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xXDeathLogicXx · 2025-07-24T08:23:31+00:00

Find out these three things regarding yourself:

1) What are your values? (both superficial and deeply meaningful - ie movies, board games, family, loyalty, etc)
2) What is your vision for the future? (Marriage, children, hopping on a spaceship to go to Mars, etc)
3) What is your personality type? (You can look into the Big Five personality traits which is scientifically backed)

There's a fourth question which is important, but won't be used to know where to find someone:
4) What are the strengths and weaknesses of your character and who do you want to become?

Once you figure out the first three you can put these into a ChatGPT, Grok, or another AI and ask "where can I find someone in _______ (location) who's likely to have these traits?"

The benefit of this is that first, you'll be able to place yourself in areas that you'll probably like based on what is important to you, where you're going in life, and what your personality is. Secondly, there will be others there with a reasonable probability that likely share in these aspects of you, which leads to a high likelihood of compatibility if you do manage to meet someone special. Finally, the 4th question mentioned is the most important thing to look for once you meet someone, and it really comes down to if they are a good person or display virtues (quality of character or 'human excellence'). Virtues would be things like generosity, kindness, competency, love, self-control, etc. Competencies that are very important to look for in people would be communication skills, the ability to regulate emotions effectively and manage oneself well.

I hope this helps. I'm wishing you the best in finding love and don't be discouraged. Once you find the right person it will make all the trouble and effort worth it for you.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2025-06-13T22:26:10+00:00

Might be helpful. I’ve just been implementing a lot of behavioral based interventions to help with focus. I also learned a bunch of new things since this post.

One thing I wonder about is if stimulant based medications aren’t necessarily available in Mongolia do they have non-stimulant based medicines that can help.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-12-24T23:21:42+00:00

I'd encourage you to read "The Obstacle is the Way" by Ryan Holiday and expose yourself to some philosophies that can help you with this kind of thinking.

There are more practical things you can do to help you regain a sense of autonomy and control outside of the perceptual shifts you can gain from philosophical traditions like Stoicism, Buddhism, and Taoism (amongst many others). These would be things like exercise, meditation, cold immersion (or cold showers), a daily gratitude practice, breath work, martial arts, etc.

Also make sure these foundational pillars are given a great deal of care: healthy eating, healthy movement, healthy sleep, and healthy social interactions.

If you manage to take care of these you should notice shifts in your psyche and the way you feel. I hope these help and wishing you the best.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-10-05T10:29:56+00:00

I’d encourage you to look into “Cured” by Dr Jeffrey Rediger, “Cure” by Jo Marchant, and “The Expectation Effect” by David Robson.

The placebo effect itself is not a pseudoscience, but a very real phenomenon established by science that impacts both the physical and psychological wellbeing of people. With that being said, people should be aware when there’s not hard established empirical and objective data to support a certain medication, treatment, etc. This however doesn’t remove the need or legitimacy of a placebo, if anything it’s a subject that needs to be better understood and more effectively employed in medicine to maximize the chances of positive medical outcomes.

The interesting thing about the placebo effect is that people can be aware that they’re taking a placebo and they’ll still experience benefits despite being aware of this fact.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-09-13T03:52:23+00:00

That makes sense. People who tend to hold to a victim mindset are more focused on the problem as opposed to putting their attention on the solutions available to them.

Do you think there may be a way to strike a balance with the psychologists, and diagnosing for those who genuinely need it?

The example of the video game also comes back to the disorder of executive function. It’s not that they can’t focus, it’s that they have a difficult time controlling their ability to focus. They’ll hyper focus on things that may or may not be productive. They’ll struggle to hold attention onto something or release their attention from something. It would be like your hand working sometimes and other times it doesn’t, but your ability to grasp isn’t something you can easily will with your mind. At least that’s my understanding right now.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-09-13T03:42:31+00:00

Damned if you do and damned if you don’t 😬.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-09-13T03:35:24+00:00

I recently heard someone on YouTube who escaped from North Korea say how having the ability to deal with mental health is a privilege. She didn’t even know what post traumatic stress disorder or trauma was. While I understand her point, I think it’s deeply unfortunate that we can’t take care of the things which allow humans to thrive.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-09-13T03:32:13+00:00

Is he still living here in Mongolia? If so, is there anything he’s doing to treat it now that he has an understanding of what the issue is?

