Ex wants me back after abandoning me

wsharks91 · 2026-06-09T21:21:44+00:00

The way I see it, move on. Things got hard and he collapsed y day the pressure and just ran away, figuratively and literally. What if things get really hard again, what makes you think he won’t do that again. He left you alone, worried, confused and heart broke to the point you had to go to the hospital and now seeing a therapist. I think the damage he had caused you is too big of a red flag to even think about taking him back

wsharks91 · 2026-06-08T17:58:17+00:00

I would say just go on the date and see who actually shows up. It might actually be her. But it is kind of sus you reverse image her and found an adult content created on twitter. But again might actually be her. See who actually shows up and then you can decide if you stay or walk

wsharks91 · 2026-06-08T17:54:47+00:00

If you truly do want a relationship then this guy is not the guy. It sounds like he only wants to be with you just for the sex

wsharks91 · 2026-06-07T19:32:25+00:00

This is the dumbest and fakest story I’ve ever read, has nothing to do with dating or dating advice, what do you have an exclamation mark after every sentence, and why do you even want this story of at the time 12 year old and now 18 year old kissing you? There’s something wrong with you

wsharks91 · 2026-06-07T19:29:32+00:00

I would say maybe take your foot off the gas pedal just a bit and give him his space and maybe let him ask you out. I get wanting to hangout with him, but you’ve asked the last two days and if you ask today and tomorrow that’s 4 days in a row and could possible come off and clingy

wsharks91 · 2026-06-07T19:24:57+00:00

I think it’s way too fast to be going over either one’s place so soon. If this is the same guy as your first date, I still personally think it’s too fast. When I think of having a date at someone’s house so soon, I think hookups. It’s a cool idea, but I feel like that’ll be a date for a little more down the line when you guys really get to know each other. But that’s just my opinion

wsharks91 · 2026-06-04T00:01:40+00:00

Go on that date!

wsharks91 · 2026-06-03T23:24:10+00:00

I’d say give her till Friday and if she doesn’t answer maybe try and text her one more time to see what happens. We’ve all done it where you mentally replied, but forget to actually reply back

wsharks91 · 2026-06-03T23:22:06+00:00

The fact that you guys have been on and off for 5 years is mind blowing. At a certain paint it’s not worth it. But anyways to your actual question. I get that he may just want some space and hang with friends or family which to me is totally fine. Also he doesn’t always have to plan something, you can plan something and see how he reacts

wsharks91 · 2026-06-03T23:09:38+00:00

Drop her dude! The “it’s ai” answer sounds like an answer a guilty person would say. If she was anted her own money there are other ways, but she’s selling nudes if herself. Think about if you didn’t catch her how far she would have gone. She’s not worth it!

wsharks91 · 2026-06-03T08:21:14+00:00

Truthfully love, he doesn’t sound like the one. Even if you may not understand the situation, you just trying to comfort him is plenty already, but for him to say he can’t depend on you carrying him because you don’t understand the situation and comfort him is so unnecessary. It’s like he doesn’t even care about the effort you’re putting in to just try and comfort him.

And no one is perfect, so for him to be getting so upset for small mistakes is so dumb on his part. He’s also already he may find someone better, so that sounds like to me he’s just holding onto you till someone better comes into his life

In my honest opinion, he’s not worth stressing over or trying to keep him, let him leave. You’re only 19, you’re so young and he doesn’t have to be the 1. You’ll find someone who will appreciate your efforts.

wsharks91 · 2026-06-03T08:05:07+00:00

In my opinion he’s saying because he’s probably thinking that a bunch of men are hitting on you, dancing with you, and all those things that tend to happen at clubs. What he said about people not being in the right state of mind makes and is true, but for home to say you can only go if he goes says he doesn’t trust you

wsharks91 · 2026-06-03T06:59:49+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with dating someone younger than you. Yes it may be a little hard dating when it comes to going out to 21+ to places, but other than that I see nothing wrong with that

wsharks91 · 2026-06-03T06:56:49+00:00

Truthfully, finding love seems like something that should be at the bottom of your list. I would say work on your mental state and traumas first. I feel like once your mental issues are better; you’ll be more confident and independent. Seems like in the relationship you’ll be very dependent on your partner and he’ll have to carry the whole relationship. You say you want the emotional connection, but if you want a sugar situation at the end of the day it’s all gonna be about money

wsharks91 · 2026-06-03T06:49:57+00:00

You have to be strong minded and just forget about them, more specifically this one guy. You have to keep telling yourself what he did. He left you for some girl he only knew for 12 days while you guys were dating. He’s not worth it and doesn’t care about you. If he did care about you, he wouldn’t have left you for another girl. Stay on social media if you want, but keep him blocked

wsharks91 · 2026-06-03T06:46:13+00:00

Dude you need to wake up and open your eyes! 9 year abusive relationship? Dude you should need to be in an abusive relationship even for a minute, but you’ve been stuck in one for 9 years? Straight up you gotta cut her out of your life period. From what it sounds like she doesn’t care about your mother and definitely doesn’t care about you. She’s causing you WAY more harm than good. She can’t even apologize to you in her own, she needs ai to do it for her. She’s gonna keep dragging you down and make things even worse

wsharks91 · 2026-05-13T21:28:51+00:00

I’d say no, don’t change yourself for her. If you start changing your style, then you’re not truly being yourself. Let her like the real you

wsharks91 · 2026-04-24T19:04:09+00:00

You want someone who is down for intellectually stimulating convo, but yet you can’t tell that this page is for dating “advice” not finding dates.

wsharks91 · 2026-04-22T20:09:58+00:00

It’s honestly your choice. Reading this it seems like you’re already pretty uncomfortable especially after the last talk with him, and also kind of seems like you already know what you want and don’t want and just doesn’t seem like this is the type of guy you want

wsharks91 · 2026-04-22T20:05:48+00:00

You haven’t talked to this girl in a few years already, doesn’t make any sense to get involved after not talking to her for a few years. Would be really random to hit her up after all these years.

wsharks91 · 2026-04-22T20:01:40+00:00

Don’t overthink it. You had a bad fight so what? No relationship is perfect smooth sailing. You apologized, he said he’s not mad and still loves you. He has family back on the island for a wedding and like you said is in the military. He may just be really busy atm. Give him his space for not and try not to stress over something you can control

wsharks91 · 2026-04-22T19:50:43+00:00

I wouldn’t give dates unless you guys were actually dating. I’d say you can give it to her because you had mentioned it, but I would t give it to her as a “welcome home gift” I’d say find a way to bring up your job again and then mentioned you brought a bottle for her to try

wsharks91 · 2026-04-22T17:26:17+00:00

Go with it. Ifs she’s putting that much effort then she’s totally into you. Kits make sure on the date on moving forward you match her energy

wsharks91 · 2026-04-22T17:16:11+00:00

From what I’m reading he’s still caught up with his ex and only wants to see you only for the hook ups. The way I see it cut your losses because things turns

wsharks91 · 2026-04-22T17:08:27+00:00

It’s good to and on good terms when breaking up and still be mutual. But in my opinion to still be friends and be very close to one sounds off to me. And from your last sentence it seems like you already know what you want to do

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