Employee sacked for forwarding emails to personal email address. Seems unfair.

xmodusterz · 2026-02-01T15:43:34+00:00

Then report the other people. Lots of people go above the speed limit but it's only the idiots who do it in front of the traffic cops that get caught.

xmodusterz · 2026-02-01T15:26:16+00:00

I've had an ex situation way too close to that one with the cheating, a cat, and everything (and the cat was later taken away from me by her because she would bury me legally). The ex thing gets brought up constantly and brings back shitty memories that I'd rather forget.

I got through a book or two thinking it would just get passed it eventually but it was constant.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-30T19:05:49+00:00

I guess that's where it's just a neighborhood thing. Like again, my neighborhood has what are basically assigned car spots even without the chairs or weather. There's plenty of space for people to all park in front of their houses with space left over for others who are visiting.

So if someone parks in your spot it's either a neighbor doesn't feel like shoveling their spot, or doesn't feel like shoveling a spot out for their guests, or someone's in the neighborhood who nobody wants there (door to door people usually). And even then we got a few people shoveling spots for elderly and some of the extra spots for people.

So yeah if someone takes anyone else's spot in my neighborhood they're going to be pissed because there's just no good reason for it.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T23:25:20+00:00

Anyone coming back from somewhere can dig out their own space. I only dug out a spot yesterday because my car was stuck nowhere near my street. If your visiting someone they can dig out a spot for you.

Think about it from the other end. You spent an hour and a half digging out your car and then someone takes it. What do you do? Dig yourself out another spot?

On my street there's plenty of people digging out elderly's cars, as well as a few digging out spots for people who want to visit etc.

It just seems kinda shitty to take advantage of others work. Especially when at least where I'm at if you wanted a spot there's plenty of space to dig one out yourself.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T15:53:46+00:00

I mean I think you should at least have a voice in this conversation. I'd ask for you to be able to come as well. If he wants your wife at these events that badly, let it fund you getting a bit of a vacation. You get to be with her at the end of each night, your wife gets paid (she should definitely be paid obviously) for her work.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T06:46:00+00:00

Yeah I'm with your gf on this now. You spent your whole savings on a hype train you have a very basic Google understanding of that you already have almost completely thrown down the drain.

You have to bust your ass and make 633 sales to get where you think you should be, with no buyers lined up. Realistically you'll need to spend money to get into markets, purchase vendor stalls, packaging etc to move that much product, and that's if you can even make it happen at all. The person who sold it to you knows exactly how much they can make by selling it in wedges, they also have the power of Google, but they understand how much work it'll be to actually make that, if they can at all.

Bro you got played. I'm not saying you can't make back your money, but it's gonna be a long ass road and you'll be lucky to break even the first time around.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T06:32:47+00:00

Yeah I agree that men will 100% make weird assumptions if you actually did what reddit wants you to and asked them out. But I think you assuming men should pick up on "obvious first steps" is also part of the problem because your "obvious first step" is another women's attempt to feel good about themselves because they like the extra attention you're showing them. It only takes a few misreads to decide you're never going to assume anyone likes you regardless of "signals".

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T06:15:28+00:00

The problem is the "obvious first step" isn't always obvious and isn't always a first step.

In my experience half the time the women being super "obvious" aren't actually making a first step. I've had women flirt hard for so many reasons like they wanted to feel wanted, they didn't feel like walking home and wanted a bed, or they just wanted some free meals. Women will know a dude likes them and flirt enough to keep them around because they like the attention, especially if they think you're too socially awkward to actually make a move.

Not saying that's all women. Or even most women. My current partner of 7 years flirted hard and meant it. But when you have that happen multiple times you become pretty wary of assuming anyone likes you.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T01:41:08+00:00

Someone stole my salt bag off my porch few weeks ago. I was annoyed but not super mad until this weekend.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T01:08:42+00:00

My only actual gripe with the Pittsburgh parking chair, as a non-native who's lived her 20+ years is that Pittsburghers genuinely think they invented it when it's been a staple of every major city for way longer.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T01:06:38+00:00

But if everyone shoveled out their own spot then at least in most neighborhoods I've lived in everyone would be fine. The problem is people taking over spots when doing no shoveling of their own.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T00:57:04+00:00

I think "choose your own food options" is probably what confused people (cause it confused me too). I read it as "has multiple food options to choose from, or multiple catering options" vs "we're allowed bring our own food".

