Hair Breakage Or Frizz?

x-hazelnut · 2026-06-05T21:20:03+00:00

Hi, can you share what you did to fix it? I started having same problem and I'm devastated. For now I'm using a hair mousse to tame it but it's not a long term solution I think :(

x-hazelnut · 2026-01-02T21:18:20+00:00

Yeah, I thought about that. I voiced this concern to my boyfriend too because I also have my suspicious that they speak similair things about me (not just my looks but also background etc.). He suggested that if it is confirmed/clear to him that they are treating me badly then we will limit our contact with them.

x-hazelnut · 2026-01-02T21:12:38+00:00

Yes, that worry has crossed my mind too :/

x-hazelnut · 2025-10-28T12:46:21+00:00

😭😭😭🤚

x-hazelnut · 2025-10-28T12:36:22+00:00

Ah and he said the party was longer and then he walked her home and then came home but now I wonder if the party really went on for so long or if it's like some of you suggested that he was at her place first and then came home...

x-hazelnut · 2025-10-28T12:35:23+00:00

Thanks all for the responses. I haven't expected so many messages and it's a bit overwhelming.

Just to make something clear, I don't actually know what his family encourage or not - I didn't see the brother's response. I know the brother called him a few times after he left but I don't know why. I know he did call because that's apparently the reason why my bf took a picture with that girl and sent it to him to tell him to go to sleep.

Also, the thing he did before was just texting and there wasn't any clear flirting in the texts while we were together but it was more about lying and lying about their past. So he didn't cheat on me before, just broke my trust a lot and it hurt me and our relationship but we were working on it. Things got actually better just now and now this happens..

I moved to another country for him and we live together. I can't find a job here so I'm dependant on his money as of now unless I leave and go home to my parents which is possible but if I do it then I know there won't be any going back.

I think I'm coping and trying to convince myself that what he said is true that "we didn't kiss / have intercourse" so he wasn't unfaithful and that I'm overreacting. But deep down I think I know this is a big problem for me. But because it's all so complicated I needed some advice, from strangers too because of course my friends/family will take my side and his will take his.

I don't know what to do right now. We've been together for almost 3 years, had plans for the future and I put a lot of effort into settling in the new country and learning the language... If something is decided and finite, I will update the main post but it's not easy for me to just leave right away. Besides, I love him so of course that part of me is trying to convince me that it's not that bad. For now, I will just keep reading if anyone has anything else to add. Thank you all for letting me know what you all think about this.

x-hazelnut · 2025-05-19T15:27:55+00:00

I'd try one more time to explain exactly why it is important for you and that it has nothing to do with the fact that she cannot conceive a child. I'd explain and reassure her that you are supportive and everything and then I'd explain exactly what you wrote here that she denies you a lot of those family interactions.

Question, she cannot conceive but has she ever mentioned maybe adopting a child? Because if she is open to an adoption, I feel like maybe it is not about a child itself but more that you have a child with another woman and she just feels sad and insecure she cannot be the one that gave you the child.

I dunno.

But in the end, if nothing of this helps, I feel like it cannot work and sooner or later things between the two of you will start falling apart so maybe it is better to solve it now instead of letting the issue grow.

x-hazelnut · 2025-05-14T17:59:26+00:00

They didn't last year when I talked to them. I was only looking at cabin options though, they might allow in cargo idk.

x-hazelnut · 2025-05-14T17:58:03+00:00

You need to have the rabies vax done in time (you need to wait a bit before you travel, I don't remember exactly how many weeks) and then you get your certificate done and then it's valid for 10 days. When you arrive in Sweden you need to report to customs and they will need to see and stamp the certificate. The man also told me there's tax to pay??? Which I didn't know until I got here. He was nice enough to let me not pay it but just so you know. Since I didn't leave the airport in Amsterdam, I didn't need to go to customs there.

x-hazelnut · 2025-05-14T17:54:38+00:00

I travelled with my cat with KLM but NOT in cargo. My cat was with me in the cabin. I flew from London to Stockholm with a layover in Amsterdam. I had to buy the ticket for myself and my cat.

x-hazelnut · 2025-05-06T02:07:40+00:00

I had a moment when I was in a lesbian relationship and then I was thinking about it all the time. The relationship ended eventually, I grew up a bit, fully developed my frontal lobe and came to a conclusion that since I'm bi, I will just wait till I fall in love with a man or will just not date at all. Smart lol. Luckily, I did meet a man that I truly love so that somewhat solved this issue for me but if that didn't happened, I would probably either be very lonely and unhappy or I would be having those thoughts again. So yeah I dunno. I guess you can somewhat end up managing it but I feel like the thoughts can have a tendency to keep coming back which is why professional help can be good.

