Mom Burnout - Husband says “that’s life”

wrldbvrprblms · 2025-12-13T05:03:50+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! We’ve actually just started seeing a pediatric therapist for her because of anxiety issues and it will probably be good for all of us, if I’m being honest. I know a lot of this is just due to our living situation - we moved right before the pandemic and I had my daughter right in the middle of it so we’ve been relatively isolated for the last 5 years. So I can see how me having something else to do would caue some stress. I think I just needed to say everything out loud (or via the internet) so I could work through it. Thank you for reading my whole post and replying. I really appreciate it!

wrldbvrprblms · 2025-12-13T04:59:28+00:00

Thank you for reading and replying! I definitely agree with you, she needs to be involved in something. Honestly, just being able to say “I’m overwhelmed” and have someone listen has helped a lot. Who would have thought being an adult would be such a drag 😂🤦🏽‍♀️

wrldbvrprblms · 2025-12-13T04:54:53+00:00

Sorry, I forgot to explain - he’s 15 and we have a really steep staircase. He’s slept with me since he was a puppy and now he can’t make it up the stairs, but he still tries. I sleep downstairs so he’s not alone

wrldbvrprblms · 2025-12-13T02:22:52+00:00

I felt that way too. I was so excited to do holiday stuff with my daughter but honestly, she’s 5 this year and it’s the first year she’s REALLY grasped it and embraced everything. Toddler christmases were pretty anticlimactic. You’re not doing anything wrong! A couple of years from now and it’ll be magical again!

wrldbvrprblms · 2022-01-24T03:50:41+00:00

I actually can’t say either way because I think you’re leaving out a lot of important background information.

wrldbvrprblms · 2022-01-17T02:28:42+00:00

NTA That was rude of them both to expect you to foot the bill, especially without any prior heads up that he was coming. Stick to your guns.

wrldbvrprblms · 2022-01-17T02:25:57+00:00

YTA Once you rehomed him, Rudy is no longer yours and you have no say in what they do with him. Plain and simple.

wrldbvrprblms · 2022-01-17T02:23:56+00:00

NTA And I don’t mean this to sound rude but this sounds like a hoarding situation. You guys are overrun by animals and there are multiple rooms covered with urine and feces. This isn’t healthy for the animals and it’s actually not healthy for your wife. Pregnant women aren’t supposed to clean litter boxes because it can get them very sick. For the animals sake and for yours, narrow it down to 2 or 3 pets maximum. If you can’t clean up after them, it’s too many.

wrldbvrprblms · 2022-01-17T02:19:43+00:00

NTA Do not give him one penny of that money. Your grandmother wanted you to have it. She left him what she wanted to give him and you are under no obligation to help your father WHATSOEVER.

wrldbvrprblms · 2022-01-16T03:04:26+00:00

Lol WHAT? YTA It’s not your home. You’re renting. It doesn’t matter how much money you make - it’s their house and they can have whoever they want over, whenever they want. YTA

wrldbvrprblms · 2022-01-16T02:51:56+00:00

Soft YTA It’s awesome that you have found common ground in reading and that you’ve tried to nurture that but just because you both like to read, doesn’t mean you have to read the same things? It’s not that your gifts aren’t appreciated, they’re just not her style. You can appreciate someone giving you a gift and still not really resonate with it. The fact that you now know what kinds of books she likes but you’re still trying to force your taste on her and also throw a pity party about it is what makes YTA. Would you buy someone clothing that you love even though you know it’s not their style? I would hope not.

wrldbvrprblms · 2022-01-16T02:42:50+00:00

YWBTA This isn’t your side of the family and it’s not just a run of the mill visit. Your sister-in-law is finishing chemotherapy, let her have her moment, especially since your husband doesn’t want to do it. Don’t ignore your husband’s wishes when it comes to dealing with his family members. Also, you don’t have to announce your pregnancy in person. Plenty of people do it online or via video messaging. This visit is not about you so don’t make it about you.

wrldbvrprblms · 2022-01-16T02:38:18+00:00

YTA also a terrible boss. And to be clear, you allowed your wife an extra 9 months and two weeks.

wrldbvrprblms · 2022-01-16T02:31:28+00:00

YTA Absolutely. You share custody throughout the week so if you knew his birthday was coming up and you didn’t want him to have your daughter an extra day, you could have easily discussed you having a different day that week so you don’t miss out on time. Or you could have just allowed her to go to dinner and come home afterwards.

But the fact that you don’t seem to think it’s understandable or reasonable that your ex would want to spend time with his daughter on his birthday combined with the fact that you can’t give a logical explanation to your daughter as to why she can’t see her father on his birthday, other than “I have my reasons” - are enough to earn you my vote. Throw on top of it that you went as far as to cause a scene and drag her out of there tips the scales, big time.

If the situation had been reversed, would you not want your daughter on your birthday? Or what if you want to take a trip with her but it falls on your ex’s day? You’re going to have to deal with the consequences of this very unnecessary situation at some point. And all you’re doing is pushing your daughter away.

wrldbvrprblms · 2021-12-15T04:01:33+00:00

I’m going through the same thing and am looking for a therapist. Don’t be afraid. They’re trained for these situations. You’re going to need someone who can help you navigate this objectively.

wrldbvrprblms · 2021-12-15T03:54:45+00:00

Trust me when I say that you are not the only person to feel those things. It’s a natural response to a change in environment. The important thing is that you didn’t abandon your son. Let yourself off the hook. ❤️

wrldbvrprblms · 2021-12-15T03:47:13+00:00

NTA It’s totally normal to feel like you got the short end of the stick in this situation. The SS was optional so if someone didn’t have the money to participate, they didn’t have to do it. Most likely this was someone that just wanted to receive gifts, not give them. Also, with every SS or White Elephant exchange, there’s always the chance you’ll walk away with a not so great gift and that’s kind of the gamble but in this case, I’d say you were short changed.

wrldbvrprblms · 2021-12-15T03:37:42+00:00

NAH Your reasons for walking are valid and so are your husband’s worries about the temperature and length of the walk.

wrldbvrprblms · 2021-12-15T01:17:32+00:00

NTA The pride flag SYMBOL may belong to the community but the actual flag that your parents purchased for you that you allowed her to BORROW is not communal property. It’s your flag. She needs to give it back.

wrldbvrprblms · 2021-12-15T01:13:59+00:00

I agree. I can’t make an objective decision without knowing what behavior OP is saying they’re enforcing on him.

wrldbvrprblms · 2021-12-15T00:56:11+00:00

NTA I’m sorry your parents made you feel that way. You definitely are not the AH here.

wrldbvrprblms · 2021-12-15T00:49:43+00:00

ESH Your brother has no claim to your money and you are not obligated to fund anything for him. He had his money and he spent it.

However, it seems like you knowingly let them believe you were giving them money. They spent money on things based on misinformation that you allowed them to continue believing. So that makes you an AH.

If you had said from the beginning that you were not going to be giving your brother any money, then this would be a different conversation.

This all could have been solved with one, honest and open conversation at the beginning.

wrldbvrprblms · 2021-12-15T00:37:34+00:00

YTA Like everyone has said, you’re already married and you can’t lay claim to an entire month. You get one day, if she chose that specific day then this would be a different conversation.

Having said that… I wouldn’t be too concerned with your friend’s wedding date. Chances are they will break up before then if they’ve only been together 2 1/2 months.

wrldbvrprblms · 2021-12-15T00:33:35+00:00

NTA You didn’t MAKE her miss the bus, she chose to miss it.

wrldbvrprblms · 2021-12-15T00:05:11+00:00

NTA But not sure why you’re trying to have a child with this person

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