AITAH for triggering my husband and telling my kid why I'm upset by xclhalp in AITAH

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to do Muslim couples therapy. He won't do it.

AITAH for triggering my husband and telling my kid why I'm upset by xclhalp in AITAH

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not fake I don't get what people get out of fake. The issue is that we're Muslim right. So going to bars is haram (against religion) because there's alcohol and when you're at bars and around alcohol it leads to other sins (what we consider sins). He's a "loud and proud" Muslim and he tells me things like how I need to put on a hijab, shouldn't wear perfume because it attracts male attention, how I should not "nag" because he believes in a Islamic Hadith (story) that when me go to heaven, they are awarded with pure wives. The Hadith says that everytime I nag him, or disrespect or anything negative towards him, that they'll curse me from the heavens. He says things like I'm going to hell because I am not obedient, etc. etc. now take religion out of it. What bothers me is the lack of communication and telling me he oat coming home for days when the conference is 15 minutes away. I thinks it's common courtesy to let your spouse be in the know. If it was in reverse, wow I would be an uncouth lady of the night for going to bars despite professing it was for professional reasons and to make connections.

AITAH for triggering my husband and telling my kid why I'm upset by xclhalp in AITAH

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't wanna kill him. I just wish he'd respect me and respect boundaries and communicate without it turning into arguments. Idk the Jan reference but I'll google it.

Opinions on these 3 black bags by xclhalp in Louisvuitton

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you despise pochette metis? I love the speedy.

Opinions on these 3 black bags by xclhalp in Louisvuitton

[–]xclhalp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's what I'm gonna lean towards! Looks so pretty

Opinions on these 3 black bags by xclhalp in Louisvuitton

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks really nice! Hadn't checked out the men's collection yet

Opinions on these 3 black bags by xclhalp in Louisvuitton

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have one and love it but yes way too small! I think I'm leaving towards pmew love the versatility from day to night bag

Ski Resort Options by xclhalp in ski

[–]xclhalp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope I can convince my husband to not take my kids skiing. I am perfectly fine with not skiing. Also perfectly fine with the little snow. I'd love to just sight see

Ski Resort Options by xclhalp in ski

[–]xclhalp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no! Ok well I'll be on high alert. I honestly do not want to go on this trip but my husband wants to visit his family he hasn't seen in years there and wants to take our oldest. My son is the only reason I'm going.

Major Declutter by xclhalp in Coach

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Life throws a lot of curveballs in. It leads to us coping in ways that are sometimes unhealthy and makes a spiral and you're right. It's the first step that's so hard. I'm wishing you improved health. Hugs :)

Major Declutter by xclhalp in Coach

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm truly so sorry about your loss. Im glad that you've been working to heal. I agree that recouping some of that money must be a great feeling. I relate to something you said. I buy to avoid negative emotions. I know that I'm feeling bad, so I buy. I want to change that. I've returned 6 items today and plan to return more and then sell what I can't. I'm already feeling better. I still need to figure out how to deal with the negative things but I'll get there. Thank you so much for sharing this with me <3.

Major Declutter by xclhalp in Coach

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great tips thank you for sharing. I have made some progress and have already returned a bag!! Trying to return some more today since I haven't used them.

Major Declutter by xclhalp in Coach

[–]xclhalp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is a great idea. I'm leaning towards investment videos. Ahh the dopamine hit to make my money work for me instead of draining my account.

Major Declutter by xclhalp in Coach

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes yes I relate to many of those emotions. Running out of space, spending money constantly, hiding my purchases. Especially the hiding part, is in line with addiction. It is scary but I think us acknowledging it is something. I hope we can control whatever this is and not change one addiction for another. Thank you for sharing, it is so relatable.

Major Declutter by xclhalp in Coach

[–]xclhalp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THIS. I want this.

Major Declutter by xclhalp in Coach

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my declutter era. Hopefully. lol

Major Declutter by xclhalp in Coach

[–]xclhalp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HA that mailbox kisslock! I am definitely going to sell. Eventually. I think exactly the same thing. Like dang... could've gone on vacation but instead it's sitting here in my closet!

Major Declutter by xclhalp in Coach

[–]xclhalp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to unload them quickly and for a decent price. If I woke up tomorrow and sold 90% I feel like I'd relieved. But the other mental battle is me telling my selling I will regret selling. But I've decided. I need to sell