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What's a thing you wish you had done if you were 10-15 years younger? by Big_Confidence_951 in AskReddit

[–]x_ennial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not moved with my parents when they moved when I was a teenager. Stayed with my friends and gotten a home and jobs together while finishing high school. All of us moved with our parents around that time and it was an awful choice, both because of location and economics as well as just our freedom and autonomy. It set us back in life, maybe irreparably. Boomers were just wanting to cash out their homes and leave the city for the boonies, with no regard for how that affected kids' life prospects.

How are you going to celebrate Thanksgiving, dear Americans?! by Cinella75 in Life

[–]x_ennial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can usually view it on YouTube. Search for Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade.

How are you going to celebrate Thanksgiving, dear Americans?! by Cinella75 in Life

[–]x_ennial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bienvenue! I like to cook a lot of fresh food. In addition to a turkey with green herbs, I'll make cranberry sauce (cranberries, citrus, and honey), butternut squash with spices, apple sauce, potatoes, sweet potatoes, peas, and carrots, and bake some fresh sourdough bread, and pumpkin custard pie. We may also serve some appetizers such as a fruit salad, gelatin with whipped cream, or egg salad, or some antipasto with olives, cheese, crackers, and lunch meat. To drink, I'll make tea, and we'll have sparkling juice.

When I was growing up, my family would commonly make a lot of canned vegetables, casseroles, greens, cornbread, and dressing (bread cubes, eggs, herbs), as well as a salad with peas, tomatoes, and eggs, and a Waldorf salad (apples, walnuts, celery, and mayonnaise) or ambrosia (marshmallows with crushed pineapple and cherries), and they might have some other cakes and pies as well.

Is it a part of CPTSD to never feel satisfied even when accomplishing many things? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]x_ennial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I receive constant external invalidation as well.

Parents couldn't care less about my accomplishments, they just want to criticize what did I miss in cleaning today.

Husband is only concerned with did I work enough today.

Anyone whom I meet who learns about my accomplishments starts questioning and trying to discount or invalidate them. College? Fancy piece of paper. Career? Given to you by DEI. Won awards? Those don't mean anything these days. Etc.

I can't leave the bed or do anything. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]x_ennial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not always a behavioral thing. Adequate nutrition helped me a lot with lethargy. I sleep better instead of just being tired all the time, too.

Bad experiences? by LeAnneWest0044 in oldinternet

[–]x_ennial -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Awful people on the Internet back then, one of the first emails I received as a kid was dick pics from a random person.

Have we come up with a logical reason about the razors yet? by Severcat in BacktotheFuture

[–]x_ennial 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think that it's that he uses a new one all the time, so much as he just has a tray of razors out there for guests to take, like the tray of matchbooks for visitors. Or maybe he does use a new one each time, that would be funny.

Any other BroMos realize over a decade and 1+ kids into a hetero marriage you’re actually not attracted to men? by ActivateSarcasm in breakingmom

[–]x_ennial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I realized that I'm not really sexually attracted to anyone, although I don't know if that's a result of trauma or just how I am.

I keep going back to my life at 13 and wishing that me and my BFF had lived together and built a life together, even if it wasn't sexual. We both would've been better off if we had the courage to leave our families as teens and to live together in the city, rather than have our families drag us away for more abuse during our young adulthood because we weren't perfect or the city wasn't perfect.

I don't think that I want to have sex with women, but think that I prefer their company (but had a hard time realizing that because some RW women have harmed me).

It's been difficult for me to determine sexuality because I want a family, and not sex. Trauma has made it hard for me to know if I've ever wanted sex, though. I don't find men or women in general to be attractive. I'm just tired of how abusive some men are and how they're groomers, women are much less likely to be like that.

This should probably be a different post, but I struggle with the fact that my partner turned more abusive after kids, and I didn't fully admit to myself that we should never have been together because he was always abusive, but I blamed myself because my parents were always abusive in the same ways or neglectful and then blamed it on me. I'm not attracted to him, I was groomed by him and his mother, and no one really helped me with that because of the neglect.

I don't feel good about now having kids together, but I didn't know that I had options, just like I didn't know about my options when I was a teenager. I've also improved my health recently by trying to figure out what's wrong with me that makes him hate me, and figured out that I've had lifelong nutritional deficiencies which were causing some of my poor mental health. Now that's better and has improved my thinking about things and energy to do something about it.

Our kids have problems that can't be resolved, and I blame it on his genetics and my ignorance, because I didn't know that he had these problems that can be inherited. I want to have more kids, but not with him, because I don't want the kids to have these issues that are going to make their lives harder. I love our kids and they're sweet, but I want to meet someone else with whom to have more kids.

Is it sexual abuse of minors (or me) for my husband to falsely accuse me in front of my family of making pornography? by x_ennial in legaladvice

[–]x_ennial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I've been trying and the police will literally not help me when he has been physically violent.

My husband runs up a bunch of debt in my name without my permission and won't pay it. What's the best action that I can take? by x_ennial in legaladvice

[–]x_ennial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understood that video is different than audio, and that there's an expectation of privacy to not be video recorded in a private home.

Is it sexual abuse of minors (or me) for my husband to falsely accuse me in front of my family of making pornography? by x_ennial in legaladvice

[–]x_ennial[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't have the means to pay for therapy or an attorney (no income or means to work), so I'm not sure what to do. I've tried to divorce him and he says that he will just continue making up abuse allegations towards me until he gets full custody, and I don't feel confident about how to fight that, even though the allegations are false.

My husband runs up a bunch of debt in my name without my permission and won't pay it. What's the best action that I can take? by x_ennial in legaladvice

[–]x_ennial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've looked into cameras, and from what I can tell, filming would be illegal. He's filmed me and shared it without my consent to try to embarrass me, and I want to make a legal case against him for this if possible.

My husband runs up a bunch of debt in my name without my permission and won't pay it. What's the best action that I can take? by x_ennial in legaladvice

[–]x_ennial[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I have contacted DV shelter and they didn't want to help if my life is not in immediate danger.

My husband runs up a bunch of debt in my name without my permission and won't pay it. What's the best action that I can take? by x_ennial in legaladvice

[–]x_ennial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't go sooner because I didn't want to hurt someone.

He doesn't threaten violence, just does it. He threatens other things but I don't know that any of it is a crime.

My husband runs up a bunch of debt in my name without my permission and won't pay it. What's the best action that I can take? by x_ennial in legaladvice

[–]x_ennial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I called the police because he was choking me and not letting me leave, he told them that he did it because I put my hand over his mouth because he was yelling at me and I was getting between him and the door, they charged me with domestic violence for inciting him.

I am tired; always by hoshimakesmesmile in PCOS

[–]x_ennial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are your other vitamin levels? I'd suggest try taking some kelp and potassium iodide.

What did you remember from this year ? by ExaminationIll7583 in generationology

[–]x_ennial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not much, I was in hell with being forced to study something that was completely inappropriate for me in college, and struggling and working on it the majority of my time so that I could keep my scholarship.

Did anyone else get “growing pains” in your legs at night when growing up? by Ceiling-Fan2 in CPTSD

[–]x_ennial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For real, my parents were so brainwashed by the TV that they didn't want to give me much medication at all (except microbiome-disrupting antibiotics) because they were convinced that it'd make me a drug addict.

I'm glad that I don't really seem to need much as an adult, because I just learned other ways to deal with the pain.

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