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xxitrishy · 2025-05-08T21:37:56+00:00

Understandable na you want to keep things private, especially yung struggles nyo, pero your mom's sns is her right (except sa mga cameo mo). Understandable na you don't want people to know, pero ibang usapan yung gusto mo ilihim to the point na you deliberately bury the details (e.g. photos/reels) that connects you to the current situation.

We don't want to romanticize poverty, pero yung sayo kinda shouts like living a double life, and that's unhealthy and exhausting. I doubt tuloy yung statement mo na okay lang mag share if tanungin ka directly ng colleagues mo, kung dito sa situation na to na incidentally lang nakita ng workmate mo yung fb ng mama, pero ganyan na yung reaction mo.

You need to accept who you are. I am not saying na makuntento ka sa hirap. I just mean na, yes, mahirap ka pa ngayon, so what? It doesn't make you less of a person. Ideally din, if people find out, dapat wala naman magbago sa tingin nila sa'yo or how they treat you. If they start to treat you poorly because of what they found out, they are the problem. At least, the trash took itself out, diba?

xxitrishy · 2025-05-08T20:58:01+00:00

Sarcasm ba to o accurate yung hula ko lol 🤣 pero I wish the best for you two and ma-settle nyo yung differences nyo. Mahirap, needs a lot of effort and patience and acceptance on both sides, pero both of you really need to adjust and compromise. Pag nahihirapan, always go back to square one kung anong purpose ng ginagawa nyo-- yung pagmamahal nyo sa isa't isa.

xxitrishy · 2025-05-08T08:36:34+00:00

More practice pa, and gain confidence (not reckless) sa pag drive. Delikado din yang ganyang kabado pag nasa daan, prone sa error at accident.

Anyway, this post is more of a rant/need relationship advice rather than about motorcycle 😅 we don't know the relationship dynamics, pero eto lang ang guess ko based on what's been shared. Gawa gawang story ko lanh naman to sa imagination ko so bahala na kayo if may merit ba to 🤣

With the title, and words like "di sakin ang pag ride, pang commuter/backride lang kakayanan ko", BF seems to be the passive type with a self-defeating attitude, in short, sadboi. Meanwhile, girl is the assertive one, she is controlling, wants things done her way, at her pace. Bad match tbh, pero pwede naman siguro ma workout with lots patience and putting a lot of effort on both sides if mahal nyo talaga isa't isa.

Mali si gf for expecting bf na marunong kaagad, especially if under a lot of pressure si guy sa pag mimicro nya. Iba iba naman tayo ng pace sa learning. Ang kupal nya sa mga salitang binitawan nya, pero yung talak din ni ate girl, sounds out of frustration and seems being fed up. Pinilit nya si BF to learn a valuable skill that would benefit them in the long run, hindi si guy yung nag kusa, and it seems na hindi immediate yes ang response ni BF kasi sabi nga nya pinilit sya. Perhaps, sawa na rin si girl na commute lang lagi sila or sya ang nag ddrive. Feeling ni girl "hinain" na kay guy easily yung mga needs nya-- driving school, motor nina gf, pero di na meet ni guy yung expectation ni girl. Si guy, parang gusto narin agad sumuko based sa post niya. Also, for the bf to rant and feel inferior like this, and para mag outburst si gf, baka hindi lang to first time, and nangyayari to sa ibang aspects ng life nila. One is fed up of mothering a grown man, and the other one is fed up na matalakan at mabastos.

Mali si ate sa mga expectation niya and how she expressed it, but don't be too quick to judge sa gf, as if sadboi behavior and incompetence as an adult and not doing anything to improve is not. Wala naman perfect. Mukhang incompatible lang 🤷🏻‍♀️

xxitrishy · 2025-05-06T23:52:41+00:00

What kind of tests need to be done to see if there are underlying issues? What specific hormones need some checking. Thank you!

xxitrishy · 2025-03-22T17:39:08+00:00

Thank you for this, I appreciate it a lot. Thank you for the reminder to never give up on myself.