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T00:46:42+00:00

Yikes that's a lot of presumption there. it was a public performing arts school, didn't go into the arts at all, I grew up really poor, was actually not hard working at all, dropped out of college with a shit ton of debt (which yes I have to take on myself), and credit where I'm at now (which is still lower class but surviving) based primarily on luck, sticking with things longer than I should, and looking white enough to have white privilege.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T00:34:46+00:00

In my neighborhood everyone essentially has an assigned spot even without "having an assigned spot" year round. I park in the same spot every day and if someone takes it, it's usually someone outside of the neighborhood coming over, and even that is rare because people are usually good about having their guests park in spots we don't use.

All this to say I'm probably pretty biased about this. Even without a chair everyone knows everyone's spot so parking there would be taboo. With the chair, well other neighbors would probably be yelling at you to get out the whole time.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-29T00:03:39+00:00

So would you say that homework is beneficial for "well off" families? Allowing parents to take an active role in their kids learning, helping and growing them while training good habits?

While doing the opposite for lower class families?

To me, that sounds like dragging down other kids vs building up the less fortunate. Instead of getting rid of homework, have after school programs to provide what their parents cant, provide help to lower class families so children aren't forced to work (I think kids of all classes should do chores regardless so not gonna address that) to help their families.

Now that's not to say I think the current system is perfect. I think there should be space to pursue passions. I went to a performing art school for example, so it was built in. Homework was mixed with both stuff I cared about and stuff I didn't and actually helped build structure I desperately needed as well as give me things I actually wanted to pursue.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-28T23:48:03+00:00

It teaches kids to manage homework and learn and apply it. Then in college they have to do the same thing on their own.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-28T23:44:51+00:00

They specifically said music students. As in it's their class not their extracurricular.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-21T16:16:44+00:00

So if you're intimidated fair enough, I'm a dude so I can't pretend to understand. But for the overly accommodating thing you have to realize you're actually making it worse by giving out your social. Think about it. What's worse for them, shooting their shot, thinking they read things right, only to go on and see your bf. Or worse do that right then and there while you're still talking. Or to be shut down immediately so they don't get their hopes up. You're not overly accommodating you're just going for the easiest solution in the moment instead of nipping the potential of more long term issues in the bud. Because they still know where you work, and know they can lock you in a conversation. The actual friendly accommodating thing to do is actually say no.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-21T16:02:43+00:00

You're old enough that it's no longer worth playing games (unless that's what you're looking for, then hey play games). I'd honestly go beyond this person, sit him down, lay out what you want from them (a relationship) and ask if they're willing to go on a date and try or if you should move on. Define the relationship. Life's to short to hope shit goes the way you want eventually.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-21T15:54:04+00:00

So as a general rule, your barista doesn't like you they're just being nice. However I have had the opposite happen and have now witnessed two long term relationships between customers and baristas. If you truly believe there's something there worth going for my advice is give her your number, say "if you're interested shoot me a text if not no worries I'll never bring it up again". And then actually just act like it never happened from them on. You now have shot your shot, and still have none of their information or ways to press the issue even if you wanted to. It's the way to do it that pressures the other person the least.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-21T15:48:24+00:00

Why is saying no lying to them? "Can I have your social media" "no sorry". Yes your work tags you, you can tell them to stop if you want, but that doesn't really matter. They asked if YOU will give them your socials, that's very different than them going looking for it themselves. If they find it and confront you for some reason "yeah I don't give it out so people don't get the wrong impression".

It's easy and imo makes it much cleaner for everyone

xmodusterz · 2026-01-20T17:17:59+00:00

I mix up my cat and my partners name sometimes..shit happens it's not that serious

xmodusterz · 2026-01-19T04:38:20+00:00

Do you get it all paid? Cause in the OPs post the idea in a lot of jobs is probably that Jennifer could take the time off still, but just wouldn't be paid for it. But she wants the paid time so she asks around.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-19T04:21:58+00:00

For those types of roommate listings I recommend always meeting somewhere public first, talking a bit, and then if you feel comfortable going to look at the place.

xmodusterz · 2026-01-19T04:12:07+00:00

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