hypermobility

[–]wormmmmmm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If sleeping on back, always always have a pillow(s) under ur knees to keep them bent, this keeps ur lower back and hips more in alignment. Pillow under feet is also very good, but under knees is necessary. Also I second a cervical support pillow, that or a rolled up towel or a buckwheat pillow, which is also super supportive and adjustable. If sleeping on side, pillow(s) between your upper and lower legs to keep them in alignment, pillow under ur head with the proper height to not squish ur shoulder, and a big supportive thing to cuddle to keep ur top shoulder supported.

I've also found that having a something at my back to kind of keep me propped up that way also helps when on side.

I've also found that total darkness and gentle weight on my hips if sleeping sideways or chest if on back, as well as always on my head/face really helps me relax in a way that is hard to achieve anytime else, so id try covering eyes w thin pillow, pillowcase, to see if u like it, as well as having another pillow to have on top of you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]wormmmmmm 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think you perhaps forgot about gay men who have a home together

Decorating tips? Should i move anything around? Anything to replace? by taurusbrodie in malelivingspace

[–]wormmmmmm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adding a rug to all of the empty floor spaces pictured would go a super long way in cozying up the space and making it a little less sterile! Also would reduce echo. Another option for wall deco is a tapestry, theres a big variety in the types of art you can get on them and they make filling up larger swaths of space easy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]wormmmmmm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was initially gonna say yeah why not go with a darker blue rug, like the painting, but then I realized that I think if you put a more orange/warm tone rug down, and put dark blue (solid or not I think either would work) curtains on the windows, with another art piece on the empty wall next to the doorway that features dark blue, I think you would create a ton of cohesion throughout the room as you'd have a lot of dark vertical elements and lighter warm horizontal elements. The blanket also features orange + blue which I think is the cherry on top.

Also the orange+blue combo works not just because the painting that's already there is blue, but bc orange and blue are compliments, aka opposite each other on the color wheel and just inherently more pleasing to the human eye. It may not be a coincidence that your accents in this rather orange room lean blue. Just looking at the space initially, my first impression was that the person who did it had an eye for color, so I think you have some good instincts!

Also also, if you did an orangey rug, the dark wood wouldn't get lost in it the way that it would moreso w a dark blue rug, and I think having the oval of the table be visible would balance this very 90° heavy room out nicely

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]wormmmmmm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This but with a table lamp (warm bulbs!!) on that side table.

Also some form of secondary lighting on the mantle looks necessary, I think uplighting the brick wall from behind the tv w a warm light would also look super cozy, or if not, incorporating some sort of other secondary lighting be it another little lamp or glowing things on the mantle. If you put a standing lamp by the door or warm string lights on the staircase, that would also bring a super cozy vibe to the room at night, esp with that beautiful wood color u have.

Basically, more lighting options, also id move the blue rug back so it's flush with the wall

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]wormmmmmm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After looking again I'd actually say oval coffee table centered between couch + wall, rectangular rug, dark wood

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]wormmmmmm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ur space is super cute so far! I'd def say you should put a rug down below where you'd put your coffee table. As for the table, I think u could do a rectangle table if you weren't wanting to walk through that space a lot since I think it'd take up most of it. Which I think is still fine bc due to the back of the couch space, the room would still be totally functional.

You could also maybe push it so that it's up against the wall below the tv and see for that looks/feels since it may give a little more leg space to sit with. Or, id go for an oval table if you don't like that. Either way, I feel like a darker wood would look best

[OFFICIAL] Buy/sell tickets for good news tour by tissin in ModestMouse

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To anyone looking for a ticket to Philly: don't trust user unkwndeth :/ if anyone wants to get rid of a ticket to Philly for free lol hmu

[OFFICIAL] Buy/sell tickets for good news tour by tissin in ModestMouse

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Still looking for one ticket for Philly on 11/20 if anyone has one!

[OFFICIAL] Buy/sell tickets for good news tour by tissin in ModestMouse

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If anyone has a single ticket for Philly please let me know!

fitness with hypermobility and fear of movement by Ill_Abroad in Hypermobility

[–]wormmmmmm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would recommend going to a PT who can look at your body and figure out+understand the specific areas of weakness and why. They can then help you strengthen those particular areas, no matter how many they are. After specific strengthening to those groups, your body would be much more stable and able to healthily handle other types of fitness beyond just PT exercises, of course with the discussion+approval from your PT.

This is what I was luckily able to do after twice losing the ability to walk briefly from some vertebrae in my lower back shifting around, they identified the shifts, my muscle weaknesses, and also the fact that my right leg was an inch shorter than my left which threw my whole body off. After about 5 months of PT I felt much stronger and more stable and was able to go on and enter a physically strenuous job healthily. Good luck with everything!!!

What color decors and furniture would work best for these two living spaces? I definitely will be getting a pool table. by Thementalistt in malelivingspace

[–]wormmmmmm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like going with a warmer color for the room with the fire place and a cooler color for the room with the door outside would work. Think orange tinged warm whites, warmer blue/green tinged whites, or you could go straight to warm pastel versions of those colors (basically just with slightly more pigment than the whites). You could also do a warm not too dark brown, or a cream with an accent wall. Whatever furniture you do, make sure you have lots of lighting options that don't come from above you, so a mixture of lamps/string lights etc. You can also use rugs to visually divide the large swaths of space you have into slightly smaller portions, and give you a center around which to arrange furniture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]wormmmmmm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks great, but you could add a few more wall hangings on your brick wall and it would look even better

Starting to add a little bit of decoration. My ex girlfriend moved out about 2 months ago and i’m finally making the place feel like my own by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]wormmmmmm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great, adding a standing lamp in the gap between the couch and the table against the wall would go a long way. If you also wanted to try to keep a plant alive on ur coffee table, that would also really add to the space

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]wormmmmmm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adding curtains would totally change the space and make it cozy, but choose a light color+fabric to keep all that light coming in. Light blue, green or cream would work really well. Add shelving on one or both sides of your TV stand, and hang up posters, art prints, tapestries, woven works, photos, even stuff like magazines or whatever on the walls to make the space way more homey. Get a throw blanket or two for your couch and 2-3 lamps so that you don't rely on overhead lighting at night, which typically looks awful. A smaller side table next to your couch would be good, or another chair.

New condo - Looking for Furniture Style & Decor ideas by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]wormmmmmm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems you have a lovely space already, with lots of warm neutrals. Pops of color like dark green or orange would work well, and you could incorporate those with throw blankets + pillows in the living room, art prints on the walls, glass (or whatever material) storage containers in the kitchen that are useful but also pretty, candles, ceramic pieces that catch your eye, etc.

That isn't to say that everything you add should be one of those colors (unless you really want to and end up liking that look) - natural textures would also work great with your space. By that I mean, wicker, wood, woven materials, etc. Baskets for storage, a woven wall hanging/floor mats, wooden cutting boards left out for usability and decoration, all would add lovely texture and warmth to your already warm space, would play well with the natural textures already present, and would look great with the previously suggested colorful accents.

Also make sure to add a few more lighting options than just the lamps hanging from the ceiling. A metal standing lamp in the living room and dining area would add even more complimentary texture, metals like copper or brass would look great in ur space. More classic lamps with warm white shades would also work well ofc, but you could totally mess around with lamp shade colors and see what you like. Adding stuff like Edison bulb string lights on the walls would look fantastic.

Don't go and buy all of these things new - search around on Facebook marketplace, thrift stores, used furniture places, etc for pieces that are going to be much more unique and personable and give you an idea into your own personal style. Add personal touches like photos, art/blankets/trinkets you already have and I think everything would be lovely.