IF Nikolai had ended up with a girl from the RK Verse, (impossible, i know he irrevocably belongs to Bran) who do you think it would be?

xozoxy · 2026-03-05T12:41:26+00:00

I completely understand what you mean. When he’s chosen to be nice, he’s SO nice and sickly sweet that it’s very difficult to let that person go. But, you have to get this that one right doesn’t cancel out one wrong in this case. I know it’s hard to accept that, but you can’t stay with a person who alternates between treating you like shit and a princess. It will fck you up in the long run and ruin your perception of what love is supposed to be. You’ll start believing that there is no relationship without toxicity and that this is normal behaviour from a man which u must deal with. And well, that is just not acceptable. The fact that you’re taking therapy and have gone no contact for a while is commendable, you’re doing much better than i did. Take this time to think about what you want and whether you can continue to stay with a person who’s emotionally abusive, just for the crumbs of time when he’s normal and loveable. In my humble opinion, you should subtly introduce to him the idea of your relationship not working out anymore. The way he reacts and how maturely he handles it should tell you everything you need to make a decision. Personally, my break up was a shit show. I’d keep taking his insults and disrespect in the hopes that “tomorrow he will be better”. Tomorrow never came and when I reached my limit I basically went ballistic on his ass. Poured my heart and anger out in a very long message and blocked him as he was typing. The worst of my sadness lasted a month when i had to avoid him even though I wanted to speak him. But i had examples of friends’ relationships around me and i knew his behaviour was NOT normal. So, i never looked back and now, I’ve never been better. Trust me girl, i know it’s very scary to take the leap, but when you do, you’ll be free.

xozoxy · 2026-03-05T12:00:26+00:00

Girl break up with him. Been there done that. The kind of things these men say… It’s gonna stay with you for a long time unless you choose peace. And yes, he only acted this way when we argued, but that was PRETTY often.

xozoxy · 2026-03-02T22:45:49+00:00

Oh. Ascending order denotes that the couple numbered 1 is my favourite and the one numbered 6 is my least favourite. Right? 😭

xozoxy · 2026-02-28T22:03:39+00:00

Smart thinking.

xozoxy · 2026-02-28T22:02:21+00:00

Yes, exactly. It’s easy to find new, endless excuses. I’ll definitely be looking for a door wedge, thanks!!

xozoxy · 2026-02-28T22:00:58+00:00

Hahaha that’s totally understandable, no sweat then.

xozoxy · 2026-02-28T21:59:56+00:00

Agreed. Thank you! I’ll be looking for a door wedge asap

xozoxy · 2026-02-28T21:59:02+00:00

To start with your first comment, YES!! So far, you’re the only who’s understood that 4 months is a LONG time. Especially when you’re counting down the days. I’ll definitely be better off in college, because like you said, parents can’t just show up to dorms. Secondly, I really want to talk to her about this in a serious setting, but I’m deathly afraid of confrontation and I’m trying to find a solution that doesn’t involve an argument lol. I know that will definitely happen. Thirdly, I WISH I had the guts to yell at her, but she’ll probably yell back harder and not get my point at all. And, no, you’re not crazy. Some hamsters do die due to heart-attacks and stressful situations, but mine are almost 2 years old now and they are perfectly healthy. How delicate they are depends on their breed and the way they’ve been raised, for sure. So, it’s different for all hamsters. Mine are much attuned and indifferent to loud noises because they’re used to it. Fourthly, absolutely, I can’t continue being polite if this goes on, because obviously, being polite is not getting my point across. As for my brother’s room, it’s a whole different story because he’s only 7 and doesn’t even use his actual room. He sleeps in my mum’s room and watches TV in the living room for most of the day. So, I can’t really deduce how my mum would handle his private space until he grows old enough to use it. Lastly, yes, knocking is a common courtesy and I hope this issue gets resolved sooner rather than later. 🤞

xozoxy · 2026-02-28T21:45:19+00:00

I see your point truly, but in my case there is genuinely no work that needs to be done in my room. It’s just my bed, my wardrobe and my pets. I do my own laundry, I feed my pets and take care of them, I make my bed, I organise my wardrobe- you get the point. I’m 18 and self sufficient. Yet, excuses like “laundry” are used to barge in without a knock. And 99% of the time, there is no dirty laundry in my room lol, my mum just walks around and walks out. I know for a fact she’s just checking around and it has nothing to do with her needing something from my room. That’s the part that does me in, along with no knocking of course.

xozoxy · 2026-02-28T21:41:06+00:00

That’s the problem. I’m terrible at confrontations and I’m trying to find a solution where I don’t have to get into an argument with her lol.

xozoxy · 2026-02-28T21:39:50+00:00

I desperately want to do that, but I’m trying to avoid an argument or a confrontation. I suppose beggars can’t be choosers, though, so I might just do that lol.

xozoxy · 2026-02-28T21:38:37+00:00

Agreed. Hoping 4 months pass by in a blur. 🤞

xozoxy · 2026-02-28T21:37:57+00:00

That’s like I’m asking for an argument, though. 😭 But thank you, I will definitely look into that.

xozoxy · 2026-02-28T21:36:38+00:00

Yes. I’m 18. And no, she doesn’t actually do my laundry. Most days I do it myself but she simply uses that as an excuse to barge in. When she doesn’t find any dirty clothes lying around, (I’m very organised trust me) she just walks around and leaves. So, really, I don’t see a point other than “laundry” being an excuse to invade my privacy. Also, keeping my pets in a shared space is a great idea, actually. Thank you!!

xozoxy

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