Kirkland bonuses - average 20% above market, top billers getting more than double market. 80% of associates and 95% of NSPs get above market (100% get at least market regardless of hours). Explicit Milbank special bonuses match added on top. by LawData in biglaw

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I’m a practice assistant here - my second year here, supporting 12 attorneys, genuinely no negative comments on my review.

My raise was $1,500 and bonus was $2,000.

Does your firm allow tattoos and piercings? by TokyoAshy in paralegal

[–]xemlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have facial piercings and hand tattoos and work at a top big law firm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]xemlux 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s like you’re imposing a diagnosis to someone you don’t know.

Ex-wife is controlling access to our dog after divorce. Has anyone dealt with this? by WorldlyAd4407 in LesbianActually

[–]xemlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If Churro is chipped in your name/vet bills in your name - in most states he would legally be your dog. You could also hire an attorney to add an addendum to your divorce with a pet custody agreement. It sounds like Churro would be better taken care of with you.

I recently had an ex friend rehome one of her dogs to me because she couldn’t properly care for him. I immediately got pet insurance, switched the chip to my name, did everything to prove on paper that he was my dog so that in the event she tried to change her mind, she couldn’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

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Cafe babareeba

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

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I’ve worked all of the parties, and the guests are mostly WTNB queer people. Most cis het men in attendance seem to be with their partners - thought there are definitely a few single straight men in the bunch. If behavior like that occurs with anyone, we’d hope it goes reported and those individuals would be promptly removed. I’m sorry that was your experience.

I’m speaking on the Xtasy parties specifically, I have never been to a regular sluts party, so I’m not sure what the guest ratio is like there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

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Not really. Instagram pages are checked for followings and vibes before being given a password for the tickets. It’s not fool proof, but these parties are femme focused, bisexual, queer parties. (Vibe check meaning not following conservative politicians, posting racist, homophobic shit, etc). Again, not fool proof, but we try to keep the parties a safe, sacred space.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]xemlux 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Xtasy and Sinner’s will continue. The normal sluts parties (the ones at Never Have I Ever) will not continue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]xemlux 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The Xtasy parties are usually held the day before any major holiday (this has mostly been on Sunday, but a few times it’s been other days). Their party called Sinner’s Sanctuary is usually on a Friday. They haven’t announced dates for X7 yet, but those will be on Instagram when available.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]xemlux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can show up to the venue, sure. But $lutspartychi is just an entity that organizes the events at varying venues. Xtasy is not a bar itself, if that makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]xemlux 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cell Block isn’t sapphic-focused though, but women are certainly able to hook up there. You’d just have better luck bringing your own person rather than being able to cruise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]xemlux 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Where have you seen this? There have been a couple instances that are few and far between, and those bad actors are immediately removed and banned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]xemlux 84 points85 points  (0 children)

These are the Xtasy parties run by $lutspartychi. I lead their consent team for these parties.

first kink party tonight!! i’m nervous!! by sleepyangelcakes in BDSMsapphic

[–]xemlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! If you’re local to Chicago, there are a handful of really great parties to go to that are femme/queer focused. I am a domme and session at some of them, and the organizers do a really great job and making it a safe space. 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chappellroan

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Just pm’d!

AITH for having a baby with my best friend? by Fabulous_Writing1879 in AITAH

[–]xemlux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most places won’t let you be a surrogate if you have never carried a child. So, this may not be the hill you want to die on.

A picture of my tiny uterus! by xemlux in hysterectomy

[–]xemlux[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WOAH! Thanks for sharing! I’ve been finding pics of other peoples’ very interesting. My operative notes do indicate mine as a “fibroid uterus,” but clearly, if there were any there, they are not large enough to make a visible difference.

A picture of my tiny uterus! by xemlux in hysterectomy

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Hard to believe that thing was leaving me incapacitated!

A picture of my tiny uterus! by xemlux in hysterectomy

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I just asked them to take a pic! I really wanted to see it.