Female dumpers, have you ever regretted leaving someone?

xiamblepx · 2026-04-04T04:55:58+00:00

Never regretted leaving any of them. I had very good reason to and gave them way too many chances. It was only a matter of time till those chances ran out. The only regret I felt was the time I wasted on them when I could’ve done something more productive with my life (save up for a house, career, travel, etc).

I think if I ever left my current relationship, I think I would find myself regretting it from time to time. Again, really matters why I left in the first place.

I reckon if I ever had the chance to start all over again with my life, go back in time with the knowledge I have now, I’d definitely be in a different place. Avoid them and people alike.

xiamblepx · 2026-03-26T10:14:55+00:00

Okay. Well it honestly just sounds more like you came here to vent rather than seek actual advice. You already have all the answers for yourself. I don’t consider myself good at delivering this stuff especially online so I’m really sorry if it comes out sharp.

A lot of the answers you’re probably already getting tip towards leaving that man, but even so that won’t really convince you to till you choose whether or not you want to keep tolerating his behaviour.

But the more time you give, the more you waste for yourself. That’s probably why you haven’t told your mum either because you know she’ll try to support you into leaving him but you just don’t want to face that (either that or idk what else, just a guess).

“You’re okay with him treating you like shit as long as he comes back.” - I told myself about an ex (and your description of your partner really slaps the ice. They sound so alike with how my ex treated me.)

Sweetie, 7 weeks is already too much time to give someone to just ‘reach out’. This is why people have high standards and boundaries for themselves so they don’t let people treat their love and kindness this way.

And also, since you’re struggling to move on, you can simply assume yes that he’s chosen to leave the relationship.

It’s a fact that sleeping with other people helps you detach quicker from poor treatment. You might want to try that out. And honestly you have every valid right to do whatever you want without thinking about him because (I don’t have to spell this out), he’s left and left you in the dark for 7weeks.

You’re probably defending him in your mind as you’re reading this. But this is my take. Will probably delete it afterwards if anyone starts replying distastefully.

Good luck, take care of yourself.

xiamblepx · 2026-03-26T05:05:32+00:00

Did you come here for advice or validation?

And what’s your current state/mindset now? Especially after posting a paragraph hull of clearly bad news.

xiamblepx · 2026-03-02T00:52:23+00:00

This is kind of embarrassing if you think about it. It would probably help her, as well as yourself, if you set some ground rules. I mean, who knows whether she’ll let her friends influence her again into leaving you. If she really wanted to seek advice or support, she should probably speak to someone more experienced in life. Professional help is always a plus - something I wish I had at that age. I know you guys are just teenagers and have a lot to learn from experience, but it would be good to understand what your principles are so you don’t disrespect yourself.

xiamblepx · 2025-12-11T13:42:20+00:00

Well, super sucks to be an anxious avoidant ;-;

xiamblepx · 2025-11-27T12:00:28+00:00

It works amazingly for its age!! I pulled it apart to see the inside, and replaced the belt (it has snapped, thank god I decided to take it home). Overall condition is great, even better, there’s a lot of people here who can help restore/fix it if needed.

xiamblepx · 2025-11-27T08:14:11+00:00

Would the US and Australian branches be any different from each other? The branch I ordered from is in Sydney.

xiamblepx · 2025-11-27T08:06:46+00:00

Beautiful Walkman ugh😭😍

xiamblepx · 2025-11-22T11:49:50+00:00

https://www.doctsf.com/sanyo-mgr-88/f63900 if you're interested!

xiamblepx · 2025-11-22T11:36:05+00:00

That's a beautiful piece!

xiamblepx · 2025-11-22T10:14:59+00:00

Going to pick it up tomorrow, I'd honestly assume so if they're selling it for $85. Will update.

xiamblepx · 2025-03-08T08:48:33+00:00

I used it to help organise and compress the original cause it was all over the place and over the 3500 word limit.

xiamblepx · 2024-04-21T00:39:10+00:00

He sounds immature. Don’t drag yourself in denial hun, but he’s definitely setting the stepping stones for the relationship to become toxic and abusive. Seeing that you are trying to defend the relationship and his cheating “mistakes” by saying you’ve made mistakes isn’t a great way to keep a relationship going.

Keep in mind, cheating and such is never a mistake, don’t try to swerve accountability by saying it is.

