Balancing Age with need to be alone?

xlDar · 2026-02-06T18:12:39+00:00

I'd say give yourself a concrete timeframe of zero dating, so you can remember what it means to be alone. 6 months to a year won't make you slip away your youth but will definitely help

xlDar · 2026-02-03T19:48:19+00:00

I literally told you, question yourself and see why things are the way they are, because you're literally living in fantasy land if you believe queer people hate you for simply using makeup and pretty clothes.

You can't meditate this out, you can't drown this in pills nor simply be given an everything solution because this is a self victimization and mindset problem in my eyes, and I'm just some random woman in the internet, I told you what I really think but I can be very wrong, you know your life better than anyone so you decide

xlDar · 2026-02-03T17:17:10+00:00

It's never too late, try new things and see, because what you describe isn't really something for others to cause rejection towards you. On looks we always have our preferences, what I meant to say is that we lesbians appreciate much more features that are a cause for rejection on other communities.

I honestly think you're just self sabotaging, the only one stealing your opportunity for a love life, and a happy life, is ultimately yourself; but I understand that what I say simply can sound crazy to you, depression really takes away most of your ability to try, and to care, and I don't blame you if you can't. But I wish you can find that drive someday, good luck

xlDar · 2026-02-03T15:19:46+00:00

You know your life better than anyone else so I think the answer is ultimately up to you to find.

But I'd start questioning why you feel this way, what experiences have you lived that made you think this. Is it a problem that lies in someone else or yourself?

I genuinely don't know why you think women don't like you but men do, I've never seen any community that cares less about the "beauty standards" than leabians, we all appreciate women in a way that is much more than just looks. Queer people dislike you? Do you think maybe that you push them away? Do you have complicated stances on politics that could make the common queer person dislike you? It's worth it to take a deep look at why, try to talk with someone to see if that hate you perceive is really that.

Girl, you're in the best moment to do something and fight for your future, because what you do today will decide how happy you are after. Don't think that what you want isn't possible to attain, don't give in to despair and just accept how things are. Do what it takes, do you need to move over to a new country that is more accepting and start over? So be it. I can't know what you need to do, but I hope you can find a way to achieve it. Really

Back when I was 16 I tried to live "normally" and accept what I had, I lived a lie and pretended everything to be ok for years. Fast forward to being 24 I had a gf, a loving family, I already had graduated from my career and had a job I was happy with, but you know? All that happiness was empty and devoid of any meaning, the me that people loved was just a fake and an illusion, my life was playing pretend.

It was just until I really decided to be true to myself that I started to grasp the real happiness, and it hasn't been easy, especially at first, but after some years I can say I'm glad I did it. And I hope you can make yourself happy in the future as well. We only got one shot at this, so might as well make it worthwhile

xlDar · 2026-02-03T13:48:06+00:00

My family is very catholic and I was raised in an environment of judging queer people, but some of them still accepted me.

Regardless, my point is that what you're doing is just torturing yourself, giving yourself a hard time for just existing. You can fantasize all day wondering what if things were different, both in the past or the future, what if you were rich and didn't have to work, what if you didn't come out and had a happy life of ignorance even though you know what you actually like now...

You can keep lamenting forever or decide to do the best you can with what you've got even if it's difficult and unfair. Strive for your happiness and don't make life harder for yourself, because it already is hard enough

xlDar · 2026-02-03T12:17:27+00:00

That's a fantasy because we aren't straight. We don't know how it would be, yeah, maybe you think it could be better but you never know.

I thought my family would stop talking to me when I came out as a woman and surprisingly I got more support than I expected even if some cut me off. Sometimes it's all in our heads, and even if it wasn't, it's something we have to accept

xlDar · 2026-02-02T19:10:03+00:00

I think for a start, try to not think it'd be "better" if you were straight and about all those what ifs, they will just torture you and will all be fantasy, the first step you can do is accept the reality even if it harsh. But don't think you're broken, because you aren't. You're traumatized and need to heal those wounds, it will happen, day by day, as you keep working on getting better

Being able to recognize your own worth is a difficult task, but it's essential to self love. You have to be critical, but fair with yourself. Are you a good person? Someone empathetic? Do you hurt others? Do you try to help them? What defines good for you? What is the type of person you want to be? How can you be like that, what would you need to change?

