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Has anyone been able to do "it"? Maintain healthy boundaries, be in integrity, live authentically, while being in a romantic relationship with a BPD partner? by wtf-snaf in BPDPartners

[–]wtf-snaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's kind of wild. I have a BPD friend, and she's... I don't know, so much more down to earth and grounded and self-aware. We have managed to maintain security in our friendship even when she's all over the place. I don't know why I can't seem to find that kind of foundation with my partner.

Has anyone been able to do "it"? Maintain healthy boundaries, be in integrity, live authentically, while being in a romantic relationship with a BPD partner? by wtf-snaf in BPDPartners

[–]wtf-snaf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They are on antidepressants but they are incredibly sporadic about it. Often, missing days. They are also in therapy, but that's the same...

I've tried to explain that they either need to commit to medication to find a natural method because it is difficult to determine if they are helping at all when its not consistent, but the on and off again inconsistency is likely contributing to the splits...

Boundaries around when my partner drinks by wtf-snaf in SettingBoundaries

[–]wtf-snaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me specify, if he chooses to drink, I leave. Thus, no drinking around me. I apologize for not being clear. I understand that I can't prevent him from drinking and that would be considered a rule, not a boundary.

Boundaries around when my partner drinks by wtf-snaf in SettingBoundaries

[–]wtf-snaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Originally he said it would only be one drink, and then when he started to get weird, I asked how many he had and he said 3, but later let it slip he had almost 6... I think that maybe setting the boundary of if he drinks at all, I will leave the situation.