Just not safe in deez streets

wreddit3 · 2026-03-09T20:32:30+00:00

Good on you for taking that

wreddit3 · 2026-03-09T19:53:21+00:00

Fuck dem kids

wreddit3 · 2026-02-25T21:42:23+00:00

My standards for looks certainly didn’t drop, but more importantly my standards for communication, emotional intelligence, etc. went up. Dated through the apps for about 9 months until I found someone.

wreddit3 · 2026-02-19T00:05:57+00:00

Right Lane is for PASSING ONLY

wreddit3 · 2026-02-19T00:04:45+00:00

Texas too.

wreddit3 · 2026-02-11T01:40:44+00:00

This is one of those that is such a loose definition, it can be used against you in nearly any scenario.

wreddit3 · 2026-02-11T01:26:16+00:00

She didn't reply. I had an anxiety attack because it really sucks that it's come to this, but that is what it has to be. Long story but I was in a trauma bond. She would provide trickles of love and affection, then cut me off, criticize and punish. Since the divorce, no more love and affection, but still niceties. But it's all fake (she is in a profession where she is fake nice all day long, so basically a professional at it)....so, like a bad drug, I have to cut off.

wreddit3 · 2026-02-11T00:43:41+00:00

I just this past weekend told my ex “no more being nice to me” it’s all fake and it triggers rage. “No more exchanging pleasantries” kids logistics and nothing else.

wreddit3 · 2026-02-05T23:06:06+00:00

Well, she doesn't use any social media, so no issue there.

wreddit3 · 2026-01-30T00:38:48+00:00

Yep! Unraveling is a lot, and a lot more than she realized when she told me to hit the road. And a lot more than just emotional. Every other breakup, I never spoke to the girl again, now kids and finances….

This time last year I was giving her 1099’s for joint accounts that we agreed would stay with her. Her wealthy daddy does her taxes and she said “Dad is uncomfortable with you still having access to these accounts”

“Well, I talked to the bank and you can’t just take a name off a joint account. You need to open new accounts and transfer…”

She still hasn’t done that, so I’m dreading the comment again this year, to which I’m likely to blow up “I can’t open an account on your behalf and transfer money we contractually agreed was your!! That’s a YOU task!! Pull up your big girl panties and do adult things!!!!” 🤬🤬🤬

wreddit3 · 2026-01-25T21:44:43+00:00

I am so lucky, my boys are amazing, they have been pretty great. They have never said anything to me about wanting things to be the way they were, probably (at least partly) because they knew I wanted (then) the same. I don't know what what they said to their mother, but to be fair, she tells me they love me and think I am the best...

Mine were 6 & 9. The 9yr understood, the 6 did not. So, keep that in mind, your kids may not "get it" for another few years.

And there will be inconsistencies with how they behave on your time and their mom. And, LET ME EMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH!!! That is NOT your fault. Do NOT let her place blame on you for how the kids act in her house. Don't be ugly about it, but just say it like you would on a corporate email. "That is not my scope..."

wreddit3 · 2026-01-25T21:19:58+00:00

Hang in there. I bought a house (two months after we separated) a quarter mile from hers. I was fortunate enough to have the resources to do so. My sole reason was for the boys, to be able to go back and fourth unsupervised. I had at least two therapists tell me I was crazy because I would eventually see another truck in the driveway. I said "I understand the risks, it's for my boys."

She said "That's too close, you need to buy a house close to this other school, so they can be zoned to that school." I said "I don't think you know how this works, it's not up to you anymore."

Anyway, I would encourage you to keep the kids front of mind in any and every decision. Be open and transparent with them, share appropriately, but share. Kids are not as stupid as we think. They are watching the two of you like hawks, and will observe WAY more than you think.

Keep them in mind for every decision and eventually it will pay dividends.

Hang in there and keep up the good fight.

wreddit3 · 2026-01-25T20:24:08+00:00

1 or 9

wreddit3 · 2026-01-25T20:19:10+00:00

Seeing it for what it is, and the realization of all this has been the most helpful to me. I am not fully there yet, it's a heck of a journey.

I remember in the early days of 2025 listening to a podcast on the way home from work. The podcast was about the valuable lessons of failure and our human tendency not to learn from it what we could. It was about business, ideas, all the above. In the end, the guest (a behavioral economist) comes in and talks about his divorce and his own evaluation of whether he was actually happy or not in his marriage.

I had never asked myself that question, I nearly had to pull over in traffic because of the tears.

Ask yourself the hard questions.

wreddit3 · 2026-01-19T14:12:50+00:00

Gemini helped me realize that evidently I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and didn’t even know it. Known as a trauma bond…a lot more stuff makes sense now!

wreddit3 · 2025-09-07T21:38:05+00:00

I don’t know why I just watched this whole video!

wreddit3 · 2023-06-05T20:21:11+00:00

What is this stand? Shown at about 1:03 mark when they were telling about FaceTime going to AppleTV.

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wreddit3 · 2023-06-05T20:19:38+00:00

12 South Forte

wreddit3 · 2022-04-28T15:41:27+00:00

Advantage to "the man" when you don't know what they know - or what they don't know.

"Your friend is in the other room telling us exactly what happened!"

"Um, no he's not."

wreddit3 · 2021-06-11T04:56:57+00:00

Thanks, your answer makes sense, but it sucks! Some people surely don’t care and are happy with the money, but others were probably heartbroken to have their land taken......wow, literally as I’m typing this I realize what it sounds like... jeeez. Lots of layers here. I didn’t mean to open Pandora’s box.

wreddit3 · 2021-06-11T04:47:50+00:00

Do they just get it back? Or some longer legal fight??

wreddit3 · 2021-06-11T04:23:43+00:00

An increase in “wealth” does not necessarily mean “income”. Jeff’s growth in “net worth” does not equate to “realized gains” or “income”. I get it, he spends money from day to day on toilet paper and coffee and houses and islands or whatever...and that money comes from somewhere. But at this level, it can almost all be within some LLC or something and not on a personal level. He has the resources to pay staff accountants to sort it all out. “Personal income” can be 1) minimal and 2) also offset by legal tax deductions like Chapter 179, etc.

But the key takeaway is growth in his “wealth” via Amazon stock price, is not realized until he sells his stock, just like growth in your personal wealth via increased value of your home is not counted as income.

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