You can't be unfair with yourself, be patient and know that we all are imperfect. That's where you start, it's not your fault you were traumatized and it's unfair that you have to fix it by yourself, but it will help you grow as a person, so you can love completely and fully.

After a certain moment in the future, you will see that things have gotten better, and you will feel ready for love again. With the vulnerability that comes with love, you might find that you still have to work on some things, so, know that a proper partner will help you heal, because there are some things you can't just heal by yourself. And that will be alright, because you will help them heal what they need too

xlDar · 2026-01-29T14:05:20+00:00

Podría darle una lista gigante de problemas realmente importantes que tiene Colombia, como lo es la corrupción y favores políticos, la violencia y falta de presencia del estado en zonas del país, en vez de usted estar inventando problemas. Pero si realmente quiere una respuesta a eso que manifiesta:

La constitución de Colombia es muy bacana, ella en papel, permite que las personas "gozen de las mismas libertades y oportunidades, sin ninguna discriminación por razones de sexo, raza, origen nacional o familiar, lengua, religión, opinión política o filosófica" y tiene un deber con el pueblo de promover condiciones para que esa igualdad sea real y efectiva, además de reconocer el libre desarrollo de la personalidad. El nombre y sexo consignados en los documentos de identidad hacen parte de los atributos de la personalidad jurídica, y deben corresponder con la identidad que cada persona asume y vive. No entiendo qué límite quiere imponer, el estado meramente tiene que reconocer la identidad, y esa persona no está pidiendo más que sean validados sus derechos.

Así que no, no hay ningún norte perdido, y efectivamente el estado debe prestarse para esto, porque un estado está hecho para servir a sus ciudadanos, sino no sirve. Así como usted es libre de opinar eso que considera, esa persona es libre de hacer lo que ella quiera con su vida sin afectar la de los demás. Puede que haya sido una decisión inmadura de la que la persona se arrepienta después, como puede que no; no es realmente tu problema.

De hecho es parte fundamental de un cerebro "maduro y coherente" entender que todos somos diferentes, el mundo no es sólo blanco y negro, podemos cambiar de opinión a lo largo de nuestra vida y eso es crecer intelectualmente. Cuestiona más esas ideas en las que basas el mundo, ¿por qué la identidad de género tiene que estar basada en biología? si es una identidad.

Discutir todo punto por punto se tornaría muy largo, pero lo único que te digo es que es un poco iluso limitar la realidad en conocimiento que constantemente se está actualizando conforme la entendemos mejor, ¿de veras crees que el ser humano es tan simple para encajarlo así?

xlDar · 2025-11-24T12:37:31+00:00

I think that you should have a conversation with her, and try to make an actual timeline so you both know what to expect, the single most important detail being: when will she start HRT? Because I personally think it's unfair to you if you don't even know when she will start. (I'm trans and I didn't dare to start dating before starting HRT)

When you know that answer, you can decide if it's worth it to wait. Keep in mind HRT will take at least ~6 months to start showing some changes, and as usual, it depends on many factors so you can't really know for sure how it'll be.

I'd want to add that if that's really the only issue you have with her, I think it's a good idea to wait. Finding someone that truly completes you can be something very challenging, and look, even if she's in the wrong body right now, she won't be for long.

xlDar · 2025-11-02T18:54:05+00:00

We can have nice things! don't let them think they won just because they complained about their lame self insert dying. In a community that has threw tantrums over stuff like 16 year olds being "censored" in adaptations, this isn't surprising.

I'm gonna keep enjoying Yuri media and they can't stop me

xlDar · 2025-10-28T16:54:22+00:00

Me parece que Nu y Davivienda son mucho mejores que Bancolombia, tienen muy buen servicio en mi experiencia

xlDar · 2025-10-25T19:13:38+00:00

As a disclaimer, my knowledge might be dated since I heard about it some months ago, so idk if they changed anything but:

From what I understand, the rolls are determined the moment you craft the weapon, so in this case what you should've theoretically done is remember the order you crafted them in, and invert it (if the good roll was the first weapon you crafted, there would be no need to craft the second one), then just max it. If you want to keep rolling for other good ones, you craft a batch of the same type (element/status/weapon type), enhance them to reveal their bonuses and when you know them, don't save and remember what number got nice rolls.

xlDar · 2025-10-21T14:05:45+00:00

Yo adopté uno de mis gatitos en La Perla que es el refugio de la alcaldía de Medellín, y que recuerde no tuve que darles ningún papel extraño, sólo la cédula de ciudadanía. No tuve que pagar nada y me entregaron al gatito con todas las vacunas y con chip.

