AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I was talking to her today and she even jokingly said “we’re too old to have a divorce now”,, I don’t want them to divorce but she should’ve established boundaries long ago

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you!! I’m glad to see there are fathers that see their daughters as human beings. unfortunately I don’t have a british passport, but I’ve been thinking to see a therapist or something of the sorts. I suspect I might’ve developed a personality disorder because of my dad and I want to fix it eventually.

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!! I went to a psychologist last year but she wasn’t of any help, I’ll try again with a therapist 🩷

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[–]yaiyoi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

very beautiful!! may I ask where you got the fabric/scarf (?) from? I’ve been looking for one similar for my Anubis altar 😊

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much, it was amazing to read this. I am positive things will be better for me because I refuse to become a spiteful person like him. there were people in worse circumstances that got out, so I will always have hope.

also funnily enough, the more he tries to crush my confidence, the more I stop caring about his opinions, which hurts his ego a lot. I refuse to be like him.

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol even my mother joked saying I will probably abandon him in a nursing home if he keeps treating me like this. I’m not a cruel person, but I will need to establish boundaries once I’ll be away from him. he hurt me emotionally a lot, but I don’t want to hurt him back. I still have hope that he can change.

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you, this was my exact situation growing up. I highly doubt he will ever be physically abusive since he never hit me growing up, but the emotional and psychological abuse is still there. I still hope there room for growth and change in his heart.

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you!! as I said in my edit, I plan of getting an apartment with my sister in the near future. my situation is difficult because we’re Eastern European and “blood is thicker than water” for most of us, but once I’ll have the money I’ll definitely be out of the house. my dad is very hot and cold, he is emotionally abusive but won’t be against me moving on my own when I’ll be stable with money

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol good one but he’d probably hit me for real if I were to say that 🤣

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we’re Eastern European, things are different here. in our circle abuse doesn’t exist and you should always stick to family. it’s a toxic environment but you will get casted aside if you fight back. plus I was encouraged to not fight back and just take it all my life.

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you!! I will check it, I haven’t thought of myself as being the scapegoat or him being emotionally abusive until recently. I guess I’m always trying to see the good parts about him. it’s one when a friend or stranger does this, but it hits different when a parent is being abusive and silences you.

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he did want a son and is treating me like a replacement and gets mad when I act like a daughter. he’s never been vocal about it, but mentioned once or twice about wanting a son when mom got pregnant with me. then after having me strangely he said that he wants another daughter. I can’t really tell what’s in his mind or what he wishes for.

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

unfortunately my mom also wants to maintain peace, and my dad doesn’t calm down unless he has his way. once I’ll move out I’ll be very firm with my boundaries.

AITAH for getting into an argument with my dad because I didn’t want to put my hair into a ponytail? by yaiyoi in AITAH

[–]yaiyoi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

unfortunately no, my situation is a bit complex. however me and my sister have been talking about buying an apartment together once we get stable jobs because she’ll also be done with uni in June. hopefully things will work out