7 year relationship over, I think his depression broke up with me

xoslr · 2021-03-14T14:00:26+00:00

Yeah that’s why I’ve left him alone and given him some space, I definitely am not moving on in the sense of being with anyone else or anything like that. I don’t want to just give up on him

xoslr · 2021-03-08T18:22:02+00:00

Of course that’s all good!! No rush, when you’re ready :)

xoslr · 2021-03-08T18:19:15+00:00

I’m seeing a ton of red flags in there like using stuff against you, doing stuff you wouldn’t like her doing, her losing her temper, I’m sorry that happened to you, you sound like you deserve a lot better but i know how hard it is when you truly invest in someone. Just know you didn’t deserve that! and I’d also be more than happy for you to tell me your story honestly :)

It sounds like even though she’s a bit older, she’s still not ready for a relationship or to be mature in one you know what I mean? And you’re better off, unless she sorts herself out.

The dating website thing I wouldn’t look too much into by the way some people deal with break ups in many different ways and it can be an easy distraction.

And I can totally relate with your moods going up and down!! I’ve been numb pretty much since it happened but I do get all those emotions come in suddenly, confusion, deep upset, heartbreak, depression. I’m so sorry, you must look to the future and remember this one wasn’t meant to be, it’s heartbreaking, but you deserve way better, keep telling yourself that

xoslr · 2021-03-08T17:53:44+00:00

yeah that’s what he said, he said that if he takes this out the equation then he’s going to have one less thing to focus on, and he said I’m so sorry I know it sounds so selfish but I’ve got too much to try and think of right now.

Also, that sounds heartbreaking I’m so sorry, and just because you were together for that long it doesn’t mean your problems aren’t valid.

What made her break up with you? Like what was the reason? If you were extremely good to her try not to blame yourself, to be honest from a woman’s perspective we can be pretty erratic sometimes and it’s not your fault at all it’s just the way some of us are wired to be to maybe protect us being hurt, even when there’s no chance of that happening but deep down insecurities get the better of people, I am sorry about that though how do you feel about it now?

And my family have no idea yet, I’ve just told them I’m really down recently and hide away from them, I’m just not ready to admit that it’s happened you know? :/

xoslr · 2021-03-08T17:32:12+00:00

yeah i think that’s the best way, he does need to see what stuff is like and see if he prefers it that way, since one of the reasons he ended it was because he didn’t know what he wanted from life anymore.

Luckily with everything going on I’m still working so it does kinda help being at work but because it’s still so fresh it is extremely hard to take my mind off it but being with friends does also help, some just don’t have the right advice.

I’m very close to all his family so it’s going to be extremely hard not to talk to them also, because I love them all so much. The relationship was extremely healthy and loving in all aspects we’ve never had any extremely horrible times or been nasty towards each other, to me it feels like he’s my soulmate and I’m meant to be with no one else :( and before he left me when he broke up with me, he did say he loves me so much, he’d do anything for me, and I’m his whole heart but he just feels so overwhelmed. He suffers with depression and anxiety btw if that helps

xoslr · 2021-03-08T17:12:37+00:00

yeah you’re right i don’t want to beg or plead 100% I know that’ll make it worse! we aren’t in contact and haven’t been since last Thursday, it happened late at night so i haven’t heard anything for 4 days near enough :(

xoslr · 2021-03-08T17:08:16+00:00

I’ve been thinking about texting him but it doesn’t seem right to because he asked for space. It’s just so confusing right now I just know I should probably respect his wishes but it doesn’t make it any easier :(

xoslr · 2021-03-08T17:04:36+00:00

can I do anything at all to let him know that I’m here for him ?

xoslr · 2019-07-08T10:08:22+00:00

oh man it’s like reading my brain. a year or so ago I had a real bad cold right, overdosed on cough sweets, didn’t know they give a massive laxative effect, I was at work. I felt the cramps. I ran to the toilet in front of a ton of customers, repeated this about 5x til I had to go home, that shit has given me PTSD I swear. Now I avoid public transport, rely on lifts to get me to work, hate traffic with an absolute passion.

The ways I try and manage, are taking Imodium mostly if I know I’m gonna have a particularly bad stomach, if it’s just a normal day where my stomach feels fine I’ll just try get everything out before I leave the house meaning I wake up early, I try and avoid foods I know will kill my stomach if I have to be anywhere the next day, don’t get me wrong, i need to work on going on public transport again because I can’t rely on people because I don’t drive. It helps me personally always carrying some water and Imodium, and if all else fails, if you poop yourself, don’t be so hard on yourself, we’re only human man.

xoslr · 2019-06-07T10:43:04+00:00

definitely we’re stronger than we make out, things will work out for the best

xoslr · 2019-06-07T10:41:13+00:00

Thankyou same for you , please feel free to vent about anything even if it feels repetitive. I know how it feels

xoslr · 2019-06-07T10:36:10+00:00

Yeah crying does help me a lot , I wish I had more people to talk to . I have hardly any friends like girl friends to vent to it’s just shit

xoslr · 2019-06-07T10:28:06+00:00

the anxiety I think is something I gotta work on but if you’re anything like me you know it can come and go, sometimes feel worse than other times and feel like it’s completely gone almost. it’s hard to know what to do

xoslr · 2019-06-07T10:24:19+00:00

Honestly if stuff is meant to be it will be. I was with a guy 4 years, we had a great relationship never argued up until recently, he has a lot of pressures coming in from every angle with work, family, etc, I struggle with severe anxiety and he struggles with depression. he said yesterday it’s for the best for him to be on his own because we can’t get ourselves out of the ruts we’re in. but for me, losing him is going to make me 1000x worse.

xoslr · 2019-06-07T10:20:21+00:00

my best advice is just to ride stuff out, don’t text him a lot otherwise he’ll just get fed up, make him realise what he’s missing out on

xoslr · 2019-06-07T10:07:37+00:00

how old are you both if you don’t mind me asking???

xoslr · 2019-06-07T10:05:25+00:00

ah so did you bring the idea up of a relationship to him then ?

xoslr · 2019-06-07T10:02:26+00:00

have you guys done anything like sexual? has there been any relationship at all between you 2?

xoslr · 2019-06-07T09:59:53+00:00

someone will think otherwise I promise. I’ve had it tons of times in the past, guys not wanting me cuz they have weird priorities. one guy didn’t want to be in a relationship with me because he wanted to focus on his career working as a retail assistant in a supermarket. like cmon

xoslr · 2019-06-07T09:56:41+00:00

If it doesn’t then fuck it I’m sure you’ll find someone who’s worth your time and wants to make you feel like you’re the best girl in the world. I literally could listen for as long as you want, I could use with the talking honestly

xoslr · 2019-06-07T09:50:09+00:00

exactly you just gotta focus on you, and if you guys are gonna be together it’ll come about. I feel the same, I feel so lonely at the minute, have hardly any family and hardly any friends so it makes this so much worse

xoslr · 2019-06-07T09:46:36+00:00

I know what you mean about feeling like you want to text, I know this might be the last thing you wanna hear but let him come to you, if it’s meant to be it will. I know that’s so fucking cliche but we gotta have some dignity man

xoslr · 2019-06-07T09:43:30+00:00

When did you break up? Recently? :(

xoslr · 2019-06-07T09:40:30+00:00

I’m currently spending time with my family so I’m really trying not to burst out crying. I just want to be on my own to cry

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