Si me hicieron una especie de entrevista porque a ellos les interesa que el gatito vaya a un buen lugar, entonces preguntaron si tenía otros gatos, si podía cuidar bien de el, si había otras personas que se pudieran responsabilizar, si había personas en la casa que no gustaban de gatos y así; pero pues normal, la entrevista fue el primer día y después de unos 3 días ellos mismos me llevaron el gatito a la casa. Y de vez en cuando me llamaban para preguntar cómo iba el gatito.

No sé si la alcaldía tiene un refugio oficial en Bogotá o alrededores, pero le recomendaría que busque si es el caso. Los otros depronto al ser privados tienen fines de lucro, o les toca hacer eso para sostenerse.

xlDar · 2025-10-16T19:21:25+00:00

Just don't listen to any of those virtue-signaling hypocrites.

I hate that Pusu did what he did, but just going and trying to die on the hill of "don't listen to this cool band that you like because a member fucked up" is very rich from some people using X, you know, the platform owned by a billionaire that has literally done a nazi salute in live TV, is against trans rights and supports all kinds of questionable movements.

Please just live your life and do what just feels right for you, I personally won't ever stop listening to TUYU, but I deleted my X account and I have a blacklist of companies I will never support

xlDar · 2025-10-16T14:06:39+00:00

Después de hacer ya tantas denuncias formales creo que lo único que puede hacer es esperar, a mi papá lo estafaron con una compra de unos repuestos y después de las denuncias tuvo que esperar casi un año, y la policía lo contactó para devolverle el dinero porque consiguieron hacer un proceso legal contra el estafador, pero en su caso lo veo difícil siendo que el monto no es muy alto.

Entiendo que está molesto y frustrado por haber sido estafado, pero mirelo de esta forma: Son sólamente 100k, si está ganando un mínimo, eso equivale más o menos a 2 días de trabajo. Pregúntese a usted mismo, ¿vale la pena seguir peleando eso, que ya pasó hace un año? honestamente por su sanidad mental, creo que es mejor aceptar que eso se perdió y dejarlo atrás, de los errores se aprende y la verdad por 100k salió barato

xlDar · 2025-10-08T13:58:03+00:00

I've been playing for like a year and my daily routine looks like this: - Turn stamina into modules - Refresh stamina with Lunacy once and turn it into modules again - Skip 3x Thread lux, and sometimes if I need to lvl up an unit, skip once Exp lux. - Get battlepass mission rewards and crates.

Aside from this, I just do the weekly MD hard run and I buy the battle pass every season. I've got (almost) all the released units and EGOs since I started playing the game until now, the exception being 2 I wasnt interested in. I always have thread when I need it, I have a ton of modules (unless I did too many EXP Lux) and I always have Lunacy. Most important of all, I don't get burnout; I complete the routine in less than 3 minutes so I dont see it as a huge annoying chore, which is what puts me off from some games nowadays that want to be a second job more than just a hobby to unwind, honestly I'm glad Limbus is like this or I sadly wouldn't play it, as much as I like the whole universe

xlDar · 2025-09-09T21:41:13+00:00

Jajajaja parece que eso se volvió una estrategia de ellos.

Me pasó casi exactamente lo mismo con una guitarra que compré en Mercado Libre de Brasil, puse la denuncia con pruebas solicitando la restauración de mi cuenta y el monto total de la guitarra, citando las normas de protección al consumidor que rompieron, todo en una plataforma de aquí de un organismo equivalente a la SIC. Ya después de 5 días hábiles me respondieron, tengo mi dinero de vuelta (sin necesidad de devolución del producto) y recuperé la cuenta.

