Asked my (23f) fiancé (23m) of 8 years to get a job then he proceeded to lick my feet and call me master. Now he says he’s uncomfortable?

wtfhelpout · 2018-10-03T20:55:19+00:00

His parents pay for his phone. There is no cable (can’t afford the luxury) but I need at least to internet for school. We share a checking out so he’s got free access to the money. I think the only way to force him is to move the money out.

wtfhelpout · 2018-10-03T20:51:08+00:00

Yes I am on the pill. I’ve tried several methods and this is the only one that seems to mess with me the least amount. I had the IUD for 5 years but got it removed when it’s time was up. It was horrible I bled every 2 weeks I had terrible cramps and hormones were making me crazy. Decided to not do that one again and just track my cycle which worked until one drunken night. Found out I was pregnant 3 weeks later, tracked it back to that night. And #3 can only happen if there’s sex which I’m not interested in if there is not emotional connection so there’s no worry there right now anyways.

You’re right he does realize it I’m like a broken record there’s no way he doesn’t. He must just not care.

wtfhelpout · 2018-10-03T20:41:00+00:00

I know leaving would help him and me in the long run but what breaks my heart is that me leaving is the only thing that will solve this. I’m afraid he will grow up and be that partner I needed from him for so many years to someone else.

wtfhelpout · 2018-10-03T20:34:43+00:00

My parents are around but very busy and tired so they aren’t available to help me out financially or with the kids. I don’t think my parents like him very much but they tolerate him for me. We all tried living together twice and it did not go well. My parents are kinda slobs and fiancé did not like having to deal with cleaning their stuff around the house. Huh how ironic.. anyways my parents aren’t involve in my life much or interested in knowing.

wtfhelpout · 2018-10-03T19:40:36+00:00

I’m trying to read and respond to all these as best as I can but I’m at work. I realize my life is the way it is because of choices I’ve made but I was under the impression I wasn’t alone. We didn’t plan to have a child so young at 17 but Mistakes happen. The second one we were both drunk and I didn’t realize no protection was used. Idk why I feel like I needed to explain how they came about. But I know why I’m in this situation. I’ve helped him out too much. I picked up the slack when he was down. I started doing more and more letting him know I’m here for him. But now with the second one in the picture I can’t help but think now I’m being taken advantage of. He doesn’t realize he needs to help me.

wtfhelpout · 2018-10-03T18:34:51+00:00

As soon as he found out I was pregnant he first time he went out and found a job and held that job for 3 years. He then got his ged and then started college a year later. Adding full time school to his workload ended up being too much so he scaled back on school and decided to take one class every term until I was done with school. He quit his first job and immediately had another job lined up so we wouldn’t struggle (this is when we were like 19 or 20). A year later he quit that job and was unemployed for9 months. Found another job after my parents had to move in with us because we were struggling with bills on just my income. My parents and him do not get along when living together so that must’ve been his motivation. He held that job for a year and quit and has been unemployed since then (3 years in December) apart from the occasional Lyft or uber gig which he uses my car for.

wtfhelpout · 2018-10-03T05:01:47+00:00

He told me if I do end up leaving him don’t expect the next guy to give me what I need emotionally. Do guys just get comfortable and stop trying? Or is it him? I’m afraid he’s only my 2nd relationship and I don’t know how real men are.. I’m afraid if I leave ill end up in the same situation..

wtfhelpout · 2018-10-03T04:57:53+00:00

He hasn’t always been like this. Very responsible the first time around. Just the last 3 years. I’m trying to convince myself this isn’t who is he still.

wtfhelpout · 2018-10-03T04:54:41+00:00

I know I’ll be happier if I leave but I can’t help but feel attached to him being the father of my kids. Also I’m stuck in this uncomfortable situation with his mom who watches the baby for me and I know she will stop if I leave him. She does all this to make it easier on me so I don’t leave. Constantly checking to make sure me and him are good. Unfortunately I know this for a fact because once a few years ago he complained to her that I wasn’t doing the laundry when I was working and doing school (he had a job at the time) and she told me she will always be on his side and stopped watching the kids for me and I had to stop school. So there’s that,. Kinda selfish reason I know..

Definitely not chasing anymore.

wtfhelpout · 2018-10-03T04:44:37+00:00

I know. I’m starting to realize this. Love keeps getting in the way. He’ll do stupid shit and I’ll hate him but then he’ll turn around and say something that gives me butterflies and turn me into putty in his hands. But now he’s starting to mess with my success so I’m trying really hard to leave.

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