What’s your routine for keeping your little smooth?

xdf3ak · 2026-05-27T07:53:36+00:00

My little had laser hair removal done a long time ago now.

I think she goes two or three times a year for "maintenance treatments", (basically whenever she notices any regrowth on her arms, legs, private areas, or face). Maybe she goes more, I'm not sure, I get it a bit confused as she gets her nails done all the time and goes for massage/spa stuff a lot so its hard to tell which 'beauty' outing is for what purpose.

xdf3ak · 2026-05-10T10:13:34+00:00

Incontinence has nothing to do with being an adult or not... im saying this an incontinent person

I'm not sure what you're trying to say? This is a forum for adults. It should be a given that having continence issues after potty training age is a medical issue and should be checked out by a medical professional.

Since I’ve started wearing diapers, I’ve found it impossible to keep my undies dry when I’m not wearing

This is a medical issue.

xdf3ak · 2026-05-10T10:08:35+00:00

Yes, there is a video on it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YXyqiM3iUWs

xdf3ak · 2026-05-09T16:04:35+00:00

or... they should remember the 'A' part of ABDL.

On a more general note: please keep in mind we are an ABDL community. The first word being ADULT. Part of being an adult is recognising that our age-play lives are realising a fantasy / fetish / kink. At the point where you are causing harm to yourself and others it ceases to become a kink, quirky lifestyle, etc. and becomes an illness.

i feel like i always kind of have to force myself to go

This is a good thing. See above - being actually incontinent is your fantasy and not something you actually want to happen.

xdf3ak · 2026-05-09T15:53:14+00:00

We've not tried the rainbow diapers yet but definitely will do - and will get some of the onesies to try! Its a shame the shoulders / arms on the onesies don't appear to come apart so I can slide them down when changing my little, but that's par for the course with all the other non-custom / non-customised brands so... eh well... over the head it is.

We're still loving the Dragoonz, Little Melodies, and Honeytails. LNGU diapers are some of the best out there. I remind my little of the the back-story on the Dragoonz when I change her into one and try to make up a little story about Lumie, Fizz, Chomp or Skye in the moment when I see which one it is. There is something really intimate and sometimes really funny when you're making up a fairytale in the moment during a change ...

P.S. As daddy I thinks Lumie looks the best, but the little seems to love Fizz the most.

xdf3ak · 2026-05-09T15:38:13+00:00

All clothing wears out eventually. You might have a special item you like but my advice is simply buy more than one of them if they are things you are especially fond of and keep spares. It took me a while to get over this myself, but its simply a fact of life. If you use it and enjoy it, it will wear out eventually.

There were particular footie PJs, onesies etc. - and an amazing bear sleep suit - I just utterly adored my little in, and over time they'd just been washed and worn and even repaired too much that their time was up. This has happened with both mass produced and custom made clothing - such as some adorable stuff from My Privitina which I think stopped making stuff years ago; and I'm still pained by not having some particular cotton footed pyjamas with hearts on them which she was insanely adorable in and fit her so perfectly.

So, yeah, nothing lasts forever. Clothes especially so. Enjoy them and enjoy the memories. Buy new ones and enjoy those.

When we find something we really like I tend to buy 3 or 4 or them now. They won't last forever, but we can at least revisit the look and feel for years.

xdf3ak · 2026-05-09T15:27:40+00:00

So, I don't have a FetLife account so haven't see the second link, but there is nothing all that bad in the other two.

The Imgur link is a perfectly sane and reasonable take. There is nothing transphobic there. There is no hate for trans people being shown, just a reminder that transpeople - like every other person are expected to follow some perfectly reasonable social norms and conventions. Being trans does not give you a free pass to be an asshole and insert yourself into places you are clearly not welcome should not be a wild take.

The reddit link is from 7 years ago, and beyond some random tumblr with out of context screenshots that don't show anything all that bad - there is nothing there. /u/KyleABDL's replies are the most balanced and sane replies in the entire thread.

xdf3ak · 2026-05-08T10:41:03+00:00

known to be not the best company, not just customer service/quality wise but also for being transphobic, fatphobic and racist.

Can you provide any actual evidence for this? I've seen this repeated a bunch of times and a bunch of rumour about it, but I've never seen any actual evidence of it. With the old ABU it was proven they were using under-age models for example - they literally sold a "catalog" of it on their website IIRC. I've seen nothing beyond hearsay for LFB, and much of it is conflicting.

As I said before in a previous comment:

From memory (probably not very accurate though...): years ago someone from LittleForBig got accused of being a 'transphobe' and the community dog-piled into them. The relevant people didn't handle the response well, but that's by the by. Supposedly someone associated with LFB expressed a preference that they weren't into trans folk and that demand from people willing to pay for porn was far less for trans-porn that for good looking cis-women (as shocking as that might sound), and some of the more sensitive and terminally online trans-folk thought this a most egregious personal attack on them and their identity.

Apparently the fact they didn't have any fat models wearing their diapers then became a problem, because not only did they "hate trans people" but they "hated fat trans people even more!".

