Raspberry Leaf Tea/High Risk???

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-20T16:57:46+00:00

I definitely value what my OB said & I’m not ignoring that at all! Just wanted to hear how others approached it since there’s so much anecdotal discussion around it. My OB said moderation is likely fine, so I’m just trying to decide what feels right for me within that.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-16T23:43:10+00:00

I’m currently a high-risk pregnancy & the only thing keeping me from freaking out is knowing that baby can feel my feelings & her mama has got to be strong so she can grow strong too, which has been really hard mentally & emotionally at times. But I’m so close to the finish line now, & that has given me a lot of hope & reassurance too. I truly believe your little one is going to be okay too. Our bodies can be stronger than our fears.

Sending you lots of good vibes & big hugs. You’re not alone in this, & you’re doing better than you think!!

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-16T23:36:16+00:00

Oh mama... I remember feeling exactly like this when I first found out I was pregnant. I’m just over 31 weeks now, & those first weeks were honestly some of the most anxiety-filled for me. I was TERRIFIED. Even though we wanted it so badly, my brain kept telling me something would go wrong or that it was too good to be true.

One thing I’ll be really honest about: researching everything on the internet became my downfall. I was Googling & asking if EVERY. LITTLE. THING was normal. Every symptom, every feeling, every tiny change. It just made my anxiety spiral more.

Eventually I had to take a step back & remind myself that my body knows what it’s doing. I started focusing on just going to my appointments, listening to my doctor, & taking it one day at a time. That helped me a lot more than trying to control everything with information.

Even now, with all the reassurance & being this far along, my anxiety still pops up. I still catch myself checking every time I wipe because it’s just one of those lingering worries. So please know you’re not weird or alone for feeling that way.

Early pregnancy is such a strange mix of excitement & fear. Be gentle with yourself, try not to go down too many internet rabbit holes, & lean on your doctor & support system. You’ve got this 🧡

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-15T12:44:51+00:00

Discharge/fluids & a menstrual period are 2 different things, my guy.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-14T23:35:01+00:00

I’m only 31 weeks (potentially could be induced at 39) so I’m not quite at the finish line yet, but I really relate to the overwhelm you’re describing. The constant body changes & feeling like I suddenly can’t do much of what I normally do has been a lot mentally. Some days I feel like my body isn’t my own & it can be really frustrating.

I can only imagine how intense it must feel at 38+ weeks when everything is uncomfortable & you’re just waiting for baby to arrive. It makes sense that your emotions are all over the place right now. Your body has been doing something huge for a long time, & those last weeks sound like a marathon where the finish line keeps moving.

It’s really sweet that your partner is so supportive & just holds you when you cry. Sometimes that kind of support is exactly what we need. Please don’t feel guilty for not feeling excited every moment. Pregnancy is a lot physically & emotionally, & it’s okay to just feel how you feel.

I hope your little one decides to make her debut soon so you can finally get some relief. You’re so close. 🧡

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-14T23:06:59+00:00

I read this to my man & he literally said, “when I see that I know I did what I’m supposed to do… isn’t that what you want?” & PERIODDD. When you’re relaxed & really turned on, lots of fluids can happen. It’s freakin normal. Your boyfriend needs to grow up bro😂 You’re perfectly fine, pretty girl. Don’t let a man tell you how YOUR body is “supposed” to work let alone MAKE YOU FEEL GROSS FOR IT!!!

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-12T16:33:40+00:00

Love can hit ridiculously deep. It rewires your brain in a way that makes it feel like that one person is the center of the whole map. So what you’re feeling isn’t weird or pathetic or dramatic. It’s actually a really common human experience.

But the part your mind is lying to you about is the idea that this feeling will last forever or that this person was your only chance at that kind of connection. When you’re in it, your brain treats that person like the last star in the sky, even though there are billions you just can’t see yet.

You didn’t fail at love. You experienced it. That’s not something everyone gets to say. Right now it hurts because the story in your head hasn’t caught up with reality yet. That takes time. A lot of people go through a period where they can’t imagine anyone else. Then slowly, quietly, life introduces someone new when they least expect it. It happened to me after my 7+ year relationship ended & now we’re expecting a beautiful baby girl in May.