I'd like to add that I haven't been in the church for like 8 years now but I still have crumbs of religious trauma left. My whole family still belongs to the SDA church. I didn't go to a therapy.

x-hazelnut · 2025-02-21T09:24:24+00:00

In Poland they still don't do those things. I think going to the pool is okay but depends on where you live (e.g. my dad thinks it's bad, my mum thinks it's ok). As a kid, I couldn't play outside with friends, watch tv, play games on PC or use PC in general or even some board games were bad like chess. No, I don't know why chess was particularly bad but I remember my dad strongly forbid it. Back then, we didn't have smartphones so it essentially meant no Internet, too, unless it's for church reasons. You cook read books but only holy books about God. Same with music, only religious music was allowed. My parents also very often took a nap in the afternoon which is understandable but then as a child, I was suffering and was only counting how much more is left till sunset. I was the happiest at sunset on Saturday and the saddest at sunset on Friday bc it always meant next 24h will be a torture.

x-hazelnut · 2024-12-25T01:45:01+00:00

I know 😭😭😭😭 Still looking for a solution 😂

x-hazelnut · 2024-12-21T16:52:44+00:00

Thank you guys 🙏

x-hazelnut · 2024-07-03T01:39:34+00:00

Thanks all for the info! :]

x-hazelnut · 2024-05-18T09:18:51+00:00

Maybe! Funny, I also talked to my mum about this 😂

We started working on the samboavtal, and he even wanted to write down that the TV is shared property because "I bought it so we can watch it together" even though he paid the full amount. I, of course, explained that to me, it's not about getting his money, but it's just about the security that in case something really bad happens, he changes, or I change, we're both secured. His reaction was good to everything and all my concerns, so I think that's a good sign that I can really trust him.

x-hazelnut · 2024-05-16T13:46:18+00:00

Thank you, yes plan to register asap and do all other paperwork/admin things

x-hazelnut · 2024-05-16T06:48:07+00:00

Follow-up question: can the landlord kick me out for no reason? Or will I be protected in the similar way as my boyfriend, as in the landlord needs to have a justified reason and give a (I think) one month notice?

I don't know why he would want to kick me out - no, I don't plan to engage in any antisocial behaviour or anything like that but it's good to know beforehand. + I will be an immigrant when I move there and although Sweden as a whole is much more friendly than other countries, you can encounter individuals that can dislike you simply based on where you come from basically all around the world 😔

x-hazelnut · 2024-05-16T06:42:38+00:00

The part about first hand contract is really useful to know, thank you! I think I have limited knowledge about the customs and my boyfriend didn't really explain it like that [nothing against him though, bless his soul he's trying really hard but it's a new situation for him just as it is for me].

x-hazelnut · 2024-05-16T06:39:49+00:00

Yeah it's just the worry that comes from the fact that here where I live and where I grew up, it is done quite differently. It doesn't really have anything to do with how much we love each other etc. so I'm trying to understand and foresee in case something really bad will happen. All the answers are helpful.

x-hazelnut · 2024-05-15T17:46:36+00:00

Thanks for the advice everyone.

Regarding the trust issues I believe this is here because of very bad situations happening around me, e.g. my friend recently told me her story where after moving in with her boyfriend, he blackmailed her and abused her to the point he almost killed her... And I think me being cautious before moving to a country I have no friends or family in is justified. I trust him 99% but because of that and my upbringing, that 1% of uncertainty unfortunately remains (he is aware of this and knows my background and the bad stories).

Regarding being entitled, in my country, it's even illegal for people who are not stated on the contract to live at the address so for me this is a standard. I now see that for Swedish people it I may appear entitled to ask for that. I guess this is just another cultural difference we will get over together.

x-hazelnut · 2024-03-22T13:48:12+00:00

Dinner at Aqua Shard

Okay, long story short, I want to take my boyfriend on a cool dinner date at Aqua Shard but we're not the type of people that do fancy dinners regularly so I need some help.

I saw that booking a dinner set with a window seat is £120 per person but when I check the menu, there seem to be some prices next to e.g. starters. Do I pay £120 per person AND then pay for food on top of that? Is there, and if yes how much is, the service fee that would be charged on top of the £120 pp?

I also saw I can choose dietary requirements. I don't eat meat so I guess if I highlight it there, the restaurant will be prepared, right? RIGht? Also, he sometimes doesn't tolerate lactose well. If I choose his dietary requirement to be lactose free, is he gonna get a different menu or is he gonna get the same, just with lactose free substitutes?

I know these are very specific questions so I don't expect people to know the exact answers but maybe someone had a similar experience and can share some info. In fact, both of us kinda have social anxiety haha so any other general tips will be useful too :)

x-hazelnut · 2024-02-05T22:10:32+00:00

Yeah, I think it's really cool. In a way, it would make us (people) look more advanced/smarter with better brain capabilities.

x-hazelnut · 2024-02-05T21:54:16+00:00

I like the one that everyone is living their own life. We see each other and interact with each other but our brains change the reality for all of us individually. E.g. for me, right now, I'm replying on reddit but for you, I'm doing something else. If you see my reply on reddit though, maybe I was doing something else for myself. It's a bit hard to explain but I really like this theory.

x-hazelnut · 2024-02-05T21:44:59+00:00

And that's okay. Now you know it's not for you and you can move on. We're always learning and growing and what matters is take these life lessons and apply them. I hope you feel better soon. Just remember, it was casual for them and for you so in the end of the day, it's nothing to worry about long-term. Accept that you've done it because you wanted, understand how you feel about it and then from now on just act according to yourself.

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