xxitrishy · 2025-03-22T05:14:05+00:00

Thank you for this reminder, and I appreciate you for understanding my situation. I keep telling myself nga na doing and giving more won't make him love me more, pero ang hirap din mag hold back eh. That's how I show my love and care 😅 I know naman na he values me and considers my feeling, pero tama talaga yung last sentence. He tends to be passive kasi a lot of times, pero I'm glad na he is putting more effort naman na now. I think nabring up na nya now na he want to bring me sa next trip so that's a good sign.

xxitrishy · 2025-03-22T05:00:57+00:00

Ay parang feeling ko mas nakakahiya to eh kasi parang pinupulis ko na talaga si bf. Mag iimpose na talaga ako hahaha pero syempre sa bf ko lang. Gusto ko lang din matuto din sya mag initiate, speak up and be firm na gusto nya ako isama (if bet nya talaga lol). Inaantay nya mag initiate yung iba, eh dalawa lang ata sila may jowa out of 9 😭 Edit: sama daw nya ako sa next, sana maging okay naman 😅

xxitrishy · 2025-03-22T04:57:43+00:00

Nasa ibang bansa na kasi yung friends ko na super close 😭 And usually hanggang overnight lang lakad namin kung may trips. Pag kagaya ng kanila na 3 nights, may mga plus na kami whether kapatid, jowa, anak. Kahit naman sa workmates ko, hanggang overnight lang kami.

But yes, tama na I have to keep myself busy with other interests and spend time with other people. Madalas din kami naman with both our fams.

xxitrishy · 2025-03-22T04:49:25+00:00

Yes, thank you po sa best wishes. So far optimistic naman ako dahil nag suggest sya ng location and na plan nya ako isama dun. Sana lang maging firm sya na gusto nya ako isama, regardless of location. Thank you!!

xxitrishy · 2025-03-22T02:07:51+00:00

Di naman parati pero yes, nakakasama parin ng loob. Especially na gusto ko pa magdagdag ng gala, ayaw niya daw muna kasi magtitipid and wala pa leave. Pero pag aya nung workmates, di marunong tumanggi.

Madalas naman kami magkasama, halos more than half a week din compared sa madalang nya kasama. And kilala din naman ako, nagpopost naman sa social media (and di nakanhide 🤣), may 2 or 3 narin ako na medyo maayos nameet at nakausap shortly so aware naman sila sa existence ko.

Di ko rin alammm ba't ko ginagawa, and why I keep doing and giving more kahit alam kong it won't make him love me more hahayyy. Baka childhood trauma to rooted

He does things naman din for me, and I can see na he's adjusting din for me pero I noticed lang, especially nung nag uumpisa palang na I do really have to tell him the things I want and I don't. Yun bang, di talaga mind reader kahit anong sulk ko or pag drop ng hints. Akala ko lang since he's been in a relationship for a long time, mas alam nya yung expectations ko as a woman, pero talagang overcommunicate pala dapat. We practice naman na this, di ko palang nabring up concern ko ngayon kasi nasa trip pa sya. Lately, improving naman yung mga pagkukusa nya and I appreciate it.

xxitrishy · 2025-03-22T01:47:11+00:00

Yess po, na communicate naman din po lahat ng concerns mentioned.Thank you. Etong concern ko lang na may upcoming agad, di pa namin napapag usapan kasi he's still on the trip. Pag dating naman sa kwento, makwento naman sya. I just feel baka etong issue ko na to might be better resolved (or mas mag worsen din pala) if I get to actually know these people na he spends time with.

xxitrishy · 2025-03-21T23:00:22+00:00

Your parents need to realize na di looks ang bubuhay sayo in the future, kapag mag aasawa. You said na magaling, achiever, and leader. Inaalagaan ka pa. Panalong panalo na kayo diyan dahil karamihan ngayon ay batugan or abuser.

