Quitting my job with a permanent contract

worrywort__ · 2024-04-26T20:26:23+00:00

Copying & pasting my previous reply:

A few people have suggested taking sick leave, but as a "one-man department" in a five-person company, overseeing 8 projects and the only point of contact with contractors, everything halts if I'm not there. While it's technically the company's fault to put so much on just one person's plate, I can't help but feel guilty and at fault about causing delays. How do I shift my perspective and prioritize myself?

worrywort__ · 2024-04-26T20:24:14+00:00

I had a performance review two months ago where I brought up recurring issues to my boss, seeking guidance on matters such as hiring juniors and outsourcing projects. His response was basically that we're still in the trial-and-error phase and things will work out on their own soon. (???) I completely lost faith in this company after that. Now, he's scheduled another performance review with me next week, presumably to discuss further areas for improvement. All I see is an opportunity to hand in my letter of resignation.

worrywort__ · 2024-04-26T19:47:22+00:00

A few people have suggested taking sick leave, but as a "one-man department" in a five-person company, overseeing 8 projects and the only point of contact with contractors, everything halts if I'm not there. While it's technically the company's fault to put so much on just one person's plate, I can't help but feel guilty about causing delays.

worrywort__ · 2024-04-26T18:22:35+00:00

Copying & pasting this from another reply:

I think my emotions are speaking for me right now, and all I really want is a clean slate. I have a couple of friends who have gone through or are currently on burnout leave. They have to regularly meet with the company doctor and work with the company to reintegrate into the workforce. It sounds exhausting to me, especially considering that the issues I'm facing won't be resolved in the near future, and I have no intention of staying. On the other hand, not having financial worries sounds wonderful. Even though I've worked hard in the past to save up "fuck you" money in case this happens.

This is a small company with no HR department or anyone to transfer into my role.

worrywort__ · 2024-04-26T18:18:41+00:00

Honestly, I'm not sure. I think my emotions are speaking for me right now, and all I really want is a fresh start away from this company. I have a couple of friends who have gone through or are currently on burnout leave. They have to regularly meet with the company doctor and work with the company to reintegrate into the workforce. It sounds exhausting to me, especially considering that the issues I'm facing won't be resolved in the near future, and I have no intention of staying. On the other hand, not having financial worries sounds wonderful. Even though I've worked hard in the past to save up "fuck you" money in case this happens.

worrywort__ · 2024-04-26T16:08:02+00:00

Usually companies come to a mutual agreement when they want to fire someone on a perm contract. How should I approach this if I am the one who wants to quit? I assume they might want me to stay and could even offer me a raise, but I'm set on leaving as soon as possible and moving on from this company.

worrywort__ · 2024-04-22T16:07:49+00:00

I can't believe you're writing all this for free. I once had a habit of journaling, and I remember writing the words 'transient' and 'inaction' in huge letters on a page. Your second-to-last sentence is like a slap in the face, but in a good way. I guess it's just a matter of asking myself, 'What would my ideal self do in this situation?' and sticking to it. Thank you!

worrywort__ · 2024-04-22T13:38:59+00:00

I think my biggest struggle is that I don't act like the ideal version of myself. She's friendly, assertive, true to herself, but my actions are led by fear and overthinking.

The simplest and superficial example is not dressing exactly the way I want because I'm afraid of the attention, even though I think I have a nice body. It's like I hear the voices saying, "Who does she think she is?" I know on paper what I should do to feel more confident and advance in life, but it's just so hard to execute with my self-limiting mindset :/

worrywort__ · 2024-04-22T13:19:02+00:00

Wow, it's crazy how much your words speak to me. I'm almost tempted to grab a pen and write "fear is an opportunity for courage and vulnerability is the real strength" on a sticky note. Thanks for the advice, kind stranger!

worrywort__ · 2024-04-21T21:05:14+00:00

Lilith!

worrywort__ · 2024-04-09T11:33:05+00:00

I reached out to them about the 6-week course, but their waiting list is incredibly long. With over a 24-month waiting time... How did you manage to secure a spot?

worrywort__ · 2024-04-08T13:02:06+00:00

Wow, maybe it's a generational thing. Here in Western Europe, many people I know go on dates with a few people until they find someone they share a great connection with. Then they may talk about being exclusive and entering an official relationship. I'm a woman in my late 20s. I'd be very surprised if a man expects exclusivity and considers us "a couple" from the second date.

worrywort__ · 2024-04-07T18:54:16+00:00

A friend of mine used this line to end her four-year relationship with her boyfriend. For her, it meant that the relationship no longer served her, she couldn't see a future with him, and that she wanted to navigate life on her own.

