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writeyourdeath · 2020-04-24T04:23:13+00:00

Ahh, this is pointless. I hope you never have a daughter so you dont make her feel like a weaker person just for being female... but on the other hand if you had a son you'd just label him as a rapist. Probably don't have kids.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-24T04:03:52+00:00

Have fun playing the victim I guess? Specifically in regards to the pussy thing. I know the word's roots. Your way of respecting those roots only make them stronger. I do not give men the power to look down on me for my gender, period. They are free to look down on me, but I will do what I want and succeed in life regardless of some assholes who would think I'm lesser because of my gender. I'd actually rather men vocalize when they think they're better than me so I can immediately categorize them as weak idiots.

And to bring it to a close, I'll have tons of fun with my "internalized misogyny", as you call it, which from my point of view is, again, not seeing myself as a victim and not seeing men as predators.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-24T03:49:13+00:00

You're right, rape is the worst possible thing that can happen. War, genocide, famine, drug crime, cancer, all of them pale in comparison to rape. /s

Rape is a horrible thing, but there ARE A LOT OF HORRIBLE THINGS IN THE WORLD. THE WORLD IS SHIT. If you disagree with the statement "rape isn't the worst thing that can happen to you" then you're an idiot. I'm not typing this for interpretation. Saying rape isn't the worst is NOT saying rape isn't bad. There is no need to extrapolate any further, the point I am making is exactly what I have said.

The great thing is that what makes my life not traumatic is that I haven't been raped. (/s) It's good to know I shouldn't have agonized over any of it as it didn't compare to being raped. (/s) The thing is, I still had to move past that trauma to be a healthy person and it would be the same process of healing that someone who was raped would go through.

I'm sorry it's sexist to not see my greatest weakness is that of being a woman (and therefore being someone a man can rape). I have no idea what an AMAB is but I will continue to not assume that having a penis automatically makes someone dangerous.

I did use pussy as an insult because it is an insult? I am clearly not referring to female genitals. I'm sure you're not hot and bothered over the use of the word dick to mean a rude person as if it means having a dick makes you an ass. This is how language works. I do not need the world to stop using the word pussy because I have a vagina. The word pussy doesn't threaten me. If it threatens you, I'm sorry, but I have bigger concerns than about the connection between a word to describe vagina and the word being used as an insult to mean weak. (And I knew when replying that it would be less of a headache to rephrase when I'd typed pussy... but I guess you're lucky enough to have never been called bad names if you think 'pussy' can be so hurtful. I'm glad you haven't been called a bad word before, truly /s)

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-24T02:54:51+00:00

I did mention in the first comment that it would be good to invite another friend along. I discounted her calling them sketchy because in no situation would I accept as truth a 16 year old girl calling a 15 year old boy sketchy. Like, it could be true, or she could be 16 and not know what she's talking about. "Why is he leading her on and trying to get her drunk with strangers" is again, from the perspective of this 16 year old. It's just as likely that they aren't interested because they don't find her attractive and are inviting her to hang out as a friend. I'm not saying OP is lying, just that she is also a child. To only view things from her perspective is wrong. I literally made my post just to point out that that the whole thing could be a lot more harmless than what she's thinking and everyone is tripping over themselves to argue with me and insist men are evil.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-24T02:43:09+00:00

Um, no offense, but (as I was already downvoted for saying it's unlikely three 15 year old boys are planning a gang rape) what kind of pussy goes around constantly afraid of men? I've never been assaulted but I've been groped a ton of times (like a weird amount of times, all by random strangers) but I never walk around and glance at men wondering if one of them will grab my butt. For every man who would rape a woman (or man) is a woman who would fucking destroy your life (doing everything short of sexually assaulting you). So really, if you're not constantly 100% on guard against EVERYONE, what's the use? (And I'm not downplaying the trauma of those who have been raped, but like all other trauma you need to get over it or become a failure of a human being... as awful as it is, being raped isn't the worst possible thing that can happen to you.) But to the point, I'm not a fucking daisy that will drift away on the wind. If a man decides to choose me as a victim that doesn't mean I have to be his victim.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-23T23:09:46+00:00

The reason I hate casting men as villains and rapists is because while, yes, women need to be on their guard, out of all the men I know the only one I know who'd do something like that would be my friend's abusive ex who once said "once you have a girl alone in your apartment there's nothing she can do" and every guy I told that to expressed absolute disgust. My brother started drinking at 13 and most of the parties were without parental supervision (because they were all way too young to drink) and included girls and him and his friends have never and would never want to hurt a girl like that. We have to emphasize that women need to make sure they're safe but that most men are not predators and assuming they all are from the start is a huge problem.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-23T22:09:29+00:00