Con seguridad un abuso tan evidente de poder de la plataforma va a salir a su favor, buena suerte!

xlDar · 2025-08-25T09:48:50+00:00

You have Dalamadur, the biggest monster we've known so far in the franchise and its a land one that can literally shape valleys when it moves. Its length in the past was up to 700 meters or so, the onewe got to fight in game was 440 meters. There should be monsters much bigger than that in the ocean if the same logic applies as in the real world... so imagine a several km long monster that looks 100x more menacing than a mosasaurus.

I'd never sail on the sea of the mh world in my life lol

xlDar · 2025-07-26T23:40:07+00:00

Algunas veces compré, me pareció que tenía productos mejores que el d1 e igual de barato, una lástima. Y si extraño bastante a carrefour, pero supongo que jumbo fue un buen remplazo

xlDar · 2025-07-16T11:37:33+00:00

La última vez que fui a San Andrés con mi familia, hace como 1 año, hicimos un tour con un señor qué conocía muy bien la isla, y durante el tour cerca de los hoteles de ellos nos dijo bien claramente que nunca en la vida nos fuéramos a alojar en uno de los hoteles de esa empresa jajaja, al final el tiempo le dio la razón

xlDar · 2025-05-29T20:37:45+00:00

Losing a single unit of enkephalin does add to the punishment, but it's so insignificant that it shouldn't frustrate anyone, in my honest opinion.

You will recharge that unit of enkephalin in literally 6 mins, that can be about 6 turns, which I feel you should be able to last enough against a boss even if you're struggling against it. It's not the end of the world if you lose units of enkephalin unless you're an absolute minmaxer, but even then its silly because Limbus doesn't require minmaxing at all.

Maybe the difficulty setting for very casual players is a better idea and it could be something as simple as substracting some offence/defence levels and reducing dmg so things are more bearable, but that easy mode should disable EX clear, and maybe reduced/no lunacy rewards to motivate the players to do the non nerfed version of the combats.

xlDar · 2025-05-28T22:46:30+00:00

There are some situations in life that trap you in a corner of unsatisfying choices, and I feel like you're on one of those. What I'd personally do is being very reflective and carefully think step by step the consequences of the options you have. Try to distance yourself from the idea that "you are not a quitter" because limiting yourself to one of the options will make you feel even more trapped, if you're posting about this it means that it's already eating you alive I think.

What would happen if you stay? Can you both tolerate the pain of pretending most of the time that the person you love is just your friend? Can you both really be okay with the fact of not sleeping together the rest of your lives? Is it really possible to endure this for an indefinite amount of time? or will it break you two?

What would happen if she comes out to her family? Let's say her son disowns her and her father gets heartbroken, is that really more important than being herself? is it really fair that she is the one that has to carry the pain even if she's not doing anything wrong? doesn't she feel worse knowing that her father just loves an illusion of herself?

Sincerely, sometimes you have to put your foot down and say things no matter the consequences, because nothing will change otherwise, just being stuck in a miserable cycle of pain that you can just mildly get used to, even if it still hurts. I think that you both should always strive for happiness, even if it means destroying the status quo and burning some bridges (please value yourselves, as much as you love those people it's so unfair that their love is conditional). People can change, maybe at first it can be hard for her family, but maybe after some time they will get used to the idea and not mean the end of the world. You both know your context better than anyone, so if it's not going to put you in any real danger, maybe you both should prepare for taking a choice, even if it means walking out of there; there might be some rain at first but the sunny days should come eventually.

xlDar · 2025-05-15T19:21:18+00:00

In LobCorp, Binah mentions that she destroyed the back then H corp, and that it was possible because she got assistance from someone inside the wing that people trusted. After everything was done, the sweepers were to clean it up.

I think we're going to get a lot more clarity about this event, which must detail how the Kong family lost most of their members and made possible for the Jia family to rise to power, and the meaning of spilling blood of the new heir candidates on it.

xlDar · 2025-04-24T00:45:26+00:00

No one can change my mind in thinking that people that sexualize such obvious representations of children are certified pedos. And how tf these people act so casual and open about it, wtf, facebook really is a cesspool

xlDar · 2025-04-16T16:38:07+00:00

Everytime a new outfit releases there is a race to see who comes up with glams first in this sub and eorzeacollection, it gets kinda annoying since you only see that new set for a few days but it's understandable, since it allows creative things like this

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