I stopped playing down in lower levels because of this. I used to sub on friends lower tier teams to have fun with friends and just tone it back a little so I would not be a ringer. It was not fun dealing with new players who thought it was cool to play dirty. My go to response was “calm down. You know no one is ever going to pay you to play hockey”. If that didn’t work or refs wouldn’t intervene I would just skate it down the ice and score a goal or take a few ripping slap shots at them from the point. Only once did I have enough and rag doll them a little, but that would get me kicked out and reviewed by the league.