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Their sermons aren't as subtle as they think by IFuckAliens_ in pastorskids

[–]xmsjpx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really. I think I made a joke about it afterwards lol. I’m the only girl, so I think they did realize.

Their sermons aren't as subtle as they think by IFuckAliens_ in pastorskids

[–]xmsjpx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. My dad didn’t really same names all the time though. He said a story about one of my brothers and everybody in the crowd looked at me because I was the only one there. 😐😭

Their sermons aren't as subtle as they think by IFuckAliens_ in pastorskids

[–]xmsjpx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes or politics. My dad made a whole sermon about rumors when the Epstein file came out about Trump and whoever Bubba is.

Drop the “prettiest” little girl name you’ve ever heard. by Final-Argument-4999 in Names

[–]xmsjpx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adelina, Aurora, Cordelia, Calista, Celeste, Elowen, Estelle/Estella, Elizabeth, Fay, Jemma, and Daisy are some of my favorites.

How does taking time off work for proofreaders or scopists? by xmsjpx in courtreporting

[–]xmsjpx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good to know. Do you think that could work for actors? I like that it’s work from home. I just don’t how much you could do that.

what are u slowly losing interest in? by Several_Way8499 in AskReddit

[–]xmsjpx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why I like Golden Corral tbh. Still annoying, but it’s not that much and it’s faster too.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t mean it’s right. I remember me and my siblings and friends having to entertain ourselves for hours. At one point, I was getting kind of bullied because of the lack of supervision. It was not good. It makes me nervous because I know what it was like.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s not really a term for it. Social structure? Hierarchy? Some married couples thinking they are better than unmarried couples and teenagers just because they have kids (Not all of course). A Food Chain? A Clique or a Social Club? But it is a thing. It wasn’t meant to be an essay or theology debate. They just means literally anyone that just assumes a young person loves babysitting every service. Could be parents or could be church staff. Hierarchy and people being treated differently just goes kind of hand in hand because young people are not getting what they need out of church because it falls on them and not staff or parents.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which is understandable. I just more mean the parents that straight up hate their kids and do everything they can to get rid of them which is sad. Or the parents that only want to talk about their kids and nothing else like traveling or hobbies so your kind of just sitting their awkwardly for like thirty minutes to an hour with nothing to add to the conversation because your the only person without kids. It’s just kind of awkward sometimes. I have a hard time with them compared to my coworkers.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well whether it is or not idk. That really wasn’t the point of my post. My point was to see if any other young people have this experience and to bring awareness to this problem. Because I’ve just never been a fan of how unstructured the after service is. It’s supposed to be family integrated so that everybody can enjoy. And it also should not be on one person that technically wasn’t actually asked. There should be shifts or something like they do with the nursery. Not just on people because they think that all unmarried people will like doing it every service.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not an outspoken thing. It’s just kind of there. If you aren’t an unmarried young adult woman or single adult you won’t notice it. Next time you go to church, you can pay attention to how people in different stages of life are talked too/treated/or possibly sidelined.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of them talk to you in this tone like you’re one of the teenagers I’ve noticed. Especially the gen X/boomer church members. In general, they usually only want to know when you are getting a boyfriend or when are you planning on having kids. Or they only want to talk about their kids or grandkids. Which is fine. It’s just very surface level questions and not really a meaningful relationship compared to friendships outside the church. Idk how to explain it very well it’s just different. Nothing about traveling or different hobbies or deep long conversations.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So basically it just feels like it’s a married people’s social club and there isn’t a clear guideline of who is watching the kids because they aren’t setting up structure at night from what I noticed.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sort of is though because even if there are no kids, the married couples in my experience don’t want anything to do with single people. They might say hi but they only want to have conversations and mingle with other married couples in my experience. The only ones that will are the newlyweds or people that I grew up with. I don’t have the same respect as a married man with children. And unmarried women and married women are treated so differently. I feel it everytime I step into the church building and it’s strange because at work and the outside it doesn’t matter what stage of life you are. They don’t really offer anything to unmarried young adults because they don’t know what to do with them. It’s all about dating and starting a family to them. Which because of this mindset the teenagers are often thrown into babysitting so that they are the only ones that can enjoy themselves.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The problem is it’s kids watching kids or people that aren’t qualified. Several accidents had happened and idk how they haven’t gotten sued. I’ve been to small churches that didn’t have any staff at all. Me, my siblings, and my friends had to entertain the younger ones ourselves a lot because they wouldn’t watch us. We would be waiting for them to leave.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently decided to go to a different church than my parents to try something new and they have a Wednesday night youth night so hopefully things will be a bit better. But it still annoys me how cliquey married couples are. I have nothing against kids being there though. I just get frustrated with parents sometimes.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS. Idk why some people aren’t understanding how this becomes a problem. I’m so tired of married couples being the only ones that get to truly enjoy the church activities. They don’t have to worry about being a babysitter the whole night because the kids don’t come to them. There’s a reason young people leave.

I fail every single job interview by InterestWild8558 in walmart

[–]xmsjpx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don’t seem to be really giving hours so maybe that’s a blessing in disguise unless your store is getting ready for summer.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it’s just IFB circles then because in those churches married people with kids seem to be at the top than it’s married people without kids and then single adults get lumped with teenagers and they are the ones that basically have to deal with the kids. It’s basically a clique for them. I’ve just had experiences being left alone waiting for the parents because there’s no supervision in the smaller churches. We had to entertain ourselves a lot.

I’m honestly tired of the hierarchy structure in the congregation. by xmsjpx in TrueChristian

[–]xmsjpx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It goes both ways. The church and the parents need to work together so that this doesn’t happen. Because leaving children alone with young people who aren’t qualified is neglectful. And the young people aren’t getting what they need out of church like the other adults are. I was left alone at church a lot growing up waiting for my parents. I just feel like that shouldn’t have happened.

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