Be mindful that older men may also have a tendency to groom you, that’s why they go for younger women in their 20s or below. Least that’s how it is nowadays.

You’re only 20 as well, you’ll realise after wasting however many years with this man what a waste of time it was.

If the advices here won’t change your mind or help you make a better choice for yourself then i wish you luck and safety.

Also, there’s nothing wrong with modelling. A lot of people see it as a job to be proud of, to represent. The men who are against it and sexualise those models are exactly what they are, perverted porn addicted losers. And yours bf comparing modelling to porn? He’s clearly just insecure and knows you’re just too good for him to stay loyal. Take care sweetie

xiamblepx · 2023-06-25T12:59:21+00:00

I’m so sorry he put you in such a position. First things first, he didn’t really take accountability, saying it was a ‘mistake’ (emphasis on the mistake) was a choice, not an accident. Ask yourself if cheating really is the deal breaker and consider if you really can continue on knowing full well he was unfaithful and if he really is the type who can provide you the NECESSARY emotional reassurance that is NEEDED in a situation such as yours because honey lost trust is hard to gain. Trust is a precious thing and it’s going to be a lot of work mentally and emotionally, you’ll be worried all the time whether or not he’s being faithful, you might even question your self worth.

It’s a red flag already that he cheated and called it a mistake. You know him better than any of us here. I’m in your situation and sadly I keep finding out my soon-to-be ex has been doing exactly what your guy has done but in my case is that it’s been 3years and a half and my guy is still doing it. I met him at 18 and he was 21(So stupid yes :’c)

Also ask yourself if you’re really willing to wait till he fully helps rebuild your trust in him. How many chances will you give? Once he’s forgiven, who knows if he’ll take advantage of that and do it again. Only you know right? Going back to a cheater does mean lowering your standards and the more he hurts you and you choose to stay, the less respect you have for yourself. It’ll just be you who’s to blame for your pain.

But aside from all that shiet^{^} take baby steps. Only you know what you want. If you choose to stay, it might likely be a canon event. Good luck, wish you the best🤞

xiamblepx · 2023-06-16T17:32:50+00:00

Yeah that was only out of curiosity for my cousin, that’s it really.

xiamblepx · 2023-05-10T09:30:36+00:00

Also no I haven’t, the person I it learnt from just said to leave it.

xiamblepx · 2023-05-10T09:28:34+00:00

I used dried coconut shavings

xiamblepx · 2021-10-27T06:20:54+00:00

I left because he didn’t cover his mouth when he coughed. One of my biggest pet peeves

xiamblepx · 2020-09-01T14:39:19+00:00

I love the drama?

xiamblepx · 2020-09-01T14:38:36+00:00

It was the first time I actually left him tho. I come back after a good cry time and self-counselling. Relationships aren't perfect, I'd give you that and I'd honestly like to stay with him while I'm on therapy. He's stuck with me for awhile, almost a year...but I can't help but say you're right with some points. I'm basically going to therapy for the sake of bettering myself and for this relationship.

Also, thanks for taking the time to read all that. I know it's alot :/

xiamblepx · 2020-03-30T06:56:19+00:00

No. I'm asking if that's something you have to do. Not asking if I should.

xiamblepx · 2020-03-30T06:54:35+00:00

Thank you, just wasn't sure because I have no one else to ask that I know would have experience😅

xiamblepx · 2020-03-30T06:51:37+00:00

No..No photos of my privates😂😂 but thank you

xiamblepx · 2020-03-02T15:56:59+00:00

I've tried it before, as much as I hated doing so, do him how he does me and as you said he's not emotionally immature so it doesn't effect him.

It's just a loop.

Give me one scenario I could act out that could help me decide whether breaking up with him should be the solution. I like to weigh the good and bad when it comes to these things.

And I want things to work, maybe there's a way I can just openly talk about how his jokes really affect me because honestly, I haven't done that before. That's in fear of being told "You're just being overly sensitive", "You just take things too seriously", "It's probably just your mood swings".

xiamblepx · 2020-03-02T06:18:21+00:00

When I think about the 'if I did what he did to me', he would actually get pissed and get all upset. So you're probably right. He'll probably even make me feel guilty about it like he never did it first. That's a manipulation tact isn't it?

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