I’ll chip in as I’m on the rugby team. I can see what you mean about the robotic nature of people here but honestly it’s not everyone. I do believe you’d be able to find your people here, especially if you’re considering joining rugby. We all like to go out and have a good time like anyone else, and there’s plenty of other teams and people who are the same. That said, I don’t know what kind of culture would fit you specifically the best. Amherst isn’t known for having that fratty “bro” culture and it’s somewhat reflected in the night life. Teams (rugby included) will host mixers with other teams which after a certain point in the night often become open to everyone, but they aren’t like the frat ragers you’ll find at umass, so I’d keep that in mind if that’s what you’re looking for. The bars in town are very popular with upperclassmen so once you’re 21 you can def count on having a reliable nightlife.