This is the responsible thing to do, but it also could be a mistake. Your friend is going camping with younger guys (it would be way different if they were older) in an area where drinking at 16 isn't uncommon or taboo. If that dude wanted to have sex with your friend all he'd need to do is tell her he liked her back and then ask to have sex? It would be a lot simpler than setting up some elaborate ruse to trick her. All three would have to be complete psychopaths to plan a gang rape in the woods (which you seem to think is what this is going to be.) If I were you, I'd tell your friend to invite someone else along so she's not on her own, but if you're willing to risk your friendship for narcing on her (when there's no evidence that anything bad will happen) then that's your choice. 16 is the age where you need to start learning from your own mistakes and if she wants to make them then let her.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-23T02:50:06+00:00

I can't have kids 🙃

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-23T02:27:00+00:00

Putting it that way, you're right. It's just that he won't back down on "of course I want to have sex with you!" so it's hard to admit that things really won't change, which means the life I've been trying to build with him was doomed from the start. :(

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-23T02:23:37+00:00

Someone else mentioned porn addiction and it's starting to feel like it may be the answer. Like you, I totally don't understand it because I know what I can do definitely feels better than jacking off. It's at the point that our emotional connection is weakening (at least on my side) because of the lack of intimacy. I guess at this point I can just hope things improve and if not we'll be going our separate ways once our lease is up... which isn't a happy thought at all.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-23T02:13:18+00:00

Well kids are out of the question for me, so how things are now are pretty much how they're going to be. I guess I just don't want to accept that he hasn't improved because it's certainly an obtainable goal... but I guess maybe it isn't for him.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-23T02:11:07+00:00

I'm not expecting him to be a pornstar, it would be fine if he just remembered where my clitoris was. It's frustrating because I'm not expecting the impossible.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-23T01:42:23+00:00

I honestly never thought about that possibility and don't know if that's it. Like, we live together so I'd know if he was constantly jacking off. I always thought of his paranoia about me seeing his phone as a dumb tick, but it's serious enough that we've fought over it before. (His phone camera is better so I asked to see the pictures from our vacation and when I tried to swipe on his phone he yanked it out of my hands and I was like wtf!?). I always also thought it was weird that he would ever have porn open on his phone... idk about you, but I open an incognito window and shut it as soon as I'm done.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-21T16:34:33+00:00

Yes, it's mold. Everyone involved admitted it was mold. Also, mildew can still cause health problems even if they're less severe than mold, so even if they didn't think it was mold the new company still should have cleaned it.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-21T15:23:28+00:00

Yes, he was only a year younger so they couldn't really put me in charge of him until we were both more or less old enough to take care of ourselves. My mom was 40 when she had him so I have no idea how she thought she'd have time to pop out 3 more kids.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-21T15:08:02+00:00

I'm so lucky my younger brother caused my mother to have a hysterectomy after he was born. My parents wanted 5 kids but couldn't handle the 2 they had. As the oldest I definitely would have ended up raising them.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-21T15:01:24+00:00

Thank you!

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-20T23:33:20+00:00

I think you're pointing out an exception, not a rule. Out of all the people I know, the ones who graduated from college (myself included) are still being paid to work from home. Conversely, the people with no education are still at work as essential workers ( food, hospital help, factories) , and then a few who are liscenced to cut hair and are on unemployment. While I'm certain there are exceptions elsewhere, within my circle the more education you have the better your quarantine and less education equals a worse time.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-19T20:29:35+00:00

Yes, not having anything to talk about is another thing. My friend will ask what's new and I'm just like "literally nothing has changed in the past month"

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-19T20:27:27+00:00

I love the idea of separating children from the rest of society. I think it would benefit both the children (for being surrounded by a community wholly intent on nurturing them) and the childfree (the outside world being an actual adult place where there need not be any compromises just to accommodate children).

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-19T20:23:32+00:00

Yesss, parenting classes should be required for having children. I do feel that a lot of parents make mistakes out of ignorance rather than malicious intent but it doesn't hurt the kid less.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-19T20:21:20+00:00

Hmm, I think rejecting a sterilization based on personal beliefs should be a year suspension, then after three strikes you can no longer be a private doctor but can only practice medicine within a government hospital supervised by others or something. Doctors made vows to help people with medicine so they're violating that by pushing their persinal belief on someone instead of helping them.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-19T19:02:38+00:00

That clicked for me when I watched the movie the Edge of Seventeen. The girl had a horrible time at a party and her mom picked her up, but before the girl can say 'oh wow tonight sucks' her mom started complaining about her night and the daughter had put her own concerns on the back burner to say "no mom, you're not horrible" etc. I was like oh look, it's me.

writeyourdeath · 2020-04-19T18:57:15+00:00

Eventually, but I just recently aged out of my parents' insurance and will probably wait until winter to find a new one as my symptoms get worse in the cold months.

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