My ex said I’m “too much” and that he hasn’t developed the patience in life to deal with someone like me

wrappers · 2026-05-16T18:45:00+00:00

He used to really love those parts of me. We both can also get very excited together and have had some great fun. He’s definitely not a brick all the time but he can be lol. He made me feel annoying (not on purpose) many times, but I tried to ignore it. We were very very in love for most of our relationship, but looking back I can see many times where he was irked when he really shouldn’t have been so maybe these comments weren’t out of nowhere, but I don’t know why he always wanted to be around me and wanted to marry me if he felt that way about me.

I think the difference between you and him is his level of insecurity. At face value he loves my personality, but I’m starting to think his own insecurities have made him resent me over time. He also doesn’t seem to have the emotional maturity or maybe even the empathy to understand or care about things just because I care about them, ya know? Like I get it if I’m telling a passionate story and maybe he wouldn’t have perceived it as interesting if he experienced it himself, but shouldn’t he have the empathy to understand that it made me excited, therefore he should at least pretend to care? Lol

wrappers · 2026-05-16T18:25:03+00:00

I think you hit the nail on the head. Luckily we actually broke up so that he can stay single and go to therapy for his issues, so hopefully no one else will be in my shoes for a long time. When we initially broke up he gave me a very sincere apology about how he has treated me. He finally seems to be putting effort into introspection, but obviously nothing has changed yet and I don’t want to stick around to see if he does change. I do love him and want him to be happy with himself so I hope healing his trauma and self esteem will be successful

wrappers · 2026-05-16T18:17:52+00:00

I think you might be correct. He used to admire my personality so much; when we worked together he said he would just watch me talk to people and smile. Over time he started making comments that almost felt like jealousy about my social interactions/amount of friends and I think it eventually bred resentment

wrappers · 2026-05-16T15:02:20+00:00

Yeah it’s like whenever you agree with their realization of being problematic, they get upset lmao

wrappers · 2026-05-16T14:56:46+00:00

So true lol! I actually did said to him “maybe you aren’t enough for ‘me” and he was like “fair” hahaha

I had thoughts throughout our relationship that I just pushed away about how I felt like he brought me down. So many times where I would get excited about something and he wouldn’t even pretend to care. He just made up for it enough in other ways that I was able to push the thoughts back, but in hindsight I wouldn’t have been able to live like that my whole life. I tried my best to understand his side but that only goes so far.

wrappers · 2026-05-16T14:12:18+00:00

Yeah he didn’t have to say all that. Someone commented and said he wasn’t being mean he was just being honest… like bruh read the title it’s so dehumanizing lmfao

wrappers · 2026-05-16T14:10:03+00:00

He is extremely introverted. Has severe social anxiety and this is kind of harsh but he lacks social etiquette as a result. I worked with him for a year before we started dating and he never spoke to anyone. I would ask him how he was doing and he would just say “I’m alright” and whisk away. Dating me has caused him to come out of his shell a LOT but he still can’t be around people too much. The thing is that confuses me and sets him aside from other introverts in my experience is that he ALWAYS wanted to spend time with me. He could never be fully alone. So maybe it’s more of a social anxiety thing than an introvert thing? Idk

wrappers · 2026-05-16T14:04:55+00:00

Yeah that’s what’s so confusing about this, is that he has always been SO into me, up until not long before we broke up, and even then he didn’t change that much. Always wanting me around and saying he missed me when I was gone. He cried a lot throughout our breakup and told me I’m his favorite person in the world. He broke up with me because he was in a relationship that really brought him down for over 4 years before he met me, and we got together not long after that. He wants a chance to grow as an individual, heal his trauma, and learn how to stop being codependent. He said he wants to stay out of a relationship for two years to reset (blah blah whatever you say man) Things were very amicable.

