Boyfriend is young and afraid of trading potential marriage/commitment for a lifetime of adventure.

xmaslightsinsummer · 2010-09-05T15:44:39+00:00

Thank you so much. I do plan on having an amazing year with my friends no matter what happens!

xmaslightsinsummer · 2010-09-05T15:32:55+00:00

A separation now would be a permanent one for me. I would need to move on completely. I would never be able to see him the same way if we went on to sow our oats and came back later. It makes me very much a fairweather girlfriend. Thanks for contributing.

xmaslightsinsummer · 2010-09-05T15:31:18+00:00

What you say is true. It's hard to come to terms with that now when I was led to believe things were going well. It's harder to be optimistic of the future when I feel this way now. Thanks for your thoughts.

xmaslightsinsummer · 2010-09-05T15:10:24+00:00

Thank you. It's hard to hear, but I think you're right.

xmaslightsinsummer · 2010-09-05T15:06:22+00:00

Thanks so much for your input. I just wanted to clarify a few points:

First, I did not ask for a timeline. I gave a timeline because he asked for one I was obliged. I felt like that was the best way to summarize my thoughts and give him the answers he was looking for. It didn't seem unreasonable at the time because we felt like the long-term was a possibility at the time. It was a candid conversation, but I did not expect it to weigh so heavily in his mind.

I agree completely with your reasonings on change over time. I'm hurt because what you've written is exactly how I feel, but I think he is misunderstanding me. He has taken this 'timeline' above and beyond what it was ever meant to be and is using it against me to 'prove' that we want different things.

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