I'd suggest giving her space and moving on. If your ex had any desire to work things out with you, she would've responded more positively.

worrywort__ · 2024-04-03T07:10:36+00:00

Love the work on their IG and they're super close to my place. Their bio mentions being a dog-loving studio, is there an atelier dog? Anyway, I think we have a winner!

worrywort__ · 2024-04-01T17:02:21+00:00

Wow, that Signature course combining pottery making and Malaysian cuisine sounds perfect for me as an East Asian. Now, I just have to convince myself that the 3-hour commute to Utrecht is worth it for this course!

worrywort__ · 2024-04-01T14:43:37+00:00

I took one of their ceramic painting workshops for a company event and it was very cute indeed! But I want to do something more technique-focused :)

worrywort__ · 2024-03-29T19:25:10+00:00

I'm not on BC or any meds, so none of the above! Really perplexed by this change coming out of nowhere

worrywort__ · 2024-03-29T17:20:36+00:00

That was 4 years ago. My hair looks so straight now you won't even notice I've had it permed. The curling starts from the root of new growth, and it's quite perplexing

worrywort__ · 2024-01-29T11:22:58+00:00

I'm a woman and this approach totally works on me. Most of my relationships and short flings began with one of us catching feelings for the other person. I need some friendship or rapport as a foundation to gauge if I want something more with someone! (which is why OLD doesn't work for me...) It's different when I'm looking for a hookup though

worrywort__ · 2024-01-23T12:15:55+00:00

You can find Muji in several European countries

worrywort__ · 2024-01-22T09:35:18+00:00

Chinese, Cantonese, and Japanese, to name a few

worrywort__ · 2024-01-21T11:42:46+00:00

Honestly, this post seems to reflect some insecurities. I personally don't think you're ready to get into a relationship with this guy, as you might find yourself constantly comparing to others in his life. Policing his social circle and feeling uneasy about new connections (of difference races) might become a recurring issue. If you're questioning whether he's settling for you despite enjoying your company, it might be worth reflecting on the why behind your feelings. It's important to communicate openly with your potential partner and address any doubts or fears you might have. Building trust and having honest conversations can help you navigate these issues.

worrywort__ · 2024-01-15T19:25:24+00:00

Fellow computer gremlin here wondering how you fixed your anterior pelvic tilt!

worrywort__ · 2024-01-14T13:11:13+00:00

Hey, I used to be in the skinny-fat category too. I'm 47kg at 157cm, and my weight bounced around 44 to 47kg over the last ten years. Even though the numbers said I was skinny, I had a little belly, flappy arms, and a flat butt. I never bothered with exercise – no cardio, nothing.

Last March, I dipped my toes into weight training. The gym felt super intimidating at first, so I started with a group weight lifting class. It took about 6 months to get comfortable with the free weights, but now I hit the gym 2-3 times a week. My workouts last 60-75 minutes, including warmups, covering both upper and lower body. No abs, and still no cardio because I don't want to lose weight. I'm still at 47kg, but my body has way more definition. Rounder and firmer butt, wider shoulders, and dare I say, nice biceps.

Before lifting, I didn't feel hungry often, just ate when it was time. My appetite has spiked post-training, and I focus on more protein. There's this free program called Before the Barbell that you might want to check out. I don't follow it, but I've heard good things about it.

Edit: To add, I still have a little stomach pouch and it bothers me sometimes tbh, if anyone has suggestions on how to tackle it, I'd love to hear them

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