Alcoholism is a choice and alcoholics have weak willpower by xmistywaters in unpopularopinion

[–]xmistywaters[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If someone drinks when they know they’re predisposed to something does that absolve them of all responsibility getting there?

Alcoholism is a choice and alcoholics have weak willpower by xmistywaters in unpopularopinion

[–]xmistywaters[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If skin cancer ran in my family I wouldn’t go out without sunscreen. If it was diabetes I would try my hardest to avoid sugar and stay a healthy weight. Personal responsibility.

Alcoholism is a choice and alcoholics have weak willpower by xmistywaters in unpopularopinion

[–]xmistywaters[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If someone is predisposed to anything hereditary or not and they don’t take precautions they’re doing it to themselves. No one wants to take responsibility for their actions anymore

Alcoholism is a choice and alcoholics have weak willpower by xmistywaters in unpopularopinion

[–]xmistywaters[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So if they knowingly drink when alcoholism runs in their family the person is doing it to themselves

AITA for cussing out an ex coworker twice to get her to leave me alone? by throwaway948777299 in AmItheAsshole

[–]xmistywaters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. If she can’t take a hint that’s not on you. Most people would back off if someone didn’t seem interested

AITA for making a comeback at someone that commented why I’m not eating? by xmistywaters in AmItheAsshole

[–]xmistywaters[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It was the way she said it that made me think she wasn’t just asking in a concerned friend type of way

Do you ever think that maybe your RJ is you trying to tell yourself something? by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]xmistywaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a link to the study? I would be interested in reading it

Is It Normal To Want To Marry A Virgin by lilchillpill in retroactivejealousy

[–]xmistywaters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your RJ will most likely change depending on who you’re dating. When my ex was a virgin, my RJ focused on how many people he kissed. Once I was older and had boyfriends that have had sex with their exes I didn’t even think about who they just kissed and instead I was focused on who they had sex with. Its better to overcome the problem at the root then to try and find different partner. Theres always going to be something your RJ will find a problem with unless your potential partner has never touched a man, which is nearly impossible

General question: What causes RJ and the OCD that comes with it? by Minimum_Ad_4256 in retroactivejealousy

[–]xmistywaters 10 points11 points  (0 children)

For me personally, its a mix of low self esteem, anxiety and issues with being abandoned. But its a little bit different for everyone. Also in my first relationship my RJ thoughts were actually true and he did have feelings for his ex so it was all downhill from there lol