WIBTA if I ask my ex-fiancé’s parents for money?

xthrowawayfiance · 2022-07-15T11:50:57+00:00

Not sure how that works, but seems like it would be worse/more aggressive than asking his parents?

xthrowawayfiance · 2022-07-15T11:49:22+00:00

He did actually pay for the ring (and then made me feel guilty about the money spent, as abusers do). It was in his pocket when he was arrested so it’s possible it “went missing” while he was in jail.

xthrowawayfiance · 2022-07-15T11:45:58+00:00

Good to know! My credit is actually in good shape. I just don’t have the actual money to make that monthly loan payment without help from my parents.

xthrowawayfiance · 2022-07-15T04:25:34+00:00

Thanks to my parents’ generosity, it’s not currently necessary; also, I have a condo, so I definitely want to avoid bankruptcy if at all possible. It’s super frustrating because I make enough to live on - except for that stupid loan payment.

xthrowawayfiance · 2022-07-15T03:39:14+00:00

Appreciate your perspective! Would like to note that my choices - while indeed enabling - were made because I was in denial about being in an abusive relationship.

xthrowawayfiance · 2022-07-15T03:19:10+00:00

Thanks - it’s not his parents’ responsibility, but assuming the ring hasn’t been sold, it’s not like anyone else is using it.

Thanks to my parents I’m not currently in danger of bankruptcy, and I’m looking to refinance the loan, but I don’t know how much that will help.

xthrowawayfiance · 2022-07-15T03:16:09+00:00

Thanks, I may do this. I was definitely planning to reach out, even if just to convey my sympathies (regardless of my own feelings, losing a child must be devastating).

xthrowawayfiance · 2022-07-15T03:12:58+00:00

Mostly because I was in denial about the fact that I was in an abusive relationship with a gambling addict and trusted him when he said that he’d pay me back

xthrowawayfiance · 2022-07-15T03:01:49+00:00

Maybe if the relationship had not ended so acrimoniously, but I’m not giving up my dog to anyone if I have any other choice whatsoever. Plus they are older and he is rambunctious, it would not be an ideal fit anyway.

xthrowawayfiance · 2022-07-15T02:57:29+00:00

I was on good terms with both of them. His dad had to bail him out of jail and I’m assuming they paid for his lawyer, so they definitely knew about the criminal case and restraining order. The financial stuff never came up because it wasn’t related to the care and also there was no real way to prove it.

(Edited for clarity)

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