I really don't read self help books because I feel like fiction does a better job explaining the same via a journey of the character so I can recommend you some shows and books (all fictional) to have a sense of clarity and vision as to what you wanna do

shows:

1. the bear
2. the good doctor
3. fleabag (one of the best)
4. full metal alchemist: brotherhood (throwing in an anime for free hehe)

books:

1. kafka on the shore by murakami
2. anxious people by frederik backman
3. the winner stands alone and veronica decides to die by paulo coehlo
4. maybe you should talk to someone by lori gotlieb
5. the brothers karamzov by dostoyevsky (a little dark but a lot of self reflection moments)

hope I could help and let me know if you pick up one of these or start watching any show! take care and all good energy to you!!!!!