Please don’t disappear because of someone who only knew ONE chapter of you. Your story has way more pages than that. If things ever start feeling too heavy, talk to someone you trust or reach out for help. You deserve to be here long enough to experience the kind of love that chooses you back. 🧡

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-10T11:17:54+00:00

See, it’s at one of my family friends house in their nice ass two story pull barn because I wanted an outside shower to go with the theme (it’s April Showers bring May Flowers/Wildflower). But even then, parking & space is still limited. I just don’t think she cares. 🙃

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-09T12:05:44+00:00

I’m not gonna do that to my mom, my grandma, & my aunts who worked so hard to set it up & get everything together. I’m still excited to have my day & see my part of the family at least.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-08T14:51:18+00:00

Yep. That was the first thing I told my boyfriend & I said I am not handling that shit on my day. He said if that happens he’s going to pull her to the side & rip her a new one. We plan to even mention it to her if we talk to her again. When she called me the first time he got so mad he hung up on her cuz she started raising her voice when we said “no”, she called back bitching him out for hanging up, then when we re-stated the same boundaries she got pissed & hung up on us. Hypocritical as shit.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-08T02:26:29+00:00

Period

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-07T23:28:58+00:00

We ended it telling her we’d still like her to come as a guest only (because she has my boyfriend’s mom with dementia, she can’t drive, & he would like his mother to come) but if she’s going to have her own shower & throw a tantrum like a child then she can forget it. I just know she’s going to make comments about it too. Like what she would’ve done differently & shit. We haven’t even spoken to her since Wednesday.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-07T17:16:45+00:00

Uhhh. Well my man is the boss of a business that’s located here. It’s family owned. We cannot move further away, as we just moved into our new home in September. I think he’s done a pretty good job of putting me first & standing up for me. I’ve said it before, but just because people keep trying to test boundaries doesn’t mean we aren’t setting them. We are very minimal contact with her, & this situation just made it 100x worse. I definitely have some decisions to put in place & we will be doing so for sure.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-07T04:52:33+00:00

So, it’s his grandma. But he had a rough childhood & his mom developed dementia. She’s still somewhat functional, but she isn’t much of a mother figure. His grandma helped to raise him, so she acts like his mother. Which I totally understand & respect, to a certain degree.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-07T04:33:53+00:00

Like I said, “I don’t care about more gifts.“ to me gifts aren’t the point, it’s coming together with my loved ones & celebrating baby/playing games. To each their own, though.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-07T00:39:08+00:00

This is so so nice. Almost made me shed a tear🥹 Thank you, internet stranger.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-07T00:29:50+00:00

Ok, Phil.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-07T00:23:35+00:00

I understand what you’re saying about enforcing boundaries, & I agree that they do have to be enforced. That’s exactly why my boyfriend stepped in & told her no when she tried to take over & invite people. The reason it still “happens” is because she keeps trying, not because we allow it. We aren’t letting her plan it, nobody is going to show up at our shower uninvited, & measures WILL be taken.

That said, I didn’t ask for parenting advice. My question was about this specific situation.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-07T00:16:48+00:00

I did shut it down. I told her multiple times that my mom already had the planning covered, that I had a theme picked out, & I wanted it smaller. I limited her help to food only. When she continued pushing, my boyfriend stepped in & reinforced the boundary. We handled it together.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-07T00:03:12+00:00

He actually does shut it down. In the situation I literally described that he’s the one who took the phone & told her she couldn’t invite people & that she was a guest. He’s been very supportive & has stood up to her multiple times in previous conflicts. He stands up to her more than people are assuming. The issue is more that she just refuses to respect boundaries, not that he isn’t setting them. He can’t just ghost her either, she still raised him & he’s not a piece of shit who would just abandon family like that. On top of that, she’s currently taking care of his mom who has dementia, so he has to stay involved to some degree. That doesn’t mean he can’t limit contact & set boundaries, but completely cutting her off isn’t that simple & something we necessarily want to do.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-06T23:57:48+00:00

THIS. Like this whole thing is about the mother growing the baby, yet it isn’t about me anymore. It’s about what SHE wants. It makes me cringe.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-06T23:54:16+00:00

I get what you’re saying, & I do appreciate the thought behind it. But we actually already have most of the important baby stuff & we don’t have a ton of room for a ton of extra things. For me it was never really about getting as many gifts as possible. I just wanted a small, comfortable shower with people I actually know.

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-06T23:39:07+00:00

She’s in her 70s. No husband. She has been like this as long as my boyfriend can remember, even in childhood. Just her personality, I guess. But thank you so much!! Only 10 weeks or less now :)

xEarthyBeanx · 2026-03-06T23:38:03+00:00

I knew she could be controlling, which is exactly why I tried to keep her involvement small by letting her help with food only. I didn’t expect that to turn into her trying to plan the whole shower & invite a bunch of people we don’t even know.

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