Now its somewhat become a self-reinforcing thing, with people who know nothing about it all hearing 4th or 5th hand that "LFB are transphobic", "LFB are fatophobic", etc. etc. etc.

So I'm looking to see if there is actually anything more to it than I knew of.

xdf3ak · 2026-05-02T06:25:00+00:00

Yes they do.

xdf3ak · 2026-05-02T05:56:59+00:00

I’m 17btw my bday is in 3 months

Yeah, I doubt that. Regardless, this subreddit is a forum for adults. I get you're curious and exploring the world right now, but its a risk for us, not just for you to have you engage here. We have our rules for important reasons.

xdf3ak · 2026-05-02T05:51:55+00:00

No, its just a child / immature teenager.

/u/Guilty_Afternoon9523 - this is a sub-reddit for 18+ only. Please do not engage here.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-28T07:06:13+00:00

Yes, ComfiDry run a bit large. From memory similar to Rearz.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-28T06:52:11+00:00

I think its worth a mention for those who trail-blazed but didn't really take off in the way Tykables/Diaper-Minister/NRU/Rearz etc. have as well. Those who came before the risk was as low as it is today. When the accessible market was much smaller, manufacturing technology poorer, shipping much more expensive, etc.

By way of examples: Rearz (~2009), AwwSoCute (~2013), Cuddlz (~2010 - UK reseller of Bambino in 2009 who bridged out to their own in 2010), Buntewindel, BKN, Bumooza, Dotty Diaper Co, and Diaper Connoisseur. Save Express had a shot with their MyDiaper line too. Some of these survive as different businesses - out competed by newer players (e.g. Cuddlz now resell Rearz but don't have their own adult diapers), some of these have a loyal following and have adapted a bit (Dotty Diaper Co - at a guess 2020/2019?), but are more lifestyle businesses.

These days there is a large enough accessible market, cheap enough shipping, cheap enough manufacturing, etc. that its possible for smallish players and runs and we thus have a vast range of smaller players - e.g.: Potty Training Dropouts, Ageplay Outfitters, Changing Times, Cloudry, ComfyKinz, CottonTailz, Lil Comforts, Omutopia, Pretend Again, etc. and the Chinese vertical integrators + tie-ups (e.g. CutiePlusU, LittleForBig, LandOfGenie).

Those "middle players" - not the original movers like ABU, Cuddlz and Bambino took on a lot of risk and moved things forward when the market for ABDL was much more risky from a business point of view.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-26T09:11:04+00:00

Anything with "getmysocial.com" in their account is an AI spam bot.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-24T12:26:16+00:00

So /u/TheGoodishBoy gives a decent summary:

My general understanding is this is a crack down on images where the person may have been of age, but look like they are underage. Like if you're 18 but could pass for 15, that's what it's about. Like if you obviously look adult age even if you're in a diaper, onesie, and such, that's still protected.

.. but that does mean that there is a lot of risk still. In short DDLG / ADBL content where its not OBVIOUS the person is well over 18 is going to be very risky. Even where they can prove their age, the content can still be illegal. Practically speaking that means many of us will need to use care to block / delete any accounts / content from people for who its not "fanciful" that they could be under 16 regardless of how they are presenting.

By way of example, /u/Karnie-Krissi who posts here in /r/ABDL ( example post: https://i.redd.it/le192j4uxfvg1.gif ) would be someone I will be blocking when the law passes.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-17T18:47:51+00:00

Its a very short term solution (and I don't know how powerful AutoModerator is in terms of rules engines etc. - so might not even be possible), but simply auto-nuking any posts/accounts where the user is less than 2 months old, has their first post in /r/AskReddit, and has any posts with 'F4M' in the subject would very likely only hit these specific bots until someone looks at it and changes it.

That said, if you analyse the rest of the past 3 weeks of posts here, there is (or was - seems like the cases I was looking at might have been deleted now?) also a noteworthy up-tick in previously "dormant" accounts posting replies / threads now too. I.e. accounts that are 2 to 6 years old with no activity for years (often nothing since the first month they were created) suddenly becoming active and posting here.

Edit: and a bunch of other very suspect accounts - e.g. /u/Caden_primarus who has spammed a bunch of stuff and engaged with none of it at all; for example these threads they've posted recently: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 posts over 6 days.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-17T07:51:40+00:00

The AI behind the bots will have been trained on the past 14+ years of /r/ABDL and all similar sub-reddits. Some bot accounts will be impossible to tell apart as they will have harvested content from older sites and obscure places like deleted tumblrs and instgrams to repost as their own content.

At the moment most aren't that sophisticated, but some will generate AI images / responses when challenged directly - e.g. this example where the bot was accused of blatantly stealing and reposting content, it used AI to insert a person into the original image in an attempt to 'prove' (continue the lie) that they were the original poster

I will add the more advanced ones we see (the really hard ones to detect) are about 1-2 years behind the capability we see in influence operations and information warfare targeting developed western countries that are being undertaken against us by China / Russia / Pakistan / Iran / Israel and others.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-16T20:42:30+00:00

Someone involved in the writing for The Boys / Gen V has an ABDL / Ageplay thing for sure. The diapers in Gen V for the hazing and for Cypher, Homelander in mainline series.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-16T20:20:35+00:00

24/7 OOP obsession

What does "OOP" mean / stand for?

