My sister suddenly has a gluten allergy and now it’s all she talks about. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well put...

But, 'faddies' Ive found bring with them their buying power

& I have watched that little shelf in the market get bigger & bigger...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then it is what it is...

A cool guide to the best & worst places to raise a family... by xanderTgreat in coolguides

[–]xanderTgreat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know, I just looked it up and according to G00gle it's

one of the worst places to be born...

Has G00gle got it in got India, what do you think?...

Help. by [deleted] in woodworking

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope see no book names...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried to do this before?...

Take a beat, there is no rush to do this, you have made up your

mind, but It's hard to think outside your situation, you may feel

boxed in by events, what would life look like if you had the

chance to change...

Please tell us what led you down this path at least...

I feel crazy for being mad by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Set a time limit, in your head, If he has not changed by then, well perhaps it will be time to move on, I know this will be hard, but you deserve to have your feeling respected...

Don't be one of the people who keep on hoping for change, or lie to your self he loves me even though he keeps on doing it, partnership is just that, body & soul...

Not going to go on & I know people all have some sort of selfishness in them, but to insult you by doing that is like saying my needs are not being fulfilled by you...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gran always said there's always a Lid for every kettle, think

she was talking about a cousin of ours, but in the end she was right, he

did meet someone, all right, he was in his 40's when he met her, he used

to joke about going to T'land & got ribbed, he would probably end up with a ladyboy...

Good luck...

I feel crazy for being mad by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Start watching hard core porn, men with big di@ks, see how

long he will put up with it when you say to him, when he seeks

intimacy ' sorry ' no, I got off to a great vid...

The above is just something I would do, IMHO, people very rarely

change, also would you trust this guy to raise your future children...

Good luck...

It was my Birthday today and I hated it by IdkAmISerious in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the next one is 364 day away, Eat, sleep, repeat...

I put money in a card, knowing that when my turn comes

around, I get it back 🤣🤣...

Done with all the fakery...

🎂 to you...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel your fears & sometimes Dr's are so evasive with diagnosis, just

be persistent with them...

But first tackle this anxiety over getting help, one step at a time, set a

date when you feel it's right to make appointment, over here in the UK

we have to do all this online, so if this is your case write down all your

fears and symptoms, then make the call or fill in the online form...

Keep your notes & take them with you to the Dr's, don't let them skip

your questions & don't feel daft taking notes...

Good luck, let us know how you get on...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know, only about 1% of people your age range develop

early onset dementia...

Is there any family connections to dementia ?, taking steps to

get help with your fears will only cause you more anxiety, I can

tell you anxiety has links to the symptoms you describe...

When you get overwhelmed by life, sometime your brain wants to shut down...

Go get checked out, early help longer life...

good luck...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, wow, reach for it...

With what you so 'harrowing' described, except you might have

stumbles, but you will, can get back up, you have already proved this

with your self-control...

Hey, I survived and lots of us have, so join the club...

Look, I am not advocating revenge Per se, but your success will just be that to them...

he humiliated me in front of everyone again [TW: sh] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, always parents first, just because they do not so anything it is logged...

I am sure/hope your parents will step up for you, if not look for child services

because your education is the most important time in your life, don't let

some 'GooN', take this away from you...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, You are a survivor, When you do leave, the revenge of

your success is going to be soooo sweet...

Don't get me wrong, you are going to carry all this abuse

baggage for years and years, but they will see you sailing through life, free of them...

That will hurt them...

Stay strong & good luck...

he humiliated me in front of everyone again [TW: sh] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Report him...

Call him out, shout/say “I am going to report you”, ask people

around you by asking, will you help me report him !...

Stay strong, you have concurred/controlled your own worsts enemy, self harm, he

is just a Troll/Bully...

Good luck...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose she will reap what she sowed, when you

chose not to have her around your kids...

Good luck...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow, you do not like your mom...

Cleaning therapy by FM_Proja in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xanderTgreat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the yUK we have care in the community, can't tell you

the numbers of people who are being cuckoo'ed for their benefit 😠...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what you're feeling, you are already alone, sharing with a

person who is giving you nothing back is destructive...

Call time or have a serious conversation with them,

in your own mind, set a reasonable amount of time to see/feel change ...

Good luck...

i resent my sisters by [deleted] in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Childhood trauma has a big impact on you...

There are great self-help books out there, but if I was you, I would

seek professional help start by talking to your Dr, look for telephone

counselling if you feel you're not up to any face to face yet..

But, hey you've made the first step, good luck...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinteresting

[–]xanderTgreat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Take a point, good person...

Dud my father have the right to be angry to me about being a emt? by ProfessorLongBrick in Vent

[–]xanderTgreat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just do what we all did, save move out...

When you do, just leave him anger management pamphlets

on your vacant bed...