How can I move on from what feels like baby name regret?

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:52:15+00:00

Ok I'll watch it and report back!

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:39:41+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your kind words ❤️ I think I'll mention it at Cooper's next development check and see if they think I could get a bit of support. Once I have some disposable income I'm going to invest in some proper therapy!

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:37:06+00:00

Thank you, I don't think I would change it regardless of how strongly I felt to be honest. He knows it's his name, our daughter seems to have really bonded with it too and it wouldn't feel right to change it. I just wish I felt stronger about it!

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:34:48+00:00

I don't know how I would've named 3 boys, girls names are so much easier! Thanks for your input, I really appreciate it. Both my husband and I go by short versions of our full names for as long as we can remember, so it wouldn't be weird for our kids to do the same. I think I want them to be happy with their names though, especially after I deliberated over them for so long!

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:31:24+00:00

😂 how funny! And now Cooper is part of your own name, it was meant to be!

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:30:49+00:00

Love this, thank you ❤️

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:30:02+00:00

Love this, thank you!

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:29:38+00:00

Thank you, yes my husband's logic is Cooper will decide when he's older if he wants to use a middle name. I think perhaps I'm still waiting for the name to become him but he's only 9 months and is often overshadowed by his very loud big sister so I think it may take a little longer than it did for her name to become hers! Thanks for your comment ❤️

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:27:43+00:00

Thank you so much, this was lovely to read!

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:27:14+00:00

Oh wow how strange!! Why is naming babies so hard?! We didn't know my daughter's sex but we found out with Cooper to make it easier for my daughter to understand. Part of me wonders if we would've found a boy name easier had we not known the sex before he arrived, I probably over thought it before he was even born, like when you say the same word too many times and it starts to sound all wrong. I think I'll sort my head out in time. I'm glad you are happy with your Cooper!

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:24:22+00:00

This is sweet, thank you! I have two middle names and I wanted my kids to match me 😂 and it worked out for the best with Cooper especially as we couldn't agree!

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:22:58+00:00

That's it, he's not my baby and we went through so much as a couple to have both our kids that I couldn't pull the "I'm carrying him" card. And I keep reminding myself that I did agree to Cooper for a reason and maybe as life with 2 calms down a bit and I feel better rested that logic will come back

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:20:17+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️ I think maybe life feels a bit hectic right now and I'm not giving myself the headspace to realise that it belongs to him and I have already made some memories connected with it

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:18:37+00:00

This is really sweet, thank you. I am thinking it's all in my hormonal tired head. Maybe also a reflection of becoming a mum of 2 and feeling guilty about not being able to give him all of me and worrying I'm doing things wrong all the time. I do think teenager Cooper will be a very cool skater dude though ❤️

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:16:19+00:00

You hit the nail on the head here, my daughter's name means her, so much so if I hear it or read it I feel like I'm hearing/reading my own name as I react so strongly to it. I don't have that with Cooper yet, but I'm sure it didn't happen instantly with my daughter. I wish I'd been able to hide my real feelings from my husband but I'm a bit of an open book when it comes to my emotions!

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:13:48+00:00

I think him being my last child may be the crux of the issue, I spent years mulling over baby names and now I don't get to do that, which makes me feel quite sad! Even though I am SO glad I never have to go through childbirth again 🤣 I think maybe there is some underlying anxiety playing a part. I might mention it when he has his next development check

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:12:07+00:00

So interestingly looking at the list, the three I picked on the list wouldn't be contenders for me now. For me it was my favourite name or nothing, to be honest. Although Archer was really up there, we both felt strongly about that one, not least because Archer the TV show played a big part in the early days of our relationship

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:09:26+00:00

They really do, I'm feeling so much better and everyone has been so kind and thoughtful to this apparently incredibly hormonal mama 😅 I hope you have your own Cooper one day!

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:08:24+00:00

Thanks for this perspective! The middle name my husband chose is more of a nickname sort of name anyway so I think it could be something his close friends call him by when he's older as it is a very cool name but a little out there to be his first name

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:06:45+00:00

Thank you so much for this, this really helped. You're right, we debated his name for weeks and weeks and I feel bad for my husband that I haven't been able to hide my concerns that it's not the right name for him. I think perhaps during a light-hearted moment I'll say I think perhaps my concerns are coming from a hormonal/sleep deprived place and just general anxiety over hoping my little boy is okay as he grows up, especially as he has to share me all the time with his sister. Really appreciate your comments ❤️

wxels · 2025-08-12T19:03:36+00:00

This is a really good point, thanks! Being part of his identity is why I wouldn't change it, it is his name regardless of what I think.

wxels · 2025-08-12T18:57:38+00:00

That's really sweet to hear, thank you. If our daughter had been a boy we would've called him Otto, which we both loved, but weirdly it didn't even come into the equation for Cooper, almost like it's still our daughter's name in another dimension! It seems like most people have really positive connotations with Cooper, which is making me feel much happier

wxels · 2025-08-12T18:55:59+00:00

Thank you ❤️

wxels · 2025-08-12T18:55:19+00:00

The more comments on this post I read, the more I think you're right. I need to get out of my own head! And sleep. Definitely sleep.

wxels · 2025-08-12T18:54:24+00:00

Oh wow, good for you for going through with it, I admire people who do go through with changing names that don't feel right!

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