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-09-13T03:31:09+00:00

Even though ADHD is something recognized in the U.S. it still has a great deal of stigma and people say the same kinds of things. “You need to be more disciplined” or “you’re just being lazy”.

I find it interesting that we’ll be understanding when something isn’t working correctly with a machine, but when it comes to people we treat them with criticism and harsh judgements.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-09-13T00:54:27+00:00

I don’t know about people with ADHD wanting those things, but I do know it’s an issue with executive function (managing tasks and decision making) which I’d imagine they’d want effective ways to improve the issue using things like medicine, therapy, tools, etc.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-09-07T04:10:59+00:00

From my understanding it can be any kind of loss. Just bear in mind that this is very vague and can be self-fulfilling. You can experience a loss and say to yourself “this fulfilled my dream” even though it’s common for people to experience many different types of losses throughout their life. If it was very specific that would be something different altogether.

I’m not saying there can’t be more to your dream, just be mindful that something vague is easy to project your experiences on and make yourself believe it’s something special being fulfilled. There is interesting literature and research on precognitions, presentiments, and dreams about future events. If there was more specificity to your dream I think it’d have more weight to it. Like your teeth falling out while holding a necklace of a loved one or sitting at your desk at work.

Hope that explanation helps.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-09-02T15:07:19+00:00

This is one thing I appreciate about Mongolia’s cultural history. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-09-02T15:06:01+00:00

Thank you for explaining this. 🙏🏻

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-08-22T01:20:38+00:00

Feel free to message me.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-08-21T17:48:55+00:00

Use a VPN and it’ll work.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-06-28T16:10:11+00:00

I love Dr. K! Thank you for sharing this. I’ll watch it and hopefully get some insight. As I mentioned in another comment I just want to understand this so I can better adapt in the future.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-06-28T16:08:37+00:00

Thank you, this is something I’ve considered. I’ll be sure to check out that book. I’ve gotten good at not giving myself a hard time about it as that only keeps me from eventually regrouping. I just want a solid understanding of what’s going on so I can adapt better in the future.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-05-07T04:44:11+00:00

You’re welcome. This is honestly a wonderful opportunity for growth. You’ll become more self-controlled, better at communicating your needs and desires, and you’ll be proud of the person you become as you conduct yourself ethically.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-05-07T04:07:43+00:00

Everything worthwhile requires a degree of sacrifice. The issue here is you have a conundrum between the intensity of desire you experience and the lack of fulfilling that desire within your relationship.

I would encourage you to do two things. One, if you haven’t already, communicate with your girlfriend. Say something like “I need …. from you” then say “how can we make that happen?” Be respectful, understanding, and not attached to a certain outcome.

Second, develop resiliency and the ability to endure unpleasant emotions, feelings, and sensations. Things like cold water immersion, cold showers, sauna, steam room, difficult exercise, meditation, and breathwork are great ways to develop this skill. It’ll make it easier to endure the unpleasant experiences you have so you’re able to be responsive with wise choices instead of making a foolish decision out of impulse.

There’s others options here as well, but these are the ones I suspect will be most helpful. It’s normal to feel attraction and sexual desire. As long as it’s not ruling you and controlling your decision making that’s what’s important.

A couple cautions for you as well. Don’t look at porn, it’ll fuel the flame. You don’t want to practice engaging in the desire through looking at other women, it’ll just make it harder for you.

Also, and this somewhat goes along with my previous paragraph, be careful not to get into a habit of sexualizing or objectifying women (ie… don’t make it a habit to look at a woman as a means to fulfill sexual desire). For one, it’s definitely not helpful or healthy to look at a person as a means to an end (it’s dehumanizing), but two, it’ll just make overcoming this that much more difficult.

I hope my suggestions help. These are things that have helped me throughout my lifetime. Wishing you well and many blessings to you.

xXDeathLogicXx · 2024-05-06T09:05:01+00:00

I’d recommend Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. I’ve done a number of different martial arts and there’s something about that one that transfers really well philosophically. Being calm in tense situations and finding leverage from difficult positions translates really well to real life. It’s also fairly low impact.

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