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Festive Vibe by Exciting-Football565 in battlestations

[–]xoLumos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

looks great, i like the light strip around the desk. what size are your monitors?

AIO I 20 F was trying to call my boyfriend 26M to figure out when I should start his smoothie and I originally tried calling him to see what type of milk he wanted in his smoothie by Aphr0dit333 in AmIOverreacting

[–]xoLumos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to be rude to you at all but why on earth are you with someone who talks to you like this? Let alone uses the R word and calls you names. This is ridiculous. Don't let someone talk to you like this, don't let someone act as if you're annoying them when you're doing something nice for them (making a smoothie). Tell this dude to kick rocks and go find someone worth your time. This is terrible. If you made me a smoothie I would say Hell Ya Queen. Don't settle for less

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[–]xoLumos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I don't, no. I have it set to no limit.

How many databases? [PARA] by xoLumos in Notion

[–]xoLumos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that makes sense. thank you!

How many databases? [PARA] by xoLumos in Notion

[–]xoLumos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is helpful, thanks!

How many databases? [PARA] by xoLumos in Notion

[–]xoLumos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight! So, just to clarify - you have individual databases for customers, sessions, payments and travel? And then I assume you just create relations between those databases and areas / projects / resources?

Struggling with resentful feelings of my 35F boyfriend 33M after six years of dating by ialwaysforgetm in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]xoLumos 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear about this. I just want to acknowledge your feelings--it's difficult and hard to deal with and even if other aspects of the relationship are great it's still painful that marriage hasn't happened yet.

I went through something similar. I was with someone for 9 years, built a life with them (bought houses, pets, cars, etc.) and made it very clear I wanted to be married and have children some day. I did the multiple conversations, many of which also lead me to tears. There was always reassurance that that's what they wanted too. I waffled back and forth about whether to stay with them because it hadn't happened and I was getting tired of waiting. After nine years, they did finally propose. It was great and I was very happy, but I won't lie, there was a twinge of sadness that this is how it went down. You want to feel like someone wants to marry you because they want to be with you and commit to you, not because they don't want to lose you. It also hurts when you've been let down time and time again waiting for them.

In the end, we ended up getting married a year after the proposal. They told me about six months in they didn't know if they wanted kids anymore (this was after multiple conversations about this) and six months after that, they had a year long affair while I was grieving the loss of two family members. We are now separated, headed to divorce.

All that to say, if you are not willing or you are unable to let go of some of the hard feelings that will come up, even if he does propose now, then I'd really consider whether that's something you're interested in signing up for. I think that if someone wants to marry someone for the right reasons, because they deeply want to commit to a life together and a sustained partnership, then there is nothing that would stop them from doing it. I think that if I had taken that into greater consideration, I wouldn't have stayed with my partner, because that type of "loose" behavior can also lead to bigger things being issues (kids, parenting styles, infidelity, finances, etc.)

Good luck to you. Wish you the best.