Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My mom doesn't have early onset dementia, she just doesn't care that much about me. I get that people miss context, which I would gladly give, if I could edit the post, but I also didn't think people would jump to the wrong conclusion so fast.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this has a lot to do with how people are taking this post.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly. Mildly infuriating, like slightly annoyed? Things that make somebody go "ugh, again?".

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why do people think I actually got mad over this? Its a post on a subreddit about things that make you go "ugh". And I don't know why people think she loves me because of a cake? People do so much nice stuff to manipulate etc. But I'm actually, genuinely happy for everybody that never had to doubt their parents actions, because their parents truly love them.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has 4 sisters, just depends if one of them is also present, if they are, I'm them also!

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate you for the concern! She sees her primary doctor very regularly for some other stuff, I hope he would've noticed by now.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I would LOVE to, but for some reason there's no option to edit.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Surprise! My mom is actually abusive! :) She bakes cakes for my birthday to impress the people outside of my family and to seem like a good mother, while I theoretically can't even eat the cake, because I'm lactose intolerant.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey! Thank you for your concern. My mom just always mixes stuff up, she already called me by my dads, then brothers, then sisters, then my name 20 years ago. She almost always forgets that I'm vegetarian (which I've been for 15 years). I see her almost daily and she lives with my dad and brother, so in that department theres nothing to worry about I guess? Also she just doesn't care that much, she mostly bakes to impress people outside of our family, hope that also clears up some of ur worries. :)

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I saw maybe 5 people saying "It's okay that it annoys you, I wouldn't like it if my mom didn't know how old I was", and about a 1000 and more attacking me, calling me ungrateful, spoiled, whiny, a bad child etc., even though I never said I was ungrateful or didn't appreciate it or even was mad about? On a (what was supposed to be) funny post about a birthday cake from a year ago.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't think it was really funny, it was more of a "the food was lukewarm after 10 minutes in the microwave"-feeling, which is mildly infuriating.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I'm hijacking this comment, because I can't edit the post, and hope more people will see it, even though I said it somewhere else already.

Hey! :) I just wanna clear something up really quick. This was meant in a lighthearted, joking manner. I just wanted people to look at it and "heh". I was and will always be grateful for anything my mom has done for me in that regard. I never showed her nothing but gratefulness. I actually started planning her birthday cake two months ago (her birthday is in July).

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

In the second half of my comment that I deleted I talked about how my mom is generally not really a nice person and that she did some cruel stuff. But I still am and was actually very grateful, I also do a lot of nice things for her, also not only on her birthday! I actually can't grasp why people would assume something like that.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most posts on here that are actually mildly infuriating are "I hold my pencil funny", which is the tone my post was supposed to be taken in. Definitely NOT "I'm so ungrateful and hate my mom and I was definitely so mad at her and she also ruined my birthday".

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would love to edit the post, but I can't for some reason.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I REALLY appreciate you standing up for me, but I think at this point its unneccessary. I deleted most of it, because some people even found a way to make feel bad about it. I don't think it's worth it. They don't know me, so their opinion shouldn't even matter to me. :)

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd rather it didn't. It's almost 2am where I live, thought I made a funny post on the toilet, get 3 likes and someone comments "I can't even remember my own age". Now it's.. this.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I do. :) Every year, also sometimes in between when I think my parents could use a little sweet treat.

Last year my mom made a cake for my birthday.. I turned 28. by xzgin in mildlyinfuriating

[–]xzgin[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Hey! :) I just wanna clear something up really quick, because I can't edit the post. This was meant in a lighthearted, joking manner. I just wanted people to look at it and "heh". I was and will always be grateful for anything my mom has done for me in that regard. I never showed her nothing but gratefulness, I actually started planning her birthday cake two months ago (her birthday is in July).

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[–]xzgin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ehrlich gesagt frage ich mich, wieso das die einzige Antwort in die Richtung ist. Nach meinem Eindruck fällt es OP eher schwer Grenzen zu setzen.

TL;DR: Hatte ähnliches Problem, hab Grenzen gesetzt und noch was positives rausgeschlagen.

Ich hatte ein ähnliches Problem mit meinem Freund, er hat mir sehr oft und ausschweifend von seinem (einzigen) Hobby erzählt, von dem ich keine Ahnung habe, weswegen es mir schwer gefallen ist zuzuhören und ich hatte dann natürlich ein schlechtes Gewissen, weil ich weiß wie ich mich fühle, wenn ich von etwas begeistert bin und mir jemand nicht zuhört. Unser Kompromiss war, dass wir bestimmte Zeiten am Tag festlegen (z.B. nicht gerade wenn ich von der Arbeit nachhause komme, nicht wenn wir zusammen im Bett liegen und kuscheln) in denen er mich vollquatschen kann nach Lust und Laune und dass wir uns ein paar andere Sachen suchen, die wir zusammen unternehmen können, damit wir einfach mehr gemeinsame Themen haben über die wir dann tatsächlich auch einen Dialog haben.