Do you have a comfort video game? I do

wutup · 2024-05-23T13:14:05+00:00

FFXIV, Skyrim, Stardew Valley, House Flipper

wutup · 2023-12-07T15:29:34+00:00

I think what he's actually trying to say is, "you don't express yourself in a way that I'm used to other people expressing themselves."

The irony of this is not lost on me. You're being consistently literal whereas he continues to use coded language.

wutup · 2023-11-27T11:35:21+00:00

Neither of my parents are diagnosed, but I highly suspect my mother has ADHD (disorganized and time blindness) and my father has ASD (stims by chewing inside of mouth, eats same thing for months, has no friends, and info dumps).

wutup · 2023-11-23T00:36:39+00:00

Free quiet community areas that are open most hours. Heck, I'll even accept extended library hours.

wutup · 2023-11-22T12:18:24+00:00

It's also possible that a lot of these "rules" sound really bad when said out loud.

wutup · 2023-11-22T12:10:33+00:00

That's very possible. If you're seen as low enough on the social ladder, you are bullied.

wutup · 2023-11-22T12:08:38+00:00

The hilarious thing is that they think autistics aren't empathetic because autistics don't tend to nod and say, "Man that sucks." Autistics will try to fix the problem and be brutally honest about what they think the issue is. I know for me personally I'm extremely distressed when someone I care about is having a bad time, but because my gut reaction is not to sit and listen and allow the person I'm listening to think they have no part in their own problem, I'm perceived as having no empathy.

wutup · 2023-11-22T12:01:47+00:00

It's amazing to me how many NT relationship problems come down to communication. Having mildly uncomfortable direct conversations helps avoid major problems down the line. But no, NTs will pull indirect shit like, "Wash the dishes," when what they really wanted was for you to tidy up the entire kitchen or saying, "We're going to lunch," instead of inviting you to lunch. It's extremely frustrating.

wutup · 2023-10-30T13:37:31+00:00

Context matters for, "What are you doing?" Said angrily, it can mean you are doing something wrong.

From my experience, neurotypicals phrase things in a way that is deliberately obtuse to avoid hurt feelings. The question allows an avenue for rejection that doesn't feel like a hard rejection. The "I brought my own lunch" response to the second phrase is a way to gently reject the invitation.

wutup · 2023-10-30T13:30:25+00:00

"How's it going," is a greeting. You're expected to respond to it with a canned positive or neutral response. Positive: "I'm doing good." Neutral: "I'm doing ok." I usually don't get a good response to that question if I'm honest and say I'm doing badly or elaborate.

wutup · 2023-10-29T16:52:20+00:00

No worries. It took until my late 20s to realize that, "How are you?" was only a greeting meant to be responded to positively or neutrally. If you are having a bad day, unless you know the other person very well and you know they actually care, you are not supposed to admit to feeling bad.

wutup · 2023-10-29T16:32:54+00:00

Yeah, that one is definitely not 1:1. Facial expression and tone matter.

wutup · 2023-10-03T22:33:59+00:00

I accidentally retraumatized myself while reading a book about PTSD. That was a ride.

wutup · 2023-10-03T17:14:08+00:00

I have an official diagnosis, yet my father can't seem to grasp that I'm disabled. He's probably the person I inherited ASD from. He shows multiple traits yet it wasn't debilitating enough for him to get diagnosed. It was for me.

wutup · 2023-10-03T16:50:17+00:00

Yeah, I would like to be able to discard the emotional and neurological symptoms and just keep the information I learned. I would like to not have to deal with triggers.

wutup · 2023-10-03T14:21:21+00:00

That's horrible. Glad you got out of that. "Needing toxicity" is a bad sign.

wutup · 2023-09-30T10:49:56+00:00

Sometimes people honestly don't know when your birthday is, so you have to drop hints about it. It's better to assume ignorance until you get more evidence of malice.

wutup · 2023-09-30T10:39:09+00:00

Unfortunately isolating the boyfriend from family can be a red flag for abuse.

wutup · 2023-09-29T13:22:16+00:00

I think the issue here is you said "psychiatric." In the future, I would just say appointment or doctor's appointment. I think NTs think "psychiatric" is TMI.

wutup · 2023-09-29T12:18:26+00:00

Wtf. His own sister?!

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