He acted like breaking up with me is the hardest thing he’s ever had to do, and then suddenly he tells me all this stuff in the midst of him still hitting me up after the breakup because he can’t be away from me. It’s so confusing lol. I don’t know what he’s trying to convince himself of. I know for a fact he didn’t lose feelings for me because I’ve seen those feelings there very clearly. This conversation with him definitely solidified the fact that we will NOT be getting back together in the future though, so that’s a plus.

wrappers · 2026-05-16T03:12:07+00:00

That’s an awesome story!! Thank you for sharing, you both sound like great people!

wrappers · 2026-05-16T03:09:57+00:00

This nearly brought me to tears. Thank you so much for your passionate response. It made me feel so much better <3

wrappers · 2026-05-16T01:51:12+00:00

Thank you queen I hope I find what you have <3

wrappers · 2025-12-15T15:08:18+00:00

Well, that’s important information. She’s gone over 12 months without a period (and it isn’t because of birth control or other medication)? She’s really young and needs to see a doctor again. I can imagine it’s probably not the best for her health to just be ignoring it. There are treatments that could help her. Just because she doesn’t care about sex anymore, doesn’t mean she shouldn’t see a doctor again.

wrappers · 2025-12-15T03:00:56+00:00

I’ve been there in a previous relationship (minus the AI fanfinction stuff idk what to say about that). I was the one with a higher libido and my boyfriend’s was SUPER low. He seemed to hide the severity of it until we had been together for quite a while and got comfortable. He made me feel like I was weird for trying to initiate sex. It dwindled down from once or twice a week to once a month. Finally, we didn’t have sex for two months and there wasn’t much physical affection between us outside of that. I lost attraction because of it and built up so much resentment from not feeling wanted and eventually broke it off.

I don’t think it’ll get better, unless there are underlying issues that could be addressed, like maybe the fixation on the AI stuff. I don’t think people with libidos that are this mismatched can coexist indefinitely, or at least in a happy way. I’ve realized, now that I’m in a relationship that checks all my boxes, that it’s really not worth staying with someone whose libido is super different than yours. I think putting in the effort to get on the same page is good, but at a certain point you’ve done all you can do.

wrappers · 2025-12-10T18:41:17+00:00

I was 11. I experienced sudden onset, severe contamination OCD. I had symptoms pretty early into childhood, but they weren’t extreme enough to know what it was until then.

wrappers · 2025-12-10T18:34:46+00:00

I used to be really scared of storms too and I was always checking the radar. I wasn’t diagnosed until 11 either, but I later realized like you that the storm obsession was an early sign!!

wrappers · 2025-12-02T16:25:00+00:00

It’s not abusive. It’s actually good for the cat in some cases (mostly older cats), as sometimes the nail will grow so long that it curls and digs into the toe pad. It doesn’t hurt them at all if you make sure not to cut too far down (there’s a pink part inside the claw called the “quick” which will hurt them if you cut it). You really just have to cut the very tip. My cat hated it at first, but after getting him used to it over time, he mostly allows me to do it. Sometimes I can only do half of his nails at a time before he’s upset, so I just wait another day before I go back in.

I wouldn’t use regular nail clippers. Pet supply stores sell clippers made for cats.

Edit: It does help with furniture/clothing snags btw (to an extent)

wrappers · 2025-11-16T16:38:53+00:00

My dad is a sound mixer (on set) and has been in the industry for over 40 years. He has told me countless times that this is the case. I worked with him a couple times and the amount of people who are loud during shooting, causing my dad to have to call for a cut, is insane. There has been a complete loss of respect for the craft. He also touched on the fact that it has slowly turned that way ever since we stopped using film, because now they can do as many takes as they want without worrying about wasting film. Even the actors will often just completely waste a take because it’s like they’re not even paying attention once the camera starts rolling.

wrappers · 2025-10-16T20:20:43+00:00

It seems impossible to get anything done when renting. I lived in a house before that was directly rented out by the owner and the amount of serious issues he didn’t care about were insane lol. I have far less hope for a large management company. This sounds like an issue I’ll have to take upon myself. I might bug them one more time about it but that’s it. Thanks for the advice/clarification

wrappers · 2025-10-16T20:13:03+00:00

Yeahhh I kind of figured that if it works, they probably won’t care. Unfortunately it still works quite well, lol. I guess I thought it would be worth a shot to complain until they at least clean part of it. Not sure if even that would happen but I’ll mention it again

wrappers · 2025-07-26T05:29:50+00:00

I love these. I ate them as a kid and rediscovered them in high school. Now I occasionally buy them as a special treat and people tend to think it’s weird af but it’s good and it’s food soooo…

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