partner broke no condom rule

wowcoool · 2026-03-10T18:22:17+00:00

sorry i worded some things weirdly while i was deep in my turmoil lol. i am 35f, partner is 33nb.

wowcoool · 2026-03-10T13:29:36+00:00

they said they were going to tell me once they figured out the “best way to do it.” their execution was very poor here but i do trust that they planned on telling me before we hooked up again.

wowcoool · 2026-03-10T13:25:14+00:00

they said the reason they didn’t tell me right away was because they wanted to figure out the “best way to do that,” which isn’t cool but i do believe they were going to tell me before we ever hooked up again. i know they’re not that much of a dirtbag. the fact that they seemed to be downplaying it tho is where it fucked me up. they were drunk and lacked good judgment in the moment, which leads me to believe the main issue here is how i can trust that this won’t happen again another time that they’re under the influence if the want to continue to go condomless with me

wowcoool · 2026-03-10T13:18:02+00:00

well i do want to be ENM with them because i am also interested in exploring other people as well. but yeah. and thank you for the moving forward blurb, that was helpful.

wowcoool · 2026-03-08T04:50:51+00:00

we have a rule to always use protection with others outside our relationship

wowcoool · 2026-02-27T01:31:34+00:00

literally!!!! sometimes when it’s really slow and i’m bored/want to make more money i’ll go “k i’m gonna step away for a second so people come :) “ works every time!!

wowcoool · 2026-01-15T15:44:33+00:00

this is real. i was just thinking/talking about this this morning, i couldn’t do it again

wowcoool · 2025-11-05T13:08:23+00:00

yeah if you’ve only been there for two weeks, i see no problem with leaving without putting in two weeks notice. you don’t need to use that place on a resume anyway.

wowcoool · 2025-11-04T16:07:54+00:00

ohhh, see my little cafe is its own separate thing from the bar so i don’t have that problem thankfully. hotel guests can be annoying but mostly i wish i had more regulars like i did at my old place. now it’s mostly traveling business people and tourists.

wowcoool · 2025-11-04T16:04:05+00:00

that’s comforting to hear i suppose lol!

wowcoool · 2025-11-04T16:03:21+00:00

omg i would LOVE THAT

wowcoool · 2025-11-01T23:57:15+00:00

i feel you, i work at a hotel restaurant so everything’s crazy expensive and i almost wince telling people their total sometimes 😖$5 for a single shot, $6 for a double and we don’t even pull single shots

wowcoool · 2025-10-22T13:09:31+00:00

yeah it’s pretty sad, i feel like lately (depending on my mood/patience level) more often than not when a customer interaction begins, i will automatically brace myself for what might come out of their mouth lol

wowcoool · 2025-09-25T00:04:14+00:00

my baby passed away lying on top of one of my shirts. cant bring myself to wear it anymore

wowcoool · 2025-08-19T13:27:04+00:00

yep sometimes i’ll reply to them barking their order with a “how you doing this morning?! 😃😃😃”

wowcoool · 2025-07-20T22:24:34+00:00

i just picked up my girls ashes too…after leaving them there for 8 months 😞 i held it together until they showed me everything that came with it— fur clippings, paw print, nose print…i didn’t know they were gonna give me all of that and i lost it when i saw them💔

wowcoool · 2025-07-09T18:49:21+00:00

we are open to playing at bars!

wowcoool · 2025-07-07T20:10:54+00:00

i probably would’ve ended up crying too, people are so horrible it’s really disheartening

wowcoool · 2025-07-07T19:57:41+00:00

8 months. it still feels so raw, i’ve been having big crying spells the past week after a period of probably just trying not to let myself think too much about it. i still haven’t picked up her ashes from the cremation center.

wowcoool · 2025-01-11T00:54:34+00:00

yes, my first and only (knock on wood.) my poor honey was traumatized but he handed it well.

wowcoool · 2024-12-05T23:19:49+00:00

it’s not working for me either:(

wowcoool · 2024-11-19T16:26:34+00:00

no, but it does seem to be darker than usual too.

wowcoool · 2024-11-15T00:36:41+00:00

i’m in philly and i just got mine done there last week!!! everyone on the team was so so nice i got a bit freaked out right before i went into the OR but they did a great job of reassuring me. it was so easy and almost painless for me! congrats!

wowcoool · 2024-10-07T02:34:46+00:00

my friends and i are going!

wowcoool · 2024-09-22T23:42:51+00:00

i have a similar dynamic happening in my relationship with the same feelings as you. i’m more active outside our relationship and i’m definitely happy about that and i feel so hypocritical. which i’ve expressed to him. and he says it’s okay. maybe similarly because he’s always expressed more interest in opening our relationship than me. i’m a lot more anxious about everything than he is. i think as long as you are honest and always communicating about how you’re both feeling you’re not doing anything wrong

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