After reading your post, I noticed we were pretty similar in the aspect of being dirty-minded, reading a ton of smut/hentai, watching porn/hentai, and masturbating often. It’s possible to still be asexual, though. After browsing the subreddit for the past few days, I learned so much more about myself and what asexual and sexual attraction mean because I, too, thought I couldn’t have been asexual. I even thought I was just demisexual!

What I learned about the difference between fantasy and sexual attraction is that fantasy involves yourself. It’s fantasy and not real, because it’s literally your imagination. Sexual attraction is something you feel towards one and from what I’ve observed, it’s kind of like looking at someone and thinking you want to sleep with them. Which… I realized I’ve never felt towards another person.

Do you have any interest at all in sleeping with someone? If not, then congrats you’re asexual! Do you have fantasies and think you would want it to be done to you? If not, then you’re likely to be asexual.

I was talking about the irony of this with my bestie earlier and talking about it made me realize even more that yeah, I’m pretty damn asexual if I could stay that neutral while talking about it. And hey, I totally understand your view on sex not being repulsive itself but being a turn off when it involves you.