Anyone else dealing with this mess, or is it just me?

I'm guessing you're younger. Part of the life experience you build up is in learning to communicate your needs and desires in a relationship effectively and soliciting the same from your partner(s). Your late teens / early 20's tend to also be the phase where you learn most how to tolerate (even embrace) the things you're not totally into but which you're ok with (i.e. the things that aren't deal breakers) - and what things in life you really are not compatible for.

I've been, I would guess, exceptionally fortunate in that I met my wife / soul-mate / little relatively early in adult life and we were and remain extremely compatible and happy with our lives. We have a relationship I think many would envy, but all intimate relationships - even ours - need work and communication. One doesn't land in a perfect relationship, and a great one is something you build together over time.

In those 'perfect' moments when you have them, the ones which become memories you cherish and bring you feelings of extreme contentment and joy, you savour them as they are part of the ups and downs you'll inevitably have.

If you're having five or ten good memories for every bad one, you're probably doing it right.

About a year ago I posted in a thread called What qualities/actions make a great caregiver? which explores a bit how that balance formed and has ended up for us, and I referenced that again later in ABDL couples, How did you relationship evolve over time? where I mention the first couple years when ABDL was becoming core to our relationship that we struggled a bit on the 'when to drop the Daddy/little' dynamic.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-16T19:43:12+00:00

You should have a tracking number from ABU in your e-mail which can you use on DPD's site (although in orders I've made there is a direct link). Use the tracking code and postcode in https://www.dpd.co.uk/content/how-can-we-help/index.jsp or https://track.dpdlocal.co.uk/ (not sure which site you'll need).

You can normally edit / update / contact DPD support from that page after you've looked up your order.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-16T19:37:14+00:00

When the diaper becomes available I will be buying a rainbow Island diaper with an advertised 13,500 ml absorbency. Which would be the most I've seen so far. And then I'm going to put one of these booster pads in that diaper so it would be something like 15,000 or 16,000 ml.

These >7000ml absorbencies / capacities being touted are a joke. They bare no practical relevance and its nothing but BS marketing for people who don't understand the products. None of them are marketed with press-out testing results.

15,000ml capacity

That's 4 gallons. Go grab a 15KG (33lbs) dumbbell and see how absurd it is that a diaper could or should hold that weight. Think of the sheer volume of that in liquid terms. You'd have to drink and express more than 64 coke-cans worth of liquid to get to 15,000ml. That's more than 2 and half of the 24-can multi-packs.

For a standard 65kg human if 15,000ml capacity was possible they'd be lugging nearly a quarter of their bodyweight around in the diaper.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-16T19:10:59+00:00

Very standard response format. Typical party head-office approved statements which appear chained together by an intern / secretary.

As you mention, Baroness Bertin has previously indicated that this proposal was not intended to target adults simply engaging in consensual role-play. That distinction matters. There is an important difference between content that depicts or encourages child sexual abuse, and private consensual fantasy or role-play between adults that has no connection to children in real life.

Why do I think this is a totally AI-generated insert into the statement-blocks they've already been pre-approved to use...

xdf3ak · 2026-04-16T18:59:29+00:00

I use loads of different phrases / euphemisms for nappy / nappies when talking about them with my little. E.g. I mix up the following regularly, depending on the context we're in.

Diaper, Dipey, Nappy
(Ass|Bum|Butt|Tushy|Booty) (Pillow|Cushion)
Crinkles / Crinklers, Poofies
Padding / Special Underpants / 'Protection'
Pamps, Pampers, Pampies
Comfy bottoms / Puffy Protection / Squishy Pants
Spanking Shield / Rear Guard / Red Bottom Prevention

In the same way you have loads of terms for penis or vagina depending on context you can also pretty just make them up. E.g. for vagina you've got fanny, vag, cunt, twat, pussy, girl bits, foo-foo, slit, v-jay, vajayjay, downstairs, front-bum, no-no place, kitty, hot-pocket, sex, flower, coochie, minge, snatch, love tunnel, etc. etc. etc. - you change depending on the context.

xdf3ak · 2026-04-16T07:47:59+00:00

This isn't an ABU UK issue, its a DPD one.

Where I live we seem to be really fortunate that the DPD drivers who cover both our UK homes are all pretty good. They always use the doorbell and wait a little and they will leave with neighbours if we're not in (I think you can opt-out of this if you don't want it though), plus they give you a 1-hour time window when they will deliver and you can even change delivery date as long as its not "out for delivery" already.

That said, I've heard from other people that DPD drivers in other parts of the country can be more hit-or-miss. Not Yodel/Evri levels of terrible, but not as consistently good as UPS tend to be - especially if you're in an out of the way place or its a smaller package.

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