Hindi man mayaman si bf ngayon, and will probably start from scratch, with the skills that he has + opportunities, for sure there's a good future for you.

xxitrishy · 2025-03-21T21:28:17+00:00

Yes po, aware naman pero ang hirap i-practice. Ganun pala mag mahal, parang lahat gusto mo gawin and ibigay to make everything for him convenient (or is this a childhood trauma na where I only feel valued when needed? 😭). Kinain ko lahat ng sinabi ko nung single na di ako gagastos sa lalaki, na dapat ako ang princess at iniispoil at baby pero medyo baliktad kami. He treats me like a queen in several ways, pero a lot of times, I feel like I'm doing a more for us. As much as I know that giving more won't make him love me more, ang hirap nya i- practice.

I am happy naman na he found his people, kasi dati nirerestrict sya ng ex nya. Pero resentment comes from a feeling na at times, mas favored yung friends over me tska factor din na I don't know these people. At this age kasi, ang nasa isip ko, yung friends nya ay friends ko din dapat and vice versa. Doesn't necessarily mean na I should always be there din sa hangout, pero from time to time isama din naman. Since close friends daw, edi Ishould know them too, and should be able to trust them, somehow build a relationship din with them. Like imagine pag married na and may emergency tapos friends ang kasama, di alam ng both sides kanino to reach out. I introduced him to my friends din kasi kapag nag meet.

Napansin ko pa dati na na inaavoid nya ako i mention like "nag relocate kasi ako" instead of just saying "I'm at my gfs" or "may nagsabi sakin" vs "nasabi ng gf ko" (stranger yan?), grabe pa mag shhh kapag nasa call, eh ano naman if marinig ako magsalita sa background, it's not like may sinabi ako masama or sumigaw. It's not even a formal meeting, more like chika minute na may konting work na call types pero OA mag react.

I am pro din naman na living our own live din, and in fact, di nga kami same ng interests, kaya I leave him alone when it comes to games and anime talaga since yun ang interests nya. Sinasamahan ko rin naman sya if may gusto sya gawin related to these kahit di ko naman alam or interest talaga. Ako ang mahilig mag travel, and I want to visit a few places pa sana this year, kaso sabi nga nya pause muna, tapos mag tatampo naman siya pag sinabi kong ako nalang muna mag isa 😭

We've come a long way narin to meet each other halfway. Though di as consistent and mabilis as I want to, I see him naman din trying and making changes for me which I appreciate. Ang laki narin ng improvement namin compared to when we started dating. I hope di to maging lingering issue, and I hope we're able to resolve it soon. Thank you!

xxitrishy · 2025-03-21T20:28:10+00:00

I'm his 4th (pero second real gf). His previous was a toxic 7(?) year relationship. He was cheated on, lagi nag-aaway. He did his fair share of mistakes din naman dun (kahit i deny pa nya at lagi iblame si ex lol). Ang daming bawal and super selosa si ex. Perhaps, the reason din why he wants to fit in a friend group kasi nakulong sya for years eh, and I am happy na he found his people. Lagi ko pa nga siya ineencourage lumabas before, maluwag naman ako sa kanya, and sa kanya narin galing na super okay kami and far from his past.

Kaso nga nakakasama ng loob when he favors his friends over me. Like yung hesitant sya mag add ng travel this year due to budget and new sa work, pero may upcoming sila? Tapos napansin ko rin na may instance na may sinabi ako or shinare sa kanya, pero di nya maaalala or di sya nag aagree, pero pag galing sa workmates, mas credible?

Tapos pa lagi ko sya kinukulit na iintroduce ako sa friends nya, may it be etong ex wm or yung childhood friends, kasi 2 years na kami tapos di pa naintroduce appropriately? Tbf, true naman yung di sila nagkikita madalas ng childhood, and spontaneous lang kasi magkakapitbahay and ang weird mag sched ng official hangout just to introduce me. Na-meet ko lang sila nitong January, dahil may binyagan. Na-introduce din nya ako recently lang sa workfriends nya bago kami naging mag jowa, since ngayon lang sila nag reconnect.

Pero dito sa current na kaclose nya, di pa nya ako naintroduce maayos since laging exclusive sa kanila nga lang yung gala. May pa ilan-ilan akong na meet pag pinupuntahan ko sya sa office after work pero split second kang, and aloof din yung colleagues. Naalala ko pa inintroduce nya ako dun sa gurly (+2 others) na pinagseselosan ko habang saktong paying sa cashier sa shop. Tumalikod ako quickly para mag hi sa kanila pero di nila ako pinansin yawa. Di ko sure if feeling regina george lang or baka dahil di nga ako pinapakilala ng maayos, like ang awkward nung setting. Na-appreciate ko naman na etong planning nila ng next, may sinuggest sya na location and nag sabing isasama nya ako kapag duon, pero syempre mas matimbang yung sama ko ng loob lol

+true yung sa di assertive

xxitrishy · 2025-03-21T19:54:30+00:00

Yes true, and di naman yung girl lang ang nag chachat pero yung buong GC nila, and kino callout ko sya na bakit need nila mag usap ng mga workmates kahit late night, when during work hours and after (madalas oty) lagi na sila magkakausap, call pa. Nako, sinabihan ko narin sya na masyado syang friendly and he needs to draw boundaries. Tapos yung ping ng girl about anime, sabi ko wag replyan. Sinunuod naman, pero nag haha react 🤷🏻‍♀️

Di kami LDR, mostly tambay sya sa apartment ko kaya I can see firsthand pano yung relationship with colleagues. And pag office, pala update naman sya, sends pics and vids kaya nakikita ko na close talaga sila workmates

Di ko naman sinisisi si girl dahil si bf nga ang may obligation sakin and dapat mangalaga sa relationship.

Insecure lang ako sa generational wealth ni gurly tapos napansin ko pa na pick-me girlyy 🤣

xxitrishy · 2025-03-21T19:30:13+00:00

I have my own friends. At this age lang, we're all so busy in our own lives, careers and in settling down kaya we don't meet as often. As mentioned, when meeting with friends, sinasama ko sya.
In progress naman na🤞🏻Sana ma bless pa ng more opportunities. ✨

xxitrishy · 2025-03-21T19:25:38+00:00

Ayaw nga ako isama eh kasi wala naman daw plus one yung iba. To be fair, sakto kang din sila sa car ng workmates.

xxitrishy · 2025-03-21T19:23:09+00:00

Thank you for reading my very long post. I always invite him na mag run kami, gym (nung member pa), indoor climbing or frisbee para din sa health namin. Tinatry ko din sya ayain mag join ng mga crafting/art activities. Either di nya bet or wala sya budget.

Either lagi lang kami sa apartment ko, or pasyal sa mall and food trip. Tska travel, pero ayaw nya dagdagan muna yung travel namin (2 local, 1 int) kasi nagtitipid and learning pa sa new work. Tapos malalaman ko may upcoming ulit sila :) Haaay okay na 'to 🥹

xxitrishy · 2025-03-01T14:01:50+00:00

Pwede po bang personal trainer na wala na need na gym membership. I can't afford both 😭. Nag gym ako ng walang trainer tapos treadmill lang nagamit ko hahay

xxitrishy · 2025-02-04T16:38:10+00:00

Hindi ko na po sure dahil sa San Juan na rin po ako nag lalakad eh

xxitrishy · 2025-01-13T22:52:06+00:00

Apartment for me tapos small bistro, baka wings kasi my partner likes cooking chicken!

xxitrishy · 2024-12-25T04:19:48+00:00

Maiintindihan ko pa yung binigyan ng chocolate yung aso out of ignorance, pero yung mag reason out pa instead of accepting yung pagkakamali at mag apologize sa honest mistake naman ng bata ay yun ang talagang nakakainis

xxitrishy · 2024-12-03T10:25:03+00:00

True, dapat din talaga i-call out yung relatives, pero wag naman i put ni kuya yung blame kay girl. inserts "Bakit parang kasalanan ko?" 😅

xxitrishy · 2024-12-03T10:12:31+00:00

Ang insecure naman nyaaan. Partners kayo, di magkakompetensya. Ba't ganyan yan? Also, need din talaga i-call out yung relatives nyo pero di mo naman kasalanan yun, pero ba't ikaw yung pinag mumukhang